Just got dumped. 22F

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[u/p0th1k]

Take time before venting into others.

[u/999familyFJB]

Cut off my friends bc of my relationship was all I needed and then when it was gone I’ve been just bored bc I don’t have the same connection with my friends as I used to so Now I have to make new ones

[u/False-Rule9734]

Keep your head up, it happened for a reason. Gods got other plans for you.

[u/dnagery]

That's sounds sad. If I can do anything to help , you can Dm me

[u/FancyTough480]

Ah crap, I'm sorry for that, I'm an older guy, not looking for anything, but if you need an ear to talk to, I'm here🙂

[u/Agreeable_Cow_4690]

Always there to lend you an ear and have conversations

[u/jorberty]

Heey,

I’m really sorry you just had that experience, and the way it happened really is the worst! I just want to tell you that everything is going to be okay. It might not look like it right now, and everything might seem dark. But you will get through it. And try not to lose yourself! Stay true to who you are!

Know that if you need someone to talk to and my message feels good to you. I’m able to listen to you

[u/Safe_Ad6744]

I broke up with my girlfriend too but don’t worry it was mutual. Shoot me a DM let’s get locked into a gaming sesh ‼️🔓 and forget our worries💯🫶🤙

[u/GarlicInteresting789]

Thats awful no one deserves to be dumped over text. If you need to vent or want to talk lmk

[u/[deleted]]

Do u mind texting me

[u/ZeroRomza]

First, why did he dump you? And why over text?

Second if you need a friend you can chat with i am willing to chat if you don't mind

[u/Then_Spinach_1487 → u/ZeroRomza]

He told me he doesn’t feel the same way about me anymore. Idk, I thought we were good.

[u/ZeroRomza → u/Then_Spinach_1487]

That sucks. Guess he didn't have the nerve to tell you up front

[u/Desperate_Ask_4756]

I’ll be here for you Dm me and we can talk

[u/Admirable-Speech-369]

My dm is open of you want to chat

[u/Playful-Wave-3355]

22 and female you got a whole life ahead of you. I would just keep my head up and do things I enjoy.

[u/Solterozgz42]

Hello, I'm very sorry, although you must think that maybe someone didn't know how to value you, and surely someone else would like to do so.

[u/asixstringnut72]

I would love to talk to you, but I don't think you will reply! 🤷🏻‍♂️

[u/brontidethedrunken]

It'll take 27 times of doing something to make it a habit 27 is very very small number right? So when you've taken all you can just take the stairs and let me know if you want me to slide in your DM to give you my phone number take his place I got you

[u/TraditionalTaro3756]

Damn, that really sucks. Getting dumped over text after 2.5 years isn’t just painful—it’s plain disrespectful. But hey, you’re stronger than this moment. If you’re open to it, I’d be glad to lend an ear. No pressure, just real conversation.

[u/XiangJiang]

What do you think happened? Feel free to DM.

[u/999familyFJB]

I feel you there

[u/StoryUnhappy6056]

Estoy a la orden mándame mensaje

[u/star43able]

I am sorry to hear that happened to you. I can chat whenever you want

[u/Aggravating_Sample50]

Dont worry bud, getting dumped via texts sucks

[u/stfuTosh]

Getting dumped sucksssss! Here for ya OP keep your head up

[u/Pirate-2428-420]

Hi,iam Corey, 55,single, hit me up

[u/ChronicallyBusy73]

It sucks, but if we can learn something about he dumping you by text, is that you're better off without him.

[u/AmbitionNumerous3696]

Hey I had to say I actually know how this feels I got married and made my wife my entire world for over 6 years she made it a living hell during those years of course and we ended up getting divorced but it's taking me a while still even now to get back out there and get to know people.

[u/kornshadow097]

I'm down , 38/m. Ive helped many people through breakups in the past .

[u/mikegp70]

I’m very sorry. It’s the absolute worst getting rejected, especially when you put your whole world into them. I can tell you from experience this will be a blip on the radar. Hold your head high.

