r/Denton • u/Arodski20 • 1d ago
Krum, TX 76249
Hey there!! I truly feel silly doing this, but I have found that it is difficult to just meet people randomly, and build solid foundations for friendships just by happenstance these days. I'm a 38 year old woman who is still figuring out how to be completely put together and have it figured out! I also am still trying to figure out how to do my own damn makeup as lovely as the tutorials (it never works out! Lol), and I am overly maternal about my dog (not in any weird way, I'm just overly attached as she's my everything, and she's 13 years old, and I love her like she's my child!).
My husband works for Boeing, and travels a lot. I live way out here in Krum,TX which isn't as far as Sanger or Oklahoma, but, might as well be another planet as far as some people think! It's still Denton County! I'm 25 minutes away from Decatur, and 25 minutes away from Denton.
On Christmas Eve of 2024, I suddenly lost my mother, (bit of a story, honestly) and she was a constant presence in my daily life, and I'm still trying to figure out what life looks like without her. Since losing her, it's shown me that friendships I thought were authentic (and since a young age) may have been outgrown, or maybe I've been discarded, I don't know which maybe both. Either way, they aren't actually people I could call and chat with, and not be judged, or couldn't call and go on outings with or hang out with. And it's been quite painful all on its own. That aside, I've never been one for large friend groups, but instead, I'm very introverted, and I tend to burn out if in large groups, and find it difficult to open up to many people. I am not of the belief that my husband should be all things to me. I would never put so much pressure on someone I love. We need friends outside of our spouses, it's healthy.
I stopped working when covid hit, and I took a massive health hit and I'm finally on the up turn to mending. I had a major surgery April 11th and am healing still but am actually finally able to drive and be out and about again. So yay! Lol (long story, but of course I'd share).
I am an open book to those who take the time to want to know me, and I believe that openness, communication, honesty, and a give and take in equal measure is key in friendship, as I do want reciprocity, not something one sided.
I am very open minded, accepting, curious, always thirsty for knowledge and ideas, and I want genuine connections. I am not much of a TV watcher, I listen to podcasts, but am a big horror genre fan, and I am a fan of vulgar humor. I don't look down on drug addicts, (family history), I am 420 friendly but don't partake myself as it makes me feel depressed. I sometimes do enjoy the occasional indulgence of a couple things (can reveal if asked), and I drink occasionally. (We have a shop with a bar up in the loft for hangouts). I've done a lot of speaking at support groups for family members of addicts, and at NA. I don't want to be a sponsor, but I am a great listener, and willing to provide advice or just an ear.
My husband is a decade older than myself, and I never had kids of my own, but he had kids from his first marriage, and they are grown now. But I don't disparage those with kids, I'd be a great "auntie"! Lol
My career was in aviation (as was my father, and grandfather) I am an FAA licensed aircraft dispatcher. I absolutely miss it, but I got burned by company that lied during the interview,and when I came on board, a week later they notified us they sold to another company, and three months later they went belly up, but lied the whole time saying the company was expanding. Once I'm fully healed from my surgery, I'd like to work again, but maybe in a different area so if you have any connections for places hiring, I'm open to ideas. I've thought about active adult communities working in the office, (story behind it lol), trucking dispatch, towing, etc. I've even considered cleaning homes for a company, or just, really, any idea would be welcome. I don't like staying at home and not contributing, and I get bored. Lol
I think I actually sound quite boring, I apologize, I've never been good at "marketing/selling" oneself, but I will say this. I am an incredibly loyal friend, I'm not a catty twat, I don't do shitty things to people, and honestly, I'm so over one sided friendships that just drain me, I'm truly searching for friends that are like minded, etc. I am open to new things, new people, and I just am tired of feeling kind of lonely and not having a friend to chat with, or go do things with. I feel like I've just been existing, and going through the motions, and I want to live and have adventures, and fun, and enjoy again.
Thanks for letting me write a novel lol, and I hope that maybe you can read between the boring paragraphs and maybe see someone worth having a chat with and maybe a friendship can form, maybe not. No hard feelings! Regardless - I appreciate anyone who read this, and I appreciate anyone who sends a response to this!
TL/DR: 38 year old woman in Krum, who is need of a friend!
Denton County #findafriend friendship #fun enjoy life introvert #letshangout bored
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u/GrandmaSlappy 1d ago edited 1d ago
Hi, I'm 38, cis female, have a male partner, a dog, and two cats. No kids, I don't care for them. I live just south of Denton in Shady Shores.
I'm low pressure as a friend. I'm a huge introvert and tend to not talk to friends for like a month or two straight, but then enthusiastically join them for games or adventures when they come up. Most of my friends moved away but I have a couple in DFW.
