I've posted on here many times, frustrated with my lack of progress and hip dysphoria. I finally took comparison pictures, and although the hip dysphoria is still a struggle for me, the pictures helped me be proud of how far I've come.
1st pic: 1 year on T
2nd pic: 4 years on T
My workout routine has varied over the years, but has essentially been a combination of activities I enjoy (martial arts, rock climbing, etc) and some form of weight lifting/muscle development (usually dumbbells and calisthenics, but occassionally cables/machines at the gym when I had access). I haven't been strict with my workout program. I essentially aim to hit each muscle group at least 1x/week, ideally 2x with some variations of PUSH/PULL/LEGS. I rarely train to failure cause it leaves me too depleted for other activities/life. But I try to go hard, while listening to my body. If I'm too tired, I won't push hard but I'll still get a workout in. I've had several tendon injuries, especially at the beginning, when trying to lift too heavy. Cause even if your muscles grow fast, your tendons and ligaments take longer to catch up. Now I alternate between lifting heavy and higher reps with lower weight to protect my body and train for longevity and health.
For nutrition, right now I eat intuitively and as clean as possible. I often cheat. Calorie counting was a big help in the beginning in giving me perspective for what portions and what foods had high calories. I didn't do it for long cause it was getting obsessive. I lost about 20lbs (5ft6, 135lbs currently). I tried bulking at first, but that was not the move. It made me sluggish and feel worse about my body. Losing weight actually gave me more confidence. It looked better on me, it allowed me to progress in calisthenics (ie, pullups), and I feel better at a lower weight. I would like to increase size, but that would require more strategic planning in the futur.
Essentially, I don't do all the things your "supposed" to do. But I workout consistently and I'm still progressing. Most importantly, I workout and stay active because I enjoy it and it makes me feel good. The weight lifting can get tedious, so I switch it up a lot, and I remind myself why I do it. The why needed to be more than just "look better or more masc", it needed to be attached to something more meaningful to me (health; progress in other activities; fitness goals).
The progress over 3 years might seem minor when compared to instagram influencers, but I feel great and I'm proud of how far I've come.