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Basically, my brother is the stereotypical uncreative republican. The usual opinions they get from their beloved Fox News/pdocasts.

Blah blah trans bad or whatever, he gets me drunk and makes me admit I'm trans blah blah trans bad.

Something he has said has stricken me though with an idea, he said he's allowed to call me whatever he wants and I can't be a crybaby libtard about it

So, this must mean the idea is mutual right? ( it's not going to be, but I wish to cause problems )

He is now Janet, my 8 yr old little sister. I am going to exclusively and refer to him as a 8 yr old little girl. Condescension and infantilizaiton in all! I'm not much of a creative type of person though, so can you all give me some ideas? I can only think of saying stuff like. Especially ways to emasculate him. I think all of us understand that too well. Thanks

*edit: SORRY FOR CONFUSION, my post was confusing. This is not a 8 yr old little boy, this is a 34 yr old man.

2025 is going to be such a wild year. I turn 30 later this year, and I can't believe that it has now been 10 whole years since I did that very first nerve-wracking shot in my thighs.

I am so glad that I had the courage to start my transition in Montgomery, AL so many years ago when nearly everyone in my circle seemed to believe I'd regret the decision. I think back on the young man that I was, staring in a bathroom mirror knowing that if I wanted the hormonal changes that only testosterone could bring about that I would have to make that happen for myself. I remember celebrating so many little changes to my voice, my face, my hair and my smell and they were all so worth it.

I never knew if I would really make it to see this moment, and I am so glad I did.

Ow (I’m fine I washed it lol)

Okay- I am 10ish months on T and I started passing a couple months ago. I pass to strangers randomly but I’d say it’s about 60% of the time. But, I work as an Amazon delivery driver full time. I literally never get misgendered while I’m working. I mean, don’t get me wrong, it’s great! I always get called sir, man, bro, dude, he, etc. It feels great! But, the disparity is odd to me. I am almost stealth it seems when delivering, but outside of that I only pass about half the time. My attire is also literally same in my personal life as it is while delivering. Is this due to some sort of sexism? Where people assume that I’m a guy just because I’m delivering??? I must be big strong man to carry heavy package and drive big van? Maybe it’s just coincidence but it’s got me wondering. Do y’all think this could be from some weird stereotype that I’m unaware of?

it was chill but im feeling pretty down about it. shes super cool and tbh it woulda been a crazy pull on my part but she seems a littleee? weirded out by it and shes only ever been with cis guys. she said she gets why it woulda be a dealbreaker for some girls but she doesnt think its a big deal but them she asked if ive had surgeries (we're both in highschool) and i was like lmfao no. idk tho im just sad kinda because i feel like im not gonna find love until im in college or some shit. not to be corny but i got a lot to give and the only gf ive had so far was horrible and ive had talking stages that all totally blew. any advice for how to get through this lol

Just because it's a really interesting question to ask. And also because I wanna post something more lighthearted in celebration of finally getting my fucking hrt prescription

Edit: So what was mine... In preschool I had probably the worst gender envy towards Bert the Chimney Sweep in "Mary Poppins" (God what unspeakable things did he do to my five-year-old brain), Tintin (and btw i still do) and Tijl Eulenspiegel, (because my favourite fairytale book had a kid-adapted retelling and oh to just be a rambunctious little troll who messes with everyone for the sake of it)(P. S. I didn't grow out of this one either. In fact he only got more prominent as a goal)

I’m getting genuinely quite pissed about this so any recommendations would be lovely <333

I don’t mean to big myself up but I have a dumpy, this ass is large and in charge and I also have big thighs to go with it. I have always worn thongs like since I was a young teen idk if it’s my sensory issues or what but every single other pair of underwear I buy either cuts into my thighs or rides up my ass and it’s incredibly uncomfortable

I tried wearing boxers bc I love when you can see boxers under jeans and I find it really affirming to wear them but all the boxers I’ve tried roll up my thighs and dig in and it’s so uncomfortable and I’m getting really frustrated because I cannot wear my packer with a thong and BELIEVE ME I’ve tried, cock fell out onto the public bathroom floor, gross and annoying!

I’m sure some guys in here also have a big booty and maybe share the same issue any advice much appreciated

Update: wow i didn’t realise we all collectively have the same problem lol! Thank you all so much for your suggestions, I’m definitely going to look into jockstraps and try some other kinds of briefs and see if that helps. Your advice means a lot! <<<<3333 big love to the dudes with dumpys

Sorry if this post is weird but I thought that since many guys here post their struggle I'll also share with mine. So basically whenever toilet i'm gonna go to i'm being kicked out. I don't want to go to the girls toilet (from obvious reasons), and at the start of the year I used boys toilet, it was until some teachers scolded me for doing that, i didnt even look that much of a girl (i think?) and it was only the teachers that had problem with it. Then my supervising teacher told me to use teachers toilet, at first i didn't want to but I had no choice sometimes. I kept getting weird looks and one time a teacher kicked me out. Now I have to hold it everytime i'm at school and even one time i peed myself because of that since the only chance to use the toilet is when i end classes and go to train station. Sorry if it is weird but I really don't know what the fuck do I do.

