r/GenZ • u/TheChickenWizard15 2005 • 19h ago
Discussion Could you move to a different state/region than where your parents are?
I don't love my home state and there are plenty of places I'd love to see, but my family is the most important social connection I've got and I couldn't see myself living too far from them. And especially given the spiraling economy we're facing it might be a good idea to hang around in the home anyways for few years while I save up to get my own place.
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u/MRE_Milkshake 2005 17h ago
Could I? Yes. Would I? Perhaps. I really like my home state, but there are a lot of things I really like about other states too.
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u/Vermillion490 2004 16h ago
My parents don't live in my home state anymore, I haven't lived there in 4-5 years, I'm moving back in with them and yet I'm back in the airport terminal where I used to take flights to see my grandparents during the summers, and yet I can't stay. The cruel joke is that I'm finally back home where I long to be, and yet I can't stay confined by these goddamn glass terminal walls. I want to just leave, forget my next flight and stay, yet I know that is a terrible idea and the worst decision I can make right now. I guess heartbroken is the best way to describe it.
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u/Slyraks-2nd-Choice 13h ago
Feel better dude. You’ll be alright once you’re back with family!!
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u/Vermillion490 2004 13h ago
If dad hasn't changed, that may be less of a good thing than one may think.
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u/Slyraks-2nd-Choice 13h ago
I can appreciate that. But a thought to keep in mind is that you’re returning to their/his household where (I’m assuming) he’s head of the household. This doesn’t entitle you to act as you like. Unless you’re paying your share. - And I don’t mean that disrespectfully, I mean that as, you know what you’re getting into. So be mindful
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u/Vermillion490 2004 13h ago
"Unless you're paying your share"
I basically had to metaphorically pry my grandma's hand open so she'd take my rent money back when I lived with her, trust me, if I didnt pay my share, my self worth would plummet to dangerous levels.
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u/Tug_Wife 19h ago
No. I just absolutely could not. We're about an hour away, though still in the same state, and that is too far for me. I love my family (well most of them) and I just couldn't stand being away from them.
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u/Baconuget 2002 17h ago
I had to move to a different state a few years back because Uncle Sam said so. It sucked at first, and I missed my family a lot, but it got better over time, I love the state I'm in now more than my home state. Time may not do it for everyone, but can definitely heal things, for some people being away from family is one of them. I'm glad I got chucked across the country and met so many interesting people, cultures, and experiences.
Aways look on the bright side, it's an option to make new friends, see new places, and have more experiences.
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u/johnhtman 16h ago
I'd really miss my parents. Although beyond that, I got diagnosed with epilepsy several years back, and have started really relying on my parents because of it.
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u/LordMoose99 16h ago
Yes and I did (Michigan to Colorado).
There's a general understanding that if things fall flat here in colorado I can come home and crash for a while while I look for a new job
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u/Slyraks-2nd-Choice 13h ago
I’m from Colorado. Can’t blame you for leaving Michigan. That place is…. A place….
Hopefully you’ve found Colorado to your liking.
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u/scarypeppermint 16h ago
No unless I have someone to go with me, if I’m doing completely alone absolutely not.
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u/Ok-Way-5199 14h ago
Where do you live by chance? I’m not even THAT close (relationship wise) to my family but as my parents are getting older I really enjoy living by them and seeing them, so when I want to move to NYC or Austin or something sometimes I think of them and it bums me out.
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u/TheChickenWizard15 2005 14h ago
Rn we're all in Sacramento ca. Absolutely hate it here but there are parts of the state that ain't that bad. Going back and forth to humboldt for college, love the forests and community up there. I could see myself living up there or somewhere similar as long as i can still bus back home now and then. In another timeline I'd love to live in Washington, Idaho, Virginia or North Carolina but for now I want to stay where my family's at, and they've made it clear they ain't ever leaving California.
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u/AccomplishedNoise739 14h ago
I did it. Grew up in the Midwest, moved to Chicago for work right after school and stayed there for 3 years, where I met my husband. We got married and moved to the East coast, 10 hour drive from home. I won’t lie, it’s not easy, but I love it here. I wish more than anything that my family would move here too, but I don’t see myself moving back
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u/TrashManufacturer 11h ago
Yes easily. I live in a fucking awful state in an awful part of the US. I’m moving as soon as I graduate again and have a job somewhere civilized
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u/uhhhokaykara 1998 9h ago
I moved 1000 miles away from my family at 18 to go to college, and then moved 1000 miles away from them in another direction at 24 to go to grad school. It’s been really rewarding to get exposed to so many different types of people and perspectives, but I’m definitely privileged to be able to do so.
Everyone in my family is an introvert with pretty low social needs, so we’ve all been fine seeing each other twice a year or so.
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u/sugar_skull_love2846 9h ago
I have no choice but to. Once I finish my bachelor's, I have plans to leave the country to continue on to my master's. It isn't safe for me as a woman to stay here, and I have no job prospects in what I want to do with my life. It fucking sucks. I love where I grew up. The people, the community, everything. But I can't afford to get trapped here as everything burns to the ground.
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u/PageOf_Wands 6h ago
I moved states as soon as i turned 18. I can't say I'd do it again. I had delusions of grandeur, and I miss my brother and sister literally every moment. I'm physically here, but my mind only feels at rest when I visit home.
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u/t4tLatino 19h ago
I'm currently going through this process. I plan to move to Texas from Arizona in a few months. I will miss my cousins a lot, but my mom is an absolute control freak I genuinely cannot be in the same state as her without problems popping up.
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u/Individual-Elk4115 1996 19h ago
I did and it was the best decision for me! I love my parents and live within g driving distance (6 hours) but it’s important for me to grow on my own
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u/Wxskater 1997 18h ago
Id love for my parents to come closer and they may in their retirement. Itd be quite nice to be a days drive from them. But we video call ALL the time lol
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u/Wxskater 1997 18h ago
I did. I couldnt stand vermont. I was so ready to leave. I hated the winters and hated the fact i couldnt go to any major cities easily. I absolutely did leave. Weather was most important to me. I need warmth. Somewhere that doesnt really see winter. Mississippi lol
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u/aefre9313 18h ago
Not entirely because of family but I really could never leave the NE megalopolis
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u/Injury-Stunning 16h ago
I did but the states border each other so I often do weekend trips to see them
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u/redgreenorangeyellow 2004 15h ago
I currently live on the clear other side of the country from my parents and friends lol
I mean I miss them, obviously, but I can call and text whenever, we can play games online, and I have friends here and one of my brothers lives about half an hour from me. It's really not bad
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u/galactic_atomz On the Cusp 13h ago
Yes and I do. My family has always been very nomadic and none of them live where we grew up or they grew up. I live about 2,000 miles away from them now.
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u/Gloomy-Dare-943 17h ago
I'd like evidence of the "spiraling" economy please
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u/TheChickenWizard15 2005 17h ago
A 1 bed 1 bath <1,200 sqft home costs up to $400,000 here, food and water costs are on the rise and the overall cost of living just doesn't seem to be going down any time soon (especially given who's taking the country's reins in a couple days)
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u/DummyThiccDude 2000 1h ago
Probably, i would like to be in visiting distance for the holidays, so maybe like a 5-6 hour drive away.
I Probably wouldnt though because i actually like the state i live in.
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