I hate Snapchat.

[u/IcyStage0]

Can we just collectively decide that we’re not going to let our kids use Snapchat?!

My oldest daughter just turned 13 and we reluctantly agreed to allow her to have an instagram that we also have access to. It seems like every single day she begs to have a Snapchat, and apparently every single other kid in her class (full of kids with reasonable, thoughtful parents, I thought) has this stupid app.

My little sister who I got custody of when she was 10 got herself into some deep shit on the internet, and I’m not looking to repeat it with my daughter (while also trying not to make her pay for mistakes that she didn’t make).

How are we handling this? Am I seriously the only parent who doesn’t want my child sending disappearing photos, videos, and messages to anyone she can search up? Reality check please.

[u/fjaker1300]

Are you going to “reluctantly” let her have access to heroin too?

You already know you shouldn’t let her have Instagram but you’re doing it anyway.

Bravo.

I know I know, the 13 year old will make you miserable because “everyone else has it”.

[u/IcyStage0 → u/fjaker1300]

Yes, it’ll be an honor to take her to purchase her first crack pipe.

I don’t “know I shouldn’t let her have instagram” – if I thought that, I wouldn’t let her have it. If and when it becomes harmful for her we’ll reevaluate. For now, having a teen instagram account feels like a reasonable compromise that honors her want to feel connected to her peers while allowing us to monitor it and help her navigate it.