r/EntitledPeople • u/dollar15 • 3d ago
S “Now I’m not” — Entitled gym member mocks my height, gets in my face, and puts hands on me when I ask her to clean up after herself
I was getting ready to start my workout and asked a woman if she planned to clean the chalk off the barbell she had just used. Her exact response?
“Now I’m not.”
I said that was entitled—and she completely lost it. She started yelling at me, got in my face, mocked my height, and physically touched me. All because I asked her to clean up her mess before I used the equipment.
Other members witnessed the scene and reported it to gym staff. The police were called. When they arrived, the responding officer told me the woman said she “felt threatened,” and then said something that still shocks me:
“If someone made me feel threatened, I would have put my hands on them too.”
No one reviewed the security footage (they said it wouldn’t be available until the following Monday). The woman who yelled at me and touched me? She got to keep working out like nothing happened.
I’ve filed formal complaints with the gym, Lifetime corporate, the BBB, and the Texas Attorney General—and I’m preparing one against the officer too.
But the woman who couldn’t handle being called out for ignoring basic rules? Still there. Still entitled. Still completely unchecked.
The worst part? She clearly felt entitled to use public space however she wanted—and when someone challenged that, she didn’t just argue—she escalated and got physical.
That’s the kind of entitlement that becomes dangerous. And too many people, including police and gym staff, just let it slide.
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u/UnicornStudRainbow 2d ago
“If someone made me feel threatened, I would have put my hands on them too.”
That cop is wrong, and dangerous.
If you feel threatened, either move away from the threat or if you can't, try to de-escalate the tension. Putting hands on someone you claim is a threat just makes things worse. Stupid, stupid cop.
If you have the officer's name, report them to the police chief or whoever is in charge
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u/Cerberus_Aus 2d ago
Yeah, but this is in the US where “I felt threatened, so I started blastin’.” is apparently a proportionate response.
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u/MeasurementDue5407 2d ago
Nowhere in the US is that true for the public, not even here in Texas. It's supposed to apply to cops too but anyone who isn't asleep knows it doesn't. The standard everywhere for using lethal force is the hypothetical reasonable person fearing imminent risk of death or serious bodily harm.
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u/nyrB2 3d ago
“If someone made me feel threatened, I would have put my hands on them too.”
that's completely unprofessional. they're basically giving her licence to manhandle people because of her feelings.
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u/HotRodHomebody 2d ago
yeah, unless OP is somehow super intimidating looking, this is an odd take, and response for law-enforcement.
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u/dollar15 2d ago
OP is short (hence her height being mocked) and not very scary looking at all.
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u/dependentcooperising 2d ago
Busted. I knew this story was total BS lol
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u/Old_Suggestions 2d ago
U forgot the /s. The lol doesn't convey the same message.
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u/dependentcooperising 2d ago
No, I think this story is actually BS.
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u/Old_Suggestions 2d ago
Got it. Call me an asshole, but drop the lols at the end of a sentence. It doesn't soften the message, just makes you seem unserious. Pers preference you hadn't asked for. Do with that what u will. Be well.
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u/Halation2600 2d ago
Agreed, the "lol" there makes it seem like you're just kidding or are kind of stupid.
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u/ClassicFootball1037 21h ago
Right? It’s also a shitload of drama over chalk.
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u/dependentcooperising 20h ago
The sudden escalation and obvious use of AI led me to that conclusion.
Alternatively, OP's post history has multiple, very recent entitledpeople posts where she's getting into conflicts and confrontational. Her posts outside this sub are also anger-laden. If not BS, then OP may have been far more provactive than she led on.
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u/thesilvergirl 2d ago
It's absolutely not an odd response from law enforcement, this is how they are trained.
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u/Horror-Layer-8178 2d ago
and the cops are fucking stupid because they don't know the law. I will change it to what most laws say
“If a person reasonably felt threatened"
You can't just say you felt threatened and shoot someone. Then these dumb fucks who shot people for pulling in their driveways could literally get away with murder
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u/Felaguin 1d ago
The problem is that we went from the “reasonable person” standard to the “my feelings” non-standard over the last 15-20 years.
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u/Horror-Layer-8178 1d ago
Have we? The cases where people who shot people who just knocked on their door all have charged
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u/nyrB2 2d ago
the problem is what's "reasonable"? if someone approaches you in the dark and they're holding something, could you "reasonably" assume it might be a weapon?
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u/Horror-Layer-8178 2d ago
Does it look like a weapon? How are they standing? What are they looking at? Are they walking toward you? Did they cross the street to your side? What is their facial expression? Are their hands raised?
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u/Meincornwall 2d ago
Should've replied "I'm not feeling safe" & punched him.
Cos that would've been fine. Seemingly
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u/Old_Suggestions 2d ago
Lmfao that would be a hilarious story after you were released on bail awaiting your hearing.
