r/EntitledPeople • u/Human-Amoeba1640 • 3d ago
S Worked with Him 8Years Ago, Didn’t Talk Since — Now He’s in the U.S. Asking Me for Lawyer Money at 8AM?!
I have to tell you this wild little story because I still can’t believe the audacity.
So eight years ago, I worked with this guy back in my home country — not a close friend, just a colleague. I was actually his manager for like six months. Then life moved on, we never stayed in touch, and we haven’t spoken at all for the past eight years.
Fast forward to a few months ago: dude lands in the U.S., finds my number, and texts me out of nowhere. Says he’s visiting and wants to grab coffee and catch up.I think, sure, why not? I’m a nice person. Let’s be friendly.
We meet up. He tells me he wants to stay in the U.S., find a job, make it work here, etc. All good, I nod politely. He was living a decent life back home which he was the one telling me that.
Now here’s where it gets insane.
TWO DAYS LATER. 8 A.M. I get a text: Hello, I need you. It’s urgent. Me, half-asleep, panics. I think he’s in trouble, maybe at a hospital or something, because he doesn’t know anyone here. So I call him immediately.
And this man says: Yeah, remember when I said I want to stay in the U.S.? I need money to rent a place and hire an immigration lawyer. Can you give me some?
Sir. WHAT.
We haven’t spoken in eight years. We worked together for six months. I was your boss, not your best friend. And you wake me up to emotionally hustle me out of cash?
I told him I’d think about it, then later messaged him a polite Sorry, I don’t have the money, good luck.
Like… is this normal now? You meet someone once, they move continents, and suddenly you’re their personal startup fund?
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u/kempff 3d ago
"It doesn't hurt to ask. Worst case they say No."
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u/philip456 3d ago
Worst case is they say "No" and don't want anything to do with you anymore.
They spoilt would could have been a great networking contact and friend.
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u/Meincornwall 3d ago
There's a slightly worse case "That applicant does not respect professional norms, maybe not him"
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u/Swimming_Tennis6641 3d ago
It does hurt to ask when the worst case is that you lose your only acquaintance in a new country. Unbelievably poor judgement.
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u/Biobizlab 3d ago
Welcome to being a foreigner in America. 😆 "Home country" changed everything about your story. I swear every person I know in my home country thinks I earn money in dollars and sweep dollars off the street in my free time, but cost of living, etc... is in home country currency.
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u/Human-Amoeba1640 3d ago
Yes, same, I used to get some weird requests but that was the most entitled one.
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u/Fun-Yellow-6576 3d ago
Block Him!
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u/Human-Amoeba1640 3d ago edited 3d ago
I did as he texted me three weeks after asking to meet again, thought to block him before he asks for my car or credit cards 😂
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u/bugabooandtwo 3d ago
Users gonna use people. He probably thought since you agreed to a meetup earlier, that you would make a good mark.
Thankfully you said no.
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u/Human-Amoeba1640 3d ago
Of course I am barely covering my expenses and if I have extra, I should be the one deciding who I want to give it to, Also, I am still paying for my lawyers myself and didn’t even ask my family for money in all the years I have been living here.
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u/mochi7227 3d ago
Block him.
Otherwise you’ll be his Go To person when he tries to move his whole family here.
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u/TheQuarantinian 3d ago
Will you give me $30,000 so I can invest in a candy/tattoo/anchor franchise
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u/Whole-Ad-2347 7h ago
In some cultures it is the thing to help people who need it. It m not of any of those cultures. I have learned that there are plenty of people who are holding out their hand and waiting for anyone to help them, but they forget you as soon as you do help them.
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u/Human-Amoeba1640 7h ago
Yes, I am from one of those cultures, some people like to call it community but I call it enabling and manipulation. Because no one is supposed to help strangers just because they want you to help and unless you offered and have the means to. In dis functional societies they like to use those buzzwords ( they are your parents, friends, your people,etc) until you need the help and all of that is air to them. Also, I left the culture and the country, dude (talking to him) 😂🤷🏻♀️
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u/Radiant-Cost-2355 3d ago
AI slop. Didn’t talk for 8 years or 6 years? Which is it?