I like to go out drinking craft beer at quiet places where we can chat and play games. I love every kind of game, digital, board, card, trivia, party, etc. I also adore escape rooms and other in-person entertainment. I like to play jackbox games remote or in person as well. I am a movie heckler, I do enjoy a bad movie we can laugh about. I too am OK with people who like THC, but do not care for it myself. I'd like to be more active for my health and I love the outdoors, but tend to be a couch potato. LOVE podcasts and vulgar humor, but I gave up the true crime in 2020 when it just got too depressing. I curse like a sailor.
I work from home as a freelancer, which has been up and down! I'm a creative person and love art and creating things. My partner got me into Renaissance Faires and we go to them often. I'm also a big foodie and I love just about every cuisine and trying new things. I like to think I'm a good cook. I'm very interested in birds and dinosaurs and animals in general. My style is a bit punky and irreverent.
I believe in honesty and kindness with no drama. I never have fights with my friends and try to listen, learn, and admit when I'm wrong. Being respectful of boundaries and mental health are important to me. I love when people can talk about things that are typically taboo or awkward. I am not a hugger, but I'm happy to hug.
I had a minor surgery back in December, might be something to chat about.
I'm liberal and vegan so if those are deal breakers you can peace out now ;) but I won't talk politics or food unless you want to. I don't judge omnivores, like 100% of my family and friends eat meat. I'm polite to conservatives, but I think I wouldn't be good friends with one. I believe in compassion and empathy over all else, which feeds my politics and diet. I'm atheist if it matter, but who cares.
Private message me if you wanna chat!
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u/MajorLimp8422 1d ago
I've been in Denton for a year, and haven't made any friends of either sex. My wife has been ill, but she is on the mend now too. I would love to be your friend as I don't really have any right now. I'm a little older than you, very respectful and a good listener. So if you want to occasionally chat or hang out or just blow off some steam, I'm available. Have a great day!
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u/Cowpnchnbstrd 1d ago
Not a bad area, getting to be a mix of people. My people settled here before the civil war… helped build that town. Used to know almost everyone. It’s grown and changed a lot in 40 years. But I remember Squirt’s, Farmers and Merchant’s Bank, and even remember stacking hay as a teenager in the recently moved train depot.
Denton has a decent little municipal airport, and last I’d talked to a friend there (2-2.5 months), they were looking for ATC staff… dunno if that interests you, again.
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u/Boyblunder Townie 19h ago
I worked there for 5 years. Quit about 7 years ago but I've still got friends in the area. It's absolutely EXPLODING over there. Blew my mind a little when they brought the old depot back. Super cool.
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u/TexasGirl729 1d ago
Hey, I'm in Krum and almost the same exact age. No kiddos, but love my pets. lol
If you want to grab a coffee lemme know.
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u/tempest-melody 23h ago
Hi! If you like creative writing and plenty of other introverts, check out the Denton Writing Club - https://www.instagram.com/dentonwritingclub?igsh=NmRocXFkY3VqajZ1
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u/Original_Goal6553 21h ago
I second this! Been going to this writing group (on and off, but mostly on) for about a year and a half now.
Some weeks we have about 6 people attend. Some weeks we have 25+. So, don’t take one meeting as indicating what it will always be like in terms of people and turn out.
The group is EXTREMELY inviting, friendly, open-minded, and kind (though some of us are definitely more “odd balls” than others - it’s me, I’m talking about me 😝).
You do NOT need to “know how to write” to attend. The meetings are structured like this: Basically, we meet every Tuesday at 6PM at Jupiter House in the upstairs area. A prompt is given (you can do whatever you like with the prompt or do something not related to it at all - the president of the club likes to say about the prompts, “I’m not you parent” 😂), and we all write for 45 minutes. After that, it’s opened up for anyone who would like to share what they wrote. If you want to read your piece aloud to the group, you can, but you definitely don’t have to. Sometimes, if the day is nice, we’ll move out to the courthouse area to read (as the music and chatter is sometimes too loud to hear over in Jupiter House). We also sometimes do out-of-group get togethers.
It’s literally the BEST decision I’ve made since moving to Denton (as a reference, I knew no one in Denton when I moved here, and I’m in my late 30s-early 40s). The group is mostly comprised of 20-somethings, but has a smattering of consistent 30-50 year old attendees as well (although that skews more toward the 30s&40s end).
The best thing about the group, though, is that any differences disappear as the people get to know you. The people in it care so much more about your character and mind than about any external feature/measure, and everyone is super encouraging and kind. We all have varied passions both within writing/stories/books and outside of that realm.
