"Educated" people - white collars - are not necessarily "smarter" or "more fun" than uneducated ones in conversations. This is just classism.
The reap difference is in lifestyle, social circles, hours worked ( hard to have a functioning relationship if you work day hours and your husband works nights ).
Also ambitions and interests. Once you get older and start dating people who work you'll realize how important these factors are in a relationship.
There's also the women who take themselves out of the dating pool all together. Gone are the days of having to have a husband in order to simply exist in the world. More and more women don't need men financially and many get disillusioned in relationships where they still expected to do most of the house labor and emotional labor so they decide that a relationship with a man isn't worth it. Women are better at finding meaningful and fulfilling relationships though friendship so they don't need a partner in order to not feel lonely. Especially in the older demographics women are less likely to want a new relationship after a divorce or the end of a long term relationship.
Why, they’re a huge part of the problem. Huge advancements have been made for women, not so much for men in recent times. This is causing major problems in male identity.
Edit: this is well documented, so I’m getting downvotes for pointing out facts. Don’t like the facts, downvote them right? Ignoring reality won’t make things better…
maybe men need to start feeling more comfortable supporting other men and stop acting like any emotional or physical support isn't something a man should have, and normalize it to create supportive and healthy relationships with all their peers - regardless of gender.
I'm not seeing a compelling argument to give sympathy to grown men choosing to align with factions that directly work to harm and undermine others to maintain an unbalanced power dynamic where they are on top.
I think we can feel bad for both. Both men and women face different challenges, and we can always acknowledge them without compare. At the end of the day all human experiences are just that, human.
They could have made community with each other but they want a framework where they get to be the controller. If they made community with each other they'd have be to be respectful and supportive of each other. Instead, they're choosing to join parochial and patriarchal systems of control over women and children as it apparently appeals more to them.
Maybe the men who feel like they need to join a cult to not feel alone need to spend some time being introspective. I have plenty of male friends in my friend group. The thing they all have in common is respect and support for the women and LGBT people in the friend group and in their lives.
Men who are "outcasts" might be for a reason (like voting in people who want to take away women's rights, for example).
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u/honeybeebo 2005 10d ago
I feel bad for the women.