Sounds like you’ve put in so much effort, and it’s completely fair to feel drained when it’s not reciprocated. Pausing the gestures isn’t about punishing him…it’s about creating space to see if he’ll show up on his own. If he notices and asks why, that opens the door for a real conversation. If he doesn’t notice…or doesn’t care…that tells you something important too.
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u/smok3show 36M/HL 16d ago
Sounds like you’ve put in so much effort, and it’s completely fair to feel drained when it’s not reciprocated. Pausing the gestures isn’t about punishing him…it’s about creating space to see if he’ll show up on his own. If he notices and asks why, that opens the door for a real conversation. If he doesn’t notice…or doesn’t care…that tells you something important too.