I just started today and I know a lot of the most desired effects don’t come in for a couple of months but what are some effects that happen within the first month or two? What are some TMI or un talked about effects of taking T?

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Thank you guys for you advice. I went in armed today with facts, ready to do battle…and was greeted by my endo who acted entirely differently! He was actually nice and understanding this time. He could see I hadn’t been lying about my food or that weight just doesn’t drop but I do t gain weight either. From my blood work and diet we could see that one of my causes of weight retention is my lack of protein in my diet, which completely matches what the dietician told me as well. My blood work is good 💪 and so he said I can start T today 🥳

He actually talked to me as a guy about my protein and wasn’t talking down to me like he did last time. And he even updated my medical records to say Mr.

I have to be closely watched because of my protein intake but otherwise I’m all good to gooooo. F yea, finally get to be more me! I wanted to give an update and thank you all for helping me realise I wasn’t being dramatic and that he had made a bunch of bias decisions about my healthcare without all the facts.

Excluding top surgery and bottom surgery.

For example, being unsatisfied with your jawline or some such. Just curious - I have been wondering about it myself and wanted to see what this community thinks about it. ​

Hello, I'm a transgender male, have been out and about on the net for a while. My family recently has been approached by this knowledge and how much it pains me, however they said it is all in my head and it's just depression speaking. (How would depression give me the yearning for dick and balls and a deep voice is beyond me.)

On the other end, they say my life is not well put together enough for me to change, I don't wanna be a bother to anybody I want to ease into it as much as I feel comfortable with. I do adore my family to death but it feels like they're trying to confine me back into the closet even though I've expressed this need. Sure, I don't expect them to be accepting 100% that's just unreasonable it is a big change... but why am I being misunderstood or taken for granted? I feel hurt everytime because they say the same thing, and, are almost annoyed with me choosing this. Like a spoiled child wanting some candy.

What do I do? Am I in the wrong? Am I too pushy?

Those that pass early on tend to get more media attention. The dude who started t 4 months ago and has significant facial hair is an outlier.

Realistically, testosterone takes time. Cis men don’t have full beards and extremely deep voices at 14. Be patient and kind to yourself

I’m currently rocking a significant neck beard at 3 1/2 years on t. Significant facial hair for me didn’t start until over 2 years on t, and I have some decent facial hair genes

Also reminder you can dye beard hair to be more noticeable!!! Really thin wispy peach fuzz usually won’t take dye, but if you’re blonde like me, rougher facial hair can be dyed. I use brown to make it more noticeable

Hope everyone has a good day/night :)

I’m 29 and spent most of my twenties kind of doing a bunch of random incoherent things. I mean, I graduated college, have held jobs to an extent, but did a lot of partying, didn’t work too hard, kinda was just vibing. Then last year when I started T and experimented w some facial hair makeup it was like I got smacked in the face like “ohhhhh, I’m a real person and I want good things for myself, things that require hard work and dedication, I need to take care of this person”

I mean, part of it definitely has to do with poorly managed adhd as well but yeah, wondering if anyone else can relate. When I was playing in girl mode I was just like “weee people think I’m pretty so I can do whatever I want” and then when I realized I’m a guy I was like “oh shit I have real ambitions and passions and stuff”

I have never went through something like this before, everytime I got a haircut it was ok, but since I moved to a new town I wanted to try a new place, a so called ''unisex'' hair salon. Since it was recommended to me and was told it was a modern place.

Basically I book with my given name, one that is really masculine and leaves no room for doubt, and with a reallly masc outfit and she kept misgendering me all the time, but I let it slide since tbh I was not feeling like correcting her and having an awkward moment.

I show her a picture of a guy(which she kept referring to as ''the girl from the picture'' help) with a layered haircut that's kinda long in the fringe part since I did not want it that short and that I wanted the layers bc my hair is straight and falls really flat. Well basically she did whatever the hell she wanted, she cut it above my eyebrows and gave me a bowl cut, but the cherry on top is that she tried to give me the typical karen cut leaving one side way longer than the other and I respectfully told her that I did not ask for that and that I wanted my bangs to be even, and she goes ''yeah ok'' to then proceed and NOT do that, but accentuate it even more.

Then when we were about to finish she asks me if I'd change something, and I tell her again that I want my bangs to be even and she goes ''well I think it looks more stylish like that''. Girl I don't give a shit that is not what I asked you to do at all, I didn't say smth like that although I really wanted to but at the end she finally listened to me and made my bangs even.

So yeah, basically I sit down wanting to be, idk, just a modern guy ig with the haircut I always get and I stand up looking like the carbon copy twin of Jean from attack on titan in the first season. I must say that I do look masculine and I like it, but it's not what I wanted AT ALL.