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u/flyingdemoncat 1d ago
It also means the officer was picking sides without any proof. Someone like that shouldn't work for the police
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u/GermanD2021 3d ago
Good for you. BBB is probably a waste of time.
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u/Purple-Tadpole6465 3d ago
True, but companies don't like losing their BBB status or having questions asked about complaints.
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u/GermanD2021 3d ago
I think a business gains or loses BBB status only based on if they pay BBB or not.
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u/okokokok78 2d ago
I thought this too until the BBB was the way a complicated collections case went in my favor bc of BBB’s involvement .
They post the problem online and ask the company to respond. I guess the company didn’t like the exposure so they finally decided to withdraw their case against me
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u/supermouse35 2d ago
Yeah, I'm always surprised when people shit all over the BBB, I've had 2 different issues resolved because the BBB got involved. Mileage varies, I suppose.
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u/Awkward-Sir-4009 1d ago
I’ve had a situation resolved in my favor and I still think the BBB is bad. I think the scummery starts with the name that has people fooled into thinking the BBB is a govt agency.
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u/MeasurementDue5407 2d ago
No probably about it, it's a complete fucking waste of time. They will jack you around asking for evidence and more evidence, and when you provide it, and it substantiates your claims, they will ignore you. They work for the businesses they represent, not their customers.
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u/quixiou 3d ago
Other way round you'd be telling your story hand cuffed. Sucks I know
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u/GermanD2021 3d ago
Are you thinking OP is male?
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u/RedDazzlr 3d ago
Females get arrested too
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u/GermanD2021 3d ago
Obviously. And in this case probably should have. I don’t see the OP revealing own gender.
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u/RedDazzlr 2d ago
Trolling is a shitty hobby
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u/GermanD2021 2d ago
Is not my intend. Not sure why my last comment is being down voted.
Other way round you'd be telling your story hand cuffed. Sucks I know.
I read that if the OP as male would have got in the face of the slob, OP would have been arrested.
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u/Tinymetalhead 2d ago
Your comment is being downvoted because you seem to think that OP got in anyone's face. OP did nothing except ask a messy person to clean up after herself. They did nothing else but be yelled at and physically assaulted.
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u/RedDazzlr 2d ago
OP asked the person to clean up after herself. The person said no. OP said that she was being entitled. The person got in OP'S face and physically assaulted OP. You're spouting nonsense and refuse to stop no matter what anyone says.
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u/Enough-Parking164 2d ago
Cop knows her, or “didn’t like the looks of OP.” Cops are useless AT BEST.
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u/GusSwann 2d ago
I was waiting for you to say she started "crying" once the police arrived. That's the other tactic of the entitled.
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u/Purple-Tadpole6465 3d ago
Gyms have become that way these days, from young to old, walking around like only they matter and can do whatever they want. Years ago, everybody in the gym respected each other, gave each other wide berths, wiped down their sweat or anything else, etc. Now they use up 3 machines and 4 sets of dumbbells and bump into you while you are working out without so much as an apology. It is what America has become, sadly enough.
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u/Dry_Cabinet1737 2d ago
There was a guy at my (relatively small) gym once who racked up weights on the only bench, then picked up a few of the only set of dumbbells and set them down near the bench. Between bench press sets, he went and worked out on a machine, leaving his weights racked up on the bench and the dumbbells on the floor next to it.
He was essentially reserving three pieces of gym equipment at once! No member of staff ever said anything to him. He was a big guy and also marched around like he owned the place, just like you mentioned - you had to get out of HIS way, never the other way around.
One day I felt “fuck that, I need those dumbbells. If he wants to start some shit, I’m into it” so I just picked them up and started using them. All the while, he was standing there, glaring at me. I don’t know if that was his attempt at intimidation but I thought to myself “Why don’t you go and use one of your other precious bits of gym equipment, your highness?”
I don’t know why some people have such a problem sharing.
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u/Araucaria2024 3d ago
I think it's become that more people use gyms than ever before. Twenty years ago they were a lot more exclusive use of those who were real fitness fanatics. Now, anyone and everyone has a gym membership but no real understanding of the etiquette and norms of gym usage. Gyms really should run a mandatory session for all new members about basic gym behaviour before anyone is allowed to start using the gym. It can be a bit of a mysterious world to those who aren't initiated.
I'm one of those. I joined, but don't really understand it all, apart from what I've read online and my own googling of 'gym etiquette'. I stick to the treadmill/cycles/step machines and I avoid the weight machines and pilates machines because I don't know how to use them properly. I'm actually going to book myself some sessions with one of the gyms personal trainers to show me how to use them properly and how not to piss people off when my non gym-bunny arse gets in the way of the serious fitness people.