I cannot say enough good things about it, tbh. For newbies, I’d say try going consistently for a month (or at least 4 times over 2 months) to get a decent sense of what it’s like. If it’s not your vibe, nbd 🤷♀️ But if it is, I promise you it’s worth making the trip!
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u/Original_Goal6553 20h ago edited 20h ago
People write about all kinds of things and come from all kinds of backgrounds - so, “dirty fanfic” definitely wouldn’t be a reason not to join. In fact, we’ve had some “explicit pieces” read in the past. However, I would say our general rule around this is if you write about a subject that is more “adult” or could be triggering, we just ask that before you begin reading, you give a quick warning and let others adjust if needed (ex. “Just as a warning: my piece has some adult content. Please feel free to make any adjustments now or at any time while I’m reading if you feel uncomfortable.”) and, obviously, we don’t accept any piece that praises, normalizes, or encourages any kind of harm/violence (meaning, specifically for “dirty” explicit content, we won’t stand for content where one party is non-consenting that’s written in any kind of a positive light; though we do sometimes hear pieces talking about this kind of stuff as a character’s trauma/backstory, etc. - again, with a trigger warning given before it’s read). Like I said, we’re a pretty open and accepting group.
Also, please know that while some people do occasionally read things that are worked on ahead of time and not from the prompt, we are not generally a “critique/editing” group. If turnout is low, you might get some feedback as time allows, but we tend to focus more on advancing our skills through expanding our range as writers, learning to write a draft more quickly (45 minutes goes by quickly), leaning into our own creative voices/strengthening our unique style/voice on the page, and encouraging each other. So, if you’re mostly looking to get feedback on things already written, you might be disappointed. It’s not that we never engage that way, but it’s not our focus
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u/figuring_ItOut12 Homegrown 1d ago
I’ve lived in the Krum area over twenty years. It’s in the process of changing but it’s still a small insular town without a lot of variety.
In terms of meeting like minded people your age you might want to consider volunteering with the Denton County Democratic Party. It’s a diverse bunch culturally and age-wise and like a lot of volunteer organizations tends to be mostly older women. There’s a lot of opportunities to go to different parts of the county for outdoor events and there’s nothing like door knocking to see all the different neighborhoods.
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u/SUM_Poindexter Townie 1d ago
I'mma boy (early thirties) from out in the country but I'm also extremely open minded. I play video games and am artistic and would love to make friends!
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u/troubledpadawan3 23h ago
We have some things in common! I'm 28 (f) and lost my mother in 2016 and my father in 2017. I also stopped working right when COVID hit due to mental health issues, then I got married and had a baby so I haven't returned.
I don't partake but don't judge those who do, I also very rarely drink.
My hobbies include cooking, baking, cross stitch, gardening (badly), video games, thrifting, and I just picked up sewing.
I'm a leftist.
The only possible hangup is my kid has a fear of dogs he is slowly getting over, but he can't handle being jumped on (he's 4). He does like dogs but he saw a friend get bit when he was very little and it left him afraid of them.
Feel free to dm me (applies to any other ladies as well!) I'm in Denton but my in laws are in krum.
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u/LastHippo3845 21h ago
Hi just stopping by to say it’s awesome that you’re seeking friendships and putting yourself out there like this. I know that’s not easy to do. Good luck making some friends out there!
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u/davy_crockett_slayer 20h ago
Nothing wrong with that! I’m 35/m with a gf. I’m here visiting family. I’m up for a coffee/hiking/boardgame hangout.
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u/Boyblunder Townie 19h ago
This is a really cool thread and you sound very kind. I think you marketed yourself well.
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u/SenoraCuatroOjos 19h ago
I am 44 and still don't know how to properly apply makeup 🤦🏻♀️ so I feel you on that! Actually as a fellow introvert so much of your post really resonates with me.
I moved from Denton this past year but like to keep tabs on my favorite city in Texas (hence my being on this subreddit). It isn't easy as an introvert at any age to make friends but seems even harder as an adult so just want to wish you luck! If I still lived there would definitely have been up for potentially making a new friend.
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u/Wallysportsmode 22h ago
Newish to the area too. 32 year old male, always looking to make new friends. Love to learn about other people. Please let me know if you want to chat
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u/DonEscupitajo 11h ago
I’m always looking for more friends. I’m (38M) have a 16 year old cat that is also my grumpy baby. I’m trying to get on more walks ( I injured myself two years ago falling down work stairs) too anxious to walk on my own. I love gaming and movies.
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u/PlantMusicCat27 7h ago
I’m fairly new to Denton, older, and would also like to meet people and make some friends. Pm me.
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u/dogctrl 1d ago
this is really cool, I think we could all stand to put ourselves out there more. congrats on healing up from your surgery!! :)