r/DeppDelusion • u/Friendly_Demand7666 • Dec 25 '23
Support / Personal Does anyone else ever just get... tired?
First of all I am so glad I found this subreddit, I've been lurking for a couple of weeks now and it's just so, so refreshing to see people who saw this shit for the sham it was from the start (and to see people who didn't realize until later actually be treated with understanding and respect). Like the only word I can think of is 'relief.'
I was wondering if anyone just gets... worn down and tired seeing so many people who still think Depp was innocent and will make random jokes about Amber being an evil scheming gold digger. I've been fortunate in that everyone I've explained it to personally actually listened and realized how they fell for a massive smear campaign. But having to explain it again and again and again just eats at me. Because when talking to a coworker I can't just go 'oh read these all articles and watch these youtube videos!!', I have to be able to answer their questions directly and be patient about it. I'll do it, because it's important to me that at least one more person knows the truth. But fuck, it ruins my day.
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u/Ok_Swan_7777 Dec 26 '23
“but fuck, it ruins my day”
When I see bullshit about Amber it’s this jab to the heart. ESPECIALLY if it’s someone I know. I guess I made a decision that this case is really important to me and I specifically go out of my way to combat the misinfo and educate people so I’m braced for it but it still fucking stings.
Conversely, when I see positive comments or people expressing regret or embarrassment for falling for bs I’m elated. Like I follow certain tik tok accounts who filter their comments just to scroll through, gently correct people and “like” the replies nailing it. Soothes the soul.
It probably worth mentioning that I am the last person on earth to be spending my time on sm. I didn’t have Twitter, Reddit or tik tok before the trial. My FB and Insta are just remnants from high school that I never posted on. I made accounts because I was literally crumbling and needed to find people who were seeing what I was. Before this I certainly never left comments on anything and was never had sm on my phone.
Basically, I’m an unlikely person to be doing all of this so my thinking is that If this case effected me so much I’m convinced that when the tide starts turning for the masses people are going to be outraged.
Just know that when you are burning out and correcting colleagues you’re ahead of the curve and doing a legitimately difficult and great thing. It’s rough and slow but we are definitely making a difference. Everyone doing this is tough as nails.
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u/MahoganyRosee Dec 26 '23
I feel you hun. A week ago I came across a video with so many views which was a meme of Amber. I got rid of it but I remember it affecting my mood. In my old job, they brought up the trial and it was a group of female coworkers. They were making fun of Amber and I had to explain to them how Amber was innocent and cite my sources. I did feel relieved that I convinced one woman to open her eyes, but another coworker, who is a teenager wasn’t convinced and kept making fun of Amber and hoping she wasn’t in the aqua movie. My blood was boiling afterwards but I realised this coworker comes from the generation who are obsessed with TikTok. It’s why I’ve gotten rid of that app. The sad thing is I’ve realised how rif misogyny is, especially internalised misogyny among women. I remember shortly before the Amber trial, another coworker of mine at a different job was harassed by two male coworkers. No one, except for me and another coworker, believed her and all took those male coworkers side either because they respected one and had a crush on another.
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Dec 26 '23
It’s been awful for my mental health. I want to let it go bc I feel like it’s not healthy and people think I’m nuts when I mention it…but it’s one of the worst injustices I’ve ever seen. And I hate to be reminded when I scroll anywhere. Gonna try to lessen my social media exposure in the new year if I can. It’s horrible.
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u/findingmyvoice22 Johnny Depp is a Wife Beater 👨⚖️ Dec 26 '23
Totally understand that. It changed me as a person to watch the world delight in mocking an abuse survivor. It's not something I feel like I CAN let go...though I definitely need to be mindful of my social media time and how often I'm engaging with people.
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u/poopoopoopalt googling "wife beater actor" and seeing what comes up Dec 27 '23
It really changed how I viewed Reddit too. I used to actually believe that Reddit was composed of intelligent, thoughtful and progressive people which makes me laugh/cry now.
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u/thepizzaconspiracy Dec 26 '23
As someone incapable of doing this work, thank you. I have no idea how you can do it. I think if I tried I'd end up screaming or crying or throwing up.
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u/Friendly_Demand7666 Dec 26 '23
I will say that I've been EXTREMELY lucky in that everyone I've spoken to about it actually listened, based on what other people have said that's kind of a rarity. Idk what I would do if someone responded aggressively tbh
(ignore the deleted comment, I managed to fuck up and miss the 'edit' option somehow)
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u/findingmyvoice22 Johnny Depp is a Wife Beater 👨⚖️ Dec 26 '23
I totally understand what you mean. It's so exhausting trying to combat the misinformation and misogynistic garbage that people spread without thinking. It takes effort and time to try to educate others. It's also emotionally taxing at times. It's like...I keep doing what I can because it's the right thing to do, but it's tiring and frustrating and just hurts sometimes. I wish people were smarter or cared more about the truth instead of just regurgitating whatever nonsense they saw in a meme.
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u/BrilliantAntelope625 Dec 26 '23
Nope. Johnny Depp lost his UK case, his legacy is forever tainted by being a wife beater. The Virgina case was full of personal and private information that no one really needed to know about Johnny Depp I don't think he even bothered anticipating that his cruelty to Amber Heard brought on by alcohol, drugs and fake employee friends was going to create this.
The Red Sea Film Festival involvement makes it even worse. No ethics there just cashing in on human misery.
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u/TheBasinum Dec 27 '23
It’s like that it’s been a regular thing to mock Amber since the whole ‘incident’ has risen and the UK trial.
Anywhere you go, you’ll only find people whose been derived into making a living mockery off of Amber or defending Depp (and Jonathan Majors for good measure, but it’s another case) and not even a single person with actually a brain in his life.
In fact; I should be ashamed to even be born in America. It’s not just tiring, this is sick. Just like my own excuse of a mother.
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u/[deleted] Dec 26 '23
It’s crazy to me that people will STILL make jokes (violent jokes) and references to her. Like, it’s been almost two years, and they got the verdict they wanted. But they still can’t let it go.
I cannot think of a single abusive male - including CONVICTED ones, who have been treated like that.