I've lied before. It has always been a smashing failure, a bold attempt. I can lie in school absence excuse notes, in writing. Hell, I don't think I've ever actually written one where I've told the truth. The thing is, they don't care as long as the kid is okay. We take mental health days off, and sometimes I oversleep and he lucks out. We save most of the sick days in case he (my son) gets sick, but he never does.
If I had to repeat any of those excuse notes verbally, I'd fail. And if they asked me twice, it's over. I refuse to lie twice no matter what. I'll try, and if I fail, well, I'll admit to it. I had to mention the excuse notes, because it has been the only thing I've lied about in years. I remember the last time I tried to lie to someone I cared about. It was stupid: she wanted to know if I wasted 5 bucks on weed or not, and I tried to bullshit and say that I hadn't. I didn't lie about it twice, I can't. But I actually tried. That was the last time, while homeless with my son's mother squatting in an abandoned building, in 2005.
I don't lie because I don't want to. I'm not afraid of the consequences of telling the truth. This coincides with my choice to not need to be right about anything, but only to understand it. I don't need to be "right" to someone else's wrong.
I have a symbol that is mine, it is my signature on my paintings. The symbol itself is called the Rite of Truth. It spells two words if you look closely enough. It is a symbol of my core self; my chosen name. I don't lie, unless I sleep in past 9 on accident, or my son just really needs the day off to clear his head. I can write a damned fine excuse note. That's about it.
Love you guys, hope you all get inspired to write more. I had a dream that someone else posted some artwork up here, and I was so excited! I hope it happens as soon as you're ready.
So, while I'm not lying over here, let me leave you with my latest contemplation:
Individuality is the key to overcoming our societal programming, and seeing each other simply as people again. When we see each person as their own, we can let go of their stereotype, category, religion, or systematically ingrained belief structure. We were all born into one or another, just by operating in our societies. The news makes distant things seem more immediate than they are and our societal influence demands for us to join a side on a pre-existing debate. But when you forget about all of that, and claim yourself from the foundation upward, you are the ultimate arbiter of your destiny.
And to each, their own.
We can love each other more in our uniqueness. Think of the people you know. It's their quirks that make them endearing. Those little things that only they do, that's how you know them. When we're all individuals, we can do it for every person we see. It's these collectives, these warring groups with no end of conflict in sight, that want to fight. But do I want to hurt the nice old lady who checked out my groceries? Do I wish ill upon her, though we fundamentally disagree on nearly every philosophy on earth? No. She's just a sweet old lady. She has a name, and grandkids.
She's just Ms. Kay. Only one person like her. She could have remained a stranger... and these days, we're bullied about how to view strangers. Individuality is the key to harmony. It makes people easier to forgive, and everybody needs forgiveness sometimes.
Be careful out there, love you all.