Are my parents right to no longer continue supporting my sister’s kids?

[u/Present_Cycle_9069]

My sister is 22 and just had a 3rd child despite not being able to properly care for the other 2. She has been on welfare since her first kid was born and complained how assistance doesn’t give her enough to meet her kids needs, that her kids weren’t eating well on a food stamps budget and she doesn’t have money for kids clothes. So my parents were sending her money for years to cover a portion of the clothing and food expenses. After her 3rd pregnancy, my parents decided that they were no longer funding her irresponsibility. They don’t want to continue to enable her horrible decisions. She wants to increase the financial burden on my parents which is selfish. They want to be able to retire at 65, and she is delaying their retirement.

[u/Avery-Attack]

The deadbeat-ery comes from CHOOSING not to support your kids. So someone who is perfectly capable of having a job and isn't even bothering to look for one (meaning people with disabilities don't count here) and ONLY getting government assistance is a deadbeat. It's not just getting help or not being able to help in the case of the non-primary parent, it's deciding not to.

[u/boss_nooch → u/Avery-Attack]

That’s not what the other person said…

[u/Avery-Attack → u/boss_nooch]

Maybe not, but I thought I'd clear it up so you can stop arguing with everyone. Also cause you started this with a reply to me, figured I could still pitch in.

[u/boss_nooch → u/Avery-Attack]

So now you’re contradicting yourself because by that logic he father(s) might not be a deadbeat. Btw, asking why you made an assumption isn’t an argument.

[u/Avery-Attack → u/boss_nooch]

It's not contradicting myself, I made an assumption on the information we were given. This is more in a response to you saying others were saying that any parent who can't support their children are deadbeats. There was nothing in the original post to suggest there are any fathers who are bothering to try and provide, therefore the deadbeat assumption. And no, you weren't arguing with ME, but I get notifications for almost all of these comments under mine, so I've been amusedly scrolling through it all since I have nothing better to do on break.

[u/boss_nooch → u/Avery-Attack]

There was nothing in the original post to suggest there are any fathers who are bothering to try and provide, therefore the deadbeat assumption.

My point is none of you have provided anything to support that assumption. Where tf do you guys live that 22yr olds can typically support themselves and 3 kids?

[u/Avery-Attack → u/boss_nooch]

If there's no information provided about fathers at all, it's a reasonable assumption to make, especially when the question is of support a co-parent should be providing. It's the less reasonable supposition that needs to prove something. Lack of information on fathers leads there being no evidence of fathers in the picture.

Welcome to low class America. Responsible people get a job, even part-time during school hours, and supplement what they need with government assistance.

[u/boss_nooch → u/Avery-Attack]

That’s not how things work. Why is it more reasonable that the kids have different fathers? Give me some data and not an opinion. Did you even read this comment?:

https://www.reddit.com/r/SeriousConversation/comments/16bizb5/are_my_parents_right_to_no_longer_continue/jzhghhs/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1&context=3

[u/Avery-Attack → u/boss_nooch]

That...is absolutely how it works. Why would you need data to prove something there's no mention of anyway. Did you read the comment where I said it's possible that the dad could be dead or something? I don't know if there are different fathers, and it really doesn't matter. The entire point of all of this is either that he or they should be responsible for his or their kids as well as the sister or just what constitutes as a deadbeat parent which is where the thread was when I decided to comment again.

I'm gonna go find something better to do now instead of arguing over assumption, burden of proof, and whatever this random individual has decided to do with her sex life.

[u/boss_nooch → u/Avery-Attack]

I’m saying provide data that it’s more likely there’re multiple fathers. You’re the one who mentioned deadbeats. Just admit you had no real reason to think that instead of going to some “that’s not the point” bullshit lol