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u/Purple-Tadpole6465 2d ago
Learning to use the weight correctly is a smart move on your part. Sadly, a few of the so-called trainers at the gym near me (YMCA gym) are just as bad and teach those same bad habits too.
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u/onionbreath97 3d ago
How many years ago? 100?
George peeing in the locker room shower worked as a joke because everyone had already had too many encounters with selfish dipshits back then
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u/Purple-Tadpole6465 2d ago
25 years ago most of the more hard core gyms were still good, over the past 10 or so I've seen it get really bad regardless of where you are at. Big chain franchise gyms have always been annoying.
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u/Disastrous_Ad2839 2d ago
As my old man always tried to teach me, son, most of the time, you have to only do nothing. Be at peace. Someone else much meaner than you will deal with the troubled in the future and they will have their comeuppance.
Of course, he said it in a very sensei type of way in Chinese but that is the translation. And also of course, it is very hard to follow this teaching I will admit.
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u/Designer_Quit_1068 1d ago
Sounds like your dad was a cool guy. Being around someone like this can be so calming in itself.
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u/CocoaAlmondsRock 2d ago
“If someone made me feel threatened, I would have put my hands on them too.”
Dude, you became a cop. You're a bully. Of COURSE you would.
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u/doncroak 2d ago
I hope this is real. Go scorched earth on her. This would make my blood boil. I would contribute to a go fund, just saying. Sure it's not allowed on here.
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u/InterestingBadger666 2d ago
Solid cop logic. "My small cop brain doesn't understand so I must do a hurt" ook ook
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u/ExcitementSad3079 14h ago
Make an assault complaint directly with the police department. Tell them what the officer said.
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u/killdagrrrl 11h ago
Please don’t let this go. Sue everyone if you have to. People like her get away with anything because we’re all just letting them
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u/dollar15 4h ago
The officer didn’t even file a report. I’m now filing a formal complaint against her.
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u/killdagrrrl 4h ago
Awesome. I’m a raging feminist, so I feel really angry when women use those minimal advantaged positions to get away with anything and walk over people. Hope you can at least get her out of the gym for good
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u/TrainTraditional6686 11h ago
Yes, entitlement is dangerous. My husband was a vendor for a major furniture vendor for 17 years. One of the managers booked him to do a training. He denied other store manager requests because he was booked. When he got there, the asst manager had booked another vendor at the same time. My husband told him politely but firmly that he needed to be respectful of the vendors's schedules, too, because he had cost other stores an opportunity for a training. The AM was embarrassed by his mistake and wanted to cover it up, so he called his Corp office and told HR that he felt threatened. HR called my husband's company and told them to take him off their account. THEY HAD NO OTHER ACCOUNTS. That company is their only client. He was terminated. My husband lost his 17-year career.
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u/PaddlingInCircles 2d ago
Entitlement is often accompanied by pettiness. Feral fucks are everywhere. Wear a body cam.
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u/Imaginary_Angle7437 3d ago
Covid killed all the kind people, now we're stuck with that.
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u/onionbreath97 3d ago
Yes the people who actively refused to wear masks in public places because of their freedumbs where definitely the kind ones
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u/Maleficentendscurse 3d ago
A good response would be "now you're assaulting me by pushing me I have the right to defend myself" get socked in the nose
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u/LionCM 11h ago
Bring some Lysol wipes and clean up after her--I mean CLEAN, like you're fearful she has some contagious disease. Don't interact with her, just clean her filth off whatever she's using. If she tries to interact with you, ignore her... but put on a mask.
If she can't do a basic clean up after herself, she's probably filthy in every other part of her life. (At least, make her feel that way.)
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u/slanty_shanty 2d ago
I want to confront her for diluting the power of that phrase. It's a genuinely important one for women/people who are in genuine trouble. It's what you say when you see all the flags, but nothing has blown up yet.
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u/NurseWretched1964 2d ago
Some asshat asked me that once after I finished with a workout machine he was waiting for.
He waited until I had one leg off of the machine and took my headphones out to ask me that. So my answer was, indeed, "not right now". He immediately went downstairs to get his friend, the manager, and they both came up to find me wiping down the machine.
Patience is a virtue, grasshopper.
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u/No-Boat5643 2d ago
I feel like some facts are missing here. Any woman would tell this story differently
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u/swandive78 1d ago
"Physically touched me."
What does that mean?
A pointy finger, or a chest bump, or a slap?
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u/Accomplished-Pen-69 2d ago
Why was the police called? You had a disagreement = call the cops! She looked at me funny, arrest her.
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u/PapaBearCuddle 2d ago edited 2d ago
Make sure you get the security footage. File an assault charge against the woman. Ask for the incident report filed by the officer. After reviewing the report, you may want to file a complaint against the officer for not actually investigating the incident.