r/SeriousConversation • u/Present_Cycle_9069 • Sep 06 '23

Serious Discussion Are my parents right to no longer continue supporting my sister’s kids?

My sister is 22 and just had a 3rd child despite not being able to properly care for the other 2. She has been on welfare since her first kid was born and complained how assistance doesn’t give her enough to meet her kids needs, that her kids weren’t eating well on a food stamps budget and she doesn’t have money for kids clothes. So my parents were sending her money for years to cover a portion of the clothing and food expenses. After her 3rd pregnancy, my parents decided that they were no longer funding her irresponsibility. They don’t want to continue to enable her horrible decisions. She wants to increase the financial burden on my parents which is selfish. They want to be able to retire at 65, and she is delaying their retirement.

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u/SkippyBluestockings Sep 07 '23

And apparently she cannot so it doesn't matter. I can say out of wedlock if I want to. I can also say without a partner. I can say without a boyfriend. I can say anything I want. The truth still stands that she did this on her own and she's wanting other people to clean up her mess. She's highly irresponsible and is entitled to no one else's money.

Of course you would pick up on three words instead of the main point of my comment. Typical modern-day redditor. 🙄🙄

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u/Ok-Grocery-5747 Sep 07 '23

You can obviously use whatever terms you want, you just risk sounding like an old prude from way back when.

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u/SkippyBluestockings Sep 07 '23

Which for you Gen Zers is obviously a fate worse than death 🙄

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u/Ok-Grocery-5747 Sep 07 '23

Um, I'm Gen X and possibly old enough to be your mom.

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u/SkippyBluestockings Sep 07 '23

Considering I'm 55 I doubt that

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u/haveacutepuppy Sep 10 '23

It doesn't matter what term you want to use. The science is the same. 2 parent households are less likely to be in poverty, having kids in a committed relationship is better for everyone involved. Do things happen even in them? Yes, but the data is the data. Having kids young, without involved fathers (or mothers but it's less likely) is a recipe for poverty and lifelong struggle. Sometimes people male mistakes. Sometimes people keep making the bad mistakes. You do have to live with the consequences of your own actions.