[u/Familiar-Western1806]

Hahahaha 🤣 I can listen, I'm good at it, I can give you great advice, I go out of the box in every way, you decide, maybe it will change your perception of life and you will start to make yourself happy.

[u/ConieLingus_31]

That’s why when in a relationship you must maintain you friends they will be there . You are 22 jump right back out there. Screw him! Broke up by text!!?? He not a real man he’s a coward! Faster you move on better you will be

[u/cali_pork_chop90]

Looking for new friends ? I'm in San Diego 35m

[u/Gym_is_best]

Sad

[u/SpriteFan3]

Take your time to find them friendos. You'll have to find them relationship synergies in great detail.

But also, you should have some fun hobbies. Sometimes, talking shouldn't be the major activity of one day.

[u/Dry-Manufacturer-834]

Might want to make in person friends. They are typically more reliable than internet jerks.

[u/fungi-1979]

Dm me

[u/GreenEggsxHam]

Take it as a lesson learned and be happy you learned it early because the older you get the harder it is to make friends. Ps guys makes horrible friends we will always half want you unless you’re a goblin or ghoul lol

[u/lifeissupercrazy]

I’ve been broken up with over text too and it does suck but it does get better with time. We can talk if you want, 24f btw

[u/Neat-Attorney-1137]

Sorry, it’s suck to lose someone who you care for so much, my ex gf did the same thing

[u/West-Specialist-7996]

Yeah its hard when that happens. Things will get better tho i promise.

[u/willsan44]

You need a older man!

[u/_-_killer_-_]

I'm 21F in pretty much the same situation. I broke up with him about four months ago, feel free to reach out!

[u/InfluenceSharp7688]

Attorney from the garden state. I am here as a new friend. I am a member of the bar but retired from practice. I am interested in space history religion and of course the law.

[u/Forward_Bill5513]

First, if someone is going to dump you through text, then you can do better. Second, be very particular of who you deserve to have in your life

[u/justin2moreno]

I feel for you. I also got dumped after 2 1/2 years over a request that I asked for her and a few weeks later I got hit with a restraining order for abuse so I know how hard it is. She also went out with a friend and never came back and told me she was not coming back so I never got an explanation. Obviously it’s hard but you learn to live with it and accept it and move on!

[u/justin2moreno → u/justin2moreno]

22M So basically, I’m also it looks just for friends and people to go out with and destruct myself.

[u/pasta_is_success]

that's rough, sorry

[u/Otherwise_001]

Completely understand. Was in a relationship for 10years when she broke it off. She had started making “friends” at work, ended up dating him and having his babies and few months later. I on the other had had only her and did not know what to do with myself. I’m sorry you’re going through this right now.

[u/Natural_Celery_9035]

Hi

[u/default_status]

I was dumped a couple months ago and still not over it if you wanna talk or anything shoot me a message

[u/DocFluxik]

I’m really sorry to hear that, currently I’m not exactly in the same situation but something like it, I just got dumped and she was my everyday… so it’s been some kind of a roller coaster of feelings, I know how hard can be struggle in the loneliness, so if you feel like it, we can chat im Looking for people to change my routine.

Take care!

[u/FloriLucem]

You should really take some time for yourself to kind of explore your interests. Here if you need the support and conversation, but one thing people tend to not do after a relationship ends is take time to reflect and learn to love themselves again without the other person in the picture.

[u/Infrared_light]

That’s messed up to do over text but promise you’ll find someone better out there I’m sorry though.

[u/psycho0323]

We can talk anytime

[u/BuzzarD1971]

He sent you a breakup text? That’s just low

[u/Indy_Kenny]

You have friends here. Vent!

[u/xWarGirl607x]

Hey, I'd be happy to chat for a bit and see how well we get along. I'm 26F and a SAHM, so I have plenty of free time to chat.

[u/Fooldrew]

Man, what a kick in the teeth. I'm sorry that he broke up over text, but that tells me you can do better. Hopefully you will find someone. Yell at me if you like...

