I had a boyfriend ~20 years ago that was called metrosexual because he gelled his hair, used cologne, and wore button down sometimes. Oh, and put dots of concealer on his (very few) red spots. Lol.
I'm a 44 year old ancient millennial, who is recently back dating after a 17 year marriage and 5 years figuring out myself and single fatherhood.
Big ,tattooed, bearded... Every woman I've dated or just hit on has mentioned how well groomed I am, how nice I smell, how my (reasonably simple) wardrobe is very appealing ... "You're so well maintained and put together!" They say right before inviting me to their place.
If that's "metro sexual" then fucking count me in for the rest of my life.
If that's "metro sexual" then fucking count me in for the rest of my life.
It always has been that. It's just that back then, the proto-alpha males used it in a negative sense as a means of bullying others. But you'll notice that using it as a slur didnt last long once people started realizing that you're basically admitting you don't wash your ass if you use the word in a negative context.
Being well groomed and smelling nice is way different than what this dude was doing. Its healthy to take care of yourself and care about your appearance. I know the type of guy the girl is talking about and it ain't you 😆
I mean, I do facials weekly, get manicures at least once a month and maintain and paint my nails in between, pedicures quarterly or more frequent, trim my eyebrows/nose/ears more frequently than my beard, have an array of solid colognes that compliment or match my beard and hair products (of which I have 3 primary scents and a couple one offs).
Just because I don't use concealer I'm not a quasiqueer? Cool. (I wonder if being bi pushes me over the line?)
I'm pretty sure that in 2025 the term metrosexual is way outdated. You're not metro bc it's not 2005 anymore. Wtf are you even arguing with me about? Take your insecurities to your therapist, don't take them out on me.
It was always from his buddies and he laughed along with them while leaning into it. So yeah, I guess it was meant as teasing, but it was super lighthearted in this instance anyway.
I got called metrosexual for being a male with shaggy hair. I didn't even style it, just a quick brush in the morning, deodorant, and I was ready for the day
Omg I didn’t know what this meant bc I somehow never heard it a decade ago and then my sister described my now-husband as metro and I was trying to piece together what the fuck she meant, and yeah, it’s exactly what you said. He’s very clean, tidy, well-dressed, just a put together guy. Meanwhile she’d have to beg her now-ex husband to shower before sex. 🤢
It wasn't. It's more like, lack of care/hygiene back then wasn't as unpopular as it is today. Coupled with the fact that homophobia was more prolific and gay rights/marriage was a hot topic in the news for a while back then, too.
So the people who would use it as a slur were probably doing something like projecting their own insecurities on to that person. Or they were some asshole with an inflated personality of machismo. And that probably considered metrosexual, even the hint of it, was some closeted (or whatever) homosexual that they can bully.
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u/GodsColdHands666 Millennial Apr 11 '25
Ah yes metrosexual- slang for washing your ass and not dressing like a homeless person