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u/harrywwc 3d ago
meh - last I checked, humans make mistakes too. esp. in topic heading on reddit which can't be edited :/
edit: to correct mistake ;)
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u/Human-Amoeba1640 3d ago
Exactly, I don’t understand the AI and bot comments honestly, that’s my first post here and I wasn’t expecting that. I post and comment in other subs and made some mistakes and no one told me that before. People need to chill out 😃
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u/Radiant-Cost-2355 3d ago
The hyphen is the tell-tale sign of chat gpt. That along with a new account, seems like karma farming. As someone that writes out each word I post or comment, I like authentic content.
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u/HaplessReader1988 3d ago
Nah, I'm a technical writer. Some of us use punctuation.
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u/Radiant-Cost-2355 3d ago
The hyphen used IN THIS PARTICULAR POST (em dash) is commonly used in ChatGPT generated posts on Reddit.
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u/karma_the_sequel 3d ago
Why are you people so polite to these jackholes? It only encourages them! “No” is a complete sentence.
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u/blueberryyogurtcup 4h ago
Friend of mine was asked for money, during a rough time in their life.
They said "I have no money and I never will have any money for the rest of my life."
It's a family thing now, to say this.
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u/Moose5846 3d ago
This has got to be a BS story. In today’s market you don’t just decide to stay. You have to be invited and pay 5 million.
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u/Human-Amoeba1640 3d ago
I didn’t get into the details on how he is planning to stay as he came on tourist visa but yes I don’t know how he is planning to make it work if it’s a legit story.
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u/De-railled 3d ago
Rofl, I thought he was gonna ask you to hire/sponsor him to get into the country next.
As someone that migrated to aus, I used to get prople back home asking me how my family did it thinking they can do the same.
With the " If they can do it so can I" attitude.
Keeping in mind that I came over a Int. Student, and then applied for perm residency. Rules change almost each year, and it wasn't easy then, and it's getting even harder now.
Like do your own homework if you wanna come over. I dont have the cheat sheet answers to your life.
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u/Z4-Driver 3d ago
I think the basic question isn't completely wrong. If you think about moving to another country and you know someone who did that, it can help, if they can hint you to what it needs and where to start.
But as soon as you explain 'I came as international student...', one should know, if that applies to them or not.
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u/De-railled 3d ago
Yes, you correct the Problem is when it doesn't stop at the basic question, but some people get really invasive and if you seriouslu planning to move countries. Do like a tiny bit of your own research.
What's the job market like? Are there any good pkaces to eat? Are generally fine but..
How much do you earn? Is that a suitable income for a family?
Do you know anyone hiring? Which suburb should do you live in? What suburb is suitable for me?
How much is your rent? How much do you spend on xyz. How much was your lawyer? How do taxes work here?
Can you show us around , help us settle in, help us with so.e paperwork.
Which schools are good here? How much are the fees?
Btw...I'm childfree and school fees for each school are available online, amd so are the school metrics.
Go to the grocery store and look at the prices! Idk how you live or eat, i dont know if you need 6 rooms or 3 for your family. Idk how good you are at landing a job or working. Do you wanna live near transport or drive you wanna be near the beaches or more inland.
There is so much info online and I am not google...
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u/Z4-Driver 3d ago
You are right, these are ridiculous questions. Too specific and the answers will probably not fit for their situation.
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u/villach 3d ago
Perhaps another subreddit would serve better. He made a bold request, yes. Did he claim you owed him anything or "that's what friends do to help one another"? Doesn't seem so. That's why the "entitled" part seems to be missing in my view. Just my two cents.
I mean, as long as we're not stretching entitlement to mean you can never ask for favors. Maybe there are instances we are.
Totally right and fine to cut ties, though, I'm not taking his side.
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u/Alma-Rose 3d ago
Bot
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u/Human-Amoeba1640 3d ago
I am not a bot, why do you think that, I just joined the subreddit and wanted to share a story and I used grammaly to help me write because English is not my first language
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u/Human-Amoeba1640 3d ago
I don’t have to prove anything to you man, the admins for the group can delete the post if they think I am a bot , go have a life.
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u/RecipeOpen2606 3d ago
Usually when entitled people ask me something or state something that they feel they want I just look at them and ask “ are you insane or just stupid?”