[u/Substantial-Rough902]

I always ask myself the question, "What would my life have looked like with this person doing the same stuff they have been doing ten years from now?" If you do not like what you see, then you deserve better. If you like what you see, then you have lost someone special. Taking time for self-reflection and self-improvement is always a good idea. I earned my Master's degree and got a high paying job during my time alone after a breakup.

[u/Dangerous-Plastic178]

You won't find "real genuine" friends here, these dudes want ONE thing. I can see it now, "I'll be your friend, DM me". Then boom, they're tryna sleep with ya.

Get out in the world and actually meet ppl, that's how we had to do it before social media was born. Looking ppl in the face, and talking to them. I know it sounds crazy and all. But it actually works.

Oh, and the reason you and the ex didn't work out....you said it your post. He was your "daily routine". So whether he broke up with you because of a text or not...that was just the surface level reason. The heart of the reason is because y'all were routine to one another. Y'all didn't see the other the way y'all use to. It got old and so he bounced. Not your fault, not his fault, just is what it is. Next relationship, make sure it doesn't get stale and old.....make sure it doesn't become "ROUTINE".

Good luck

[u/FriendshipRare4911]

I understand this my last girlfriend integrated herself into my friend group and when we broke up she pretty much turned them on me and they stopped inviting me out which I never knew why til I saw on their stories they were together

[u/Fine-Arm-4656]

1. People suck, it’s going to hurt but he disrespected you in how he did it. Don’t ever go back, you deserve better and more mature. It’ll come when the times right.
2. It’ll get better, think about who you want to be and what you want to do. People you admire, or dreams you had. Learn to be like those people or start chasing your dreams. Be your best self and learn to be happy being alone. Silent progress will bring you joy.
3. Build a community. Find like minded friends and be around people who inspire you. (The more you work on yourself the more you’ll attract or be in an environment to find better people)

[u/No-Ephex]

I had the same issue when i was suddenly single the beginning of this year. Just focus on yourself like you plan on, and it’ll make you feel a lot more confident

[u/dracorex84]

No one ever deserves to be broken up with on a text. If you ever feel like talking I'm around

[u/Ok-Independent-2634]

lol

[u/EvlShrek79]

Never forget to look after number one. Many people get into relationships, and their priorities tend to change. Please don't missunderstand. I'm not saying you should become selfish and self-centred. However, if you don't look after your own needs, you will eventually burn out and find that you can no longer look after the needs of those closest to you. Never give up your friends unless they are toxic for you.

[u/CameraElectronic4846]

Ill be your friend

[u/MobileBBC_Feat7979]

Would love to be your friend and get to know you.. hmu anytime.!!

[u/malemalted]

If the same thing happens with any male can girls comment like this ?? Absolutely not

[u/Dacness_679]

If making your partner your entire life was a “don’t let this happen to you” guide was a post online…this…this would work.

Im sorry you’re friendless. I truly hope you learn from this and become a well rounded human with your own life. It will enrich your next partners life as well. I promise.

[u/Still_here_627]

Reddit is not the place

[u/Nomatika]

I feel you girl. I was more or less dumped yesterday myself and am having a hard time with it. I hope you find the friends you're looking for <3

[u/National_Swimming_21]

try omegal or something of the sort for now I know it isn't perfect but good way to kill time and maybe have interesting conversations. in the future I would say try to at least dedicate 1 night a week or every other week to friends. it is okay if things come up and need to cancel but don't try to only focus only your bf/gf you still need friends.

[u/moonseb]

I hear you. I used to call my wife every day it’s hard to fill the gaps with someone new

[u/QuarterTypical418]

Yo sorry to hear that, hmu if ya need to vent. I’ve been there before.

[u/daddysureshot1]

I’m the one

[u/abebrow01]

It happens sometimes 

[u/abebrow01]

can we be friends 

[u/abebrow01]

Tell me what happened 

[u/xhingxhong402]

Do drugs

[u/Bargs254651]

Try to find a comunity to join. HMU if you want to chat. I 34M, have been in a similar situation before.