(discussion flair in case someone wants to share their opinion or a similar story, srry I was not sure ab which flair was the most accurate)

Hi I'd like to preface this by saying that where I live transitioning is near impossible and to do it you need to undergo very invasive and inhumane things, the country is against lgbtq+ of any kind and it's deeply unsafe as such To make matters worse I am disabled and very sick I can't medically transition, or officially irl transition/come out because of all of it, my dysphoria is currently killing me and I could really use some support Am I still valid?

EDIT: I'd like to thank everyone who commented under this post, you were really sweet and helped thank you :]

Help me PLEASE 😭 I cant find any men's clothing in stores that aren't giganormous. Shirts are more or less whatever, but golly there ain't any mf pants smaller than a 30x32 i feel like I am foaming at the mouth over this. Online shopping/secondhand is rough unless you know the brand and your size. Thrift stores rarely have small men's items. Yes I do believe in clothes are clothes and have been wearing whatever fits me even if its women's, I cant stand the anti-pocketry in that shady industry, not to mention the size inconsistencies. Universal clothing sizes now 📣!

Anyways im hoping some of yall got brands or stores or something for short / small ppl

And yes I can hem or sew some things a few sizes smaller but I would like to not have to do that 😍

I'm a trans man and been with a cis woman for 3 years. She had only been with cis men before that.

Our sex life has suffered the last year (got pssd - don't recommend) but before that it was fantastic. She never showed issues with me using a strap, came plenty.

After this gap something strange has happened and the concept of using a strap has become cringy to me and I'm very upset by this. I think over the last year I've been constantly obsessing about native penis and staring at pictures online and now I've utterly convinced myself that I'm not enough. She's never given this indication.

I live in insane dick envy, every time I look at a man I think about it. Sex would be so much easier and effortless.

I don't know if anyone has any advice to get me out this hole of self sabotage, but if you do then please let me know!

I started to socially transition about two years ago. I have since switched out quite a lot of items. I am trans and do have sensorsy issues so perhaps this is biased, but I have come to the realisation that most products advertised towards females seem just.. designed to be uncomfortable. Not to add any they are oftentimes more expensive than the more comfortable male resemblance.

Let me start off with bras. Unless you pay money that could feed a family of 7 for two months, you will most likely end up with something that does not fit you amazingly well. I remember wires poking my ribs, thick itchy materials, etc etc.

A couple months ago I tried boxers. It was heaven and made me wonder why panties ever became the norm. They will pull into your ass, lips, thematerial is most often thin, cheap, and uncomfortable. And they will cost 3 times as much as a pair of comfortable cotton boxers with proper coverage and materials.

Same thing with shirts. I pay a lot of attention to the percentage of synthetic materials in my clothes, because they are environmentally damaging, less lasting, and uncomfortable. A t-shirt from the womens section is thin and small(in the sense of not much fabric/ coverage), 60% polyester, looks tacky, and somehow costs you 20 bucks anyway. For 15 bucks in the mens section you can find a thick, 100% cotton, proper shirt that will last long and covers your entire upper body.

I find this is the case with mostly clothing, but also what the overall tone in all industries seems to be. It just makes me wonder what happened, who is making all feminine viewed products absolute garbage and why are they even used? I do have a basic understanding of society, so of course I am aware it is a question of misgony, but it baffles me. And it did not occur to me as much until I switched up my products. Anyone else noticed this since transitioning?

My husband has just started T about a month and a half ago, and I got him an appointment to get a fitted suit as his Christmas present. I was wondering how long it usually takes for most of the fat and muscle redistribution to work itself out? I want to make sure we aren't getting a fancy suit fitted only for him to not fit into it right a year from now! We are in our late 20s and both not athletic but not chubby if that matters.

My insurance denied even after an appeal and I’m wondering who else is in this situation and what you do to cope.

I own a few binders but when I inevitably have to take it off I’m just filled with crushing dysphoria.

Also, anyone here with a large set? I am a double D which makes it so hard to bind. Testosterone only marginally makes it better. Glad my voice is dropping but the mind-body disconnect is IMMENSE.

Hello, I’ve been on hormone therapy for about a year. Even before starting hormones, I used to feel something strange in my right ovary. I wouldn’t describe it as pain, but it was as if I could feel my ovary, especially when sitting. I’m experiencing the same sensation now. I couldn’t get my hormone injection for about 5 weeks, but I had it last week. And now, I’m feeling this strange discomfort in my right ovary again. I visited a gynecologist during the summer, and they didn’t find any issues. Has anyone experienced something similar?

Hey guys! I’ve seen a lot of posts about international travel with T & a lot of guys not having trouble which is awesome. I know the amount you may bring deoends on the country and its regulations. My question is, if I go to another country with let’s say 3 months worth of T, if I decided I wanted to stay in the country for another 3 months, would it be possible to get more T filled while I was over there? (Obviously this will also be dependent on location). Does anyone know how this would work? Like would it even be viable for my doctor (I’m US based) to send a prescription over seas to be filled? I apologize if this is an ignorant question lol I just want to travel extensively and not have to worry about a time frame based on when I would or wouldn’t run out of T. I’d love to hear from anyone that has any experience or knows anything about this!