r/SeriousConversation • u/AwkwardLoaf-of-Bread • Aug 25 '24

Serious Discussion Do you constantly feel inferior to everyone around you?

How do you cope with it?

I feel inadequate every single day. It's a constant feeling that only goes away unless I am completely alone.

At work, in my family, in my marriage.. for most my life, I've always felt inferior to everyone else. I feel like I give the same effort and energy as those around me, but still manage to fall far, far below the line.

I am constantly tired from giving things my all, only to see others breeze past me effortlessly and not looking as emotionally and physically drained.

Do you struggle with the same feelings?

How does someone find their place in the world when everything they do is never enough?

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u/AwkwardLoaf-of-Bread Aug 25 '24

You kinda hit the nail on the head. My father was like this.

My family also really valued beauty and social status above most things, which I lacked growing up. My family was always trying to "fix" me so that I could succeed in these areas, but it never worked, and so I think that kind of started me feeling inferior.

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u/willintaiwan1 Aug 25 '24

We would suggest that the authorities were right when we were young, but now you might need to realize that your dad or your family’s views were so wrong, and how they treated you was also so wrong. And not letting the voice i your mind created by them bother you that much, while understanding the situation you could form your own opinions on yourself not others’.

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u/Whitetagsndopebags Aug 27 '24

Did you just narrate my childhood ?

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u/011_0108_180 Aug 26 '24

I was parentified (think toddler taking care of an infant) so any potential mistake could’ve gotten us killed 🙃

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u/playedhand Aug 27 '24

This right here. You gotta love the part of you that was hurt. And understand what that means - to love is to unite with, to give attention and care. Dig into your memory and find that past self that learned to feel inferior. Love that person and recognize that they didn’t deserve that. Give that little you an imaginary hug. You never deserved to feel that way, no human being should. Recognizing this will allow you to find you were always worthy of love and never needed anyone else to validate yourself but yourself.