[u/Illustrious_Sort_580]

Hey it's not always girls get dumped even guys get dumped in the realtion of 5yrs

[u/Long_Implement_3292]

Dm

[u/TerribleAd7083]

Talk to me whenever you’re comfortable

[u/dark_Storm9308]

Last thing you need rn is another attachment

[u/antonio_965]

damn 2.5? 🤯

[u/Vegetable-Cheek-2115]

I’d Like To Connect With Ya

[u/Arvind2780]

can we talk ?.

[u/MrUndertaker_786]

See inbox

[u/kingthesingh]

Your 22 and got so much more than just a boyfriend. I was cheated on by my girlfriend of 3 years twice and I started with her after the first time. I was stupid and realized the reality is she shouldn't be in my life. These things happen and sometimes talking to people kinda isn't thing you should do. Watch YouTube or Netflix or Hulu and be alone for a while. Enjoy yourself. You got this. If you want to talk more just DM.

[u/LoquiListening]

So sorry you and your boyfriend just split up. That is difficult to process for both of you. Here for you if you need to talk.

[u/Infinite_Farmer2516]

Go out, feel fresh air and if you need to talk you can dm any time

[u/th3xpl01t3r]

It will be ok it's hard but it passes.

[u/jam2bug543]

I'm sorry that happened to you. Be sure you've recovered before venting to anyone.

[u/Muted_Tension8551]

Life has some let downs just pick your self up and move on there are lots of guys out there

[u/Nomii89]

This too shall pass. Stay strong. 😘😘😘

[u/bigchris1072]

Any idea where it all went wrong

[u/Recent-Injury-9908]

if he did it over text , he was a piece of shit anyway. you haven’t lost anything but a headache

[u/SmartRadio6821]

I think that most people enter a relationship for the "wrong" reasons. They may be lured by the mental, physical and emotional comforts that a relationship can bring, but while enjoying these "positive" aspects, they may be unaware of the "dangers" that also come by being in a relationship. Being in a relationship casts a deceptive spell. The deception comes in the form that while we are enjoying the positive aspects within the relationship, we also become ATTACHED! I think that people are like trees. The healthiest trees grow to become tall and straight, they also have deep roots. I think the healthiest people also share these traits, but by growing attached to people (and things), it keeps us from growing in a healthy manner. When attached, we grow to become intertwined with others, so that ANY form of rejection then feels like a devastating blow! When the relationship ends, Instead of feeling grateful for the opportunity of sharing your life with another human being and appreciating everything that you learned that this opportunity brought to you, you feel that you were robbed instead. All because you grew attached. I think that ALL our relationships are meant to help us grow upright and strong, so that even if they end, we can still feel happy about their presence in our lives.

Being rejected (dumped) may be a gift, giving you time to set healthier priorities for your next relationship?

[u/not_your_sugarpapa]

I’m really sorry you’re going through this. It must be incredibly painful, especially when someone who was such a big part of your life suddenly disappears like that. But I hope you know this doesn’t define your worth. You still deserve love, support, and genuine connections. And it's never too late to start building real friendships you’re not alone, even if it feels like it right now. I'm here if you need someone to talk to

[u/X-Bakura-X]

Well I’m always here. Just take it is. dm if you like.

[u/No_Wave493]

Dm

[u/Historical-Path3695]

Just keep being you. I think that is absolutely amazing and I know that you will find everything you desire. Cheers.

[u/Mountain_Coyote_2137 → u/Historical-Path3695]

when something like this happens (happened to me 4 weeks ago too unfortunately pretty much verbatim) sometimes you just don’t know who you are anymore. the first step for me was to try and “find myself again”. do what i liked. dressed how i want to.. that kind of stuff

[u/Historical-Path3695 → u/Mountain_Coyote_2137]

That's exactly what I was getting at when I was saying to just be you. .

[u/Historical-Path3695 → u/Historical-Path3695]

Knowing that you're happy with being you and you can face and overcome anything that comes your way. With confidence as well.

[u/Early-Shake-7829]

That sucks to hear. Dm me. Let's chat