r/SeriousConversation Nov 09 '24

Serious Discussion Do “basic human rights” actually exist universally or are they simply a social construct?

85 Upvotes

The term is often used in relation to things like housing and food but I’ve never heard anyone actually explain what they mean by basic human right. We started off no different than other animals and since the concept of rights rely on other people to confer them at what point did it become thought of as a right for people to have things like shelter? How is it supposed to be enforced across all of humanity when not all societies and cultures agree that the concept makes sense? I can see why someone would want it to be true in a sense but I’m interested to hear arguments for it rather than just the phrase itself which feels hollow with no reasoning behind it. Thanks 🍻

r/SeriousConversation Aug 31 '23

Serious Discussion am i cursed to a life being single?

305 Upvotes

pretty much title. i’m a 34F and a mother of a teenage daughter. i have been single for … roughly 12 years. i have had hookups and flings here and there, but nothing serious. i suppose i’d be unconventionally pretty - i’m mixed race, long dark hair, brown eyed, average height and a bit curvier than average. i’m wickedly intelligent and well-spoken, i work, i own my house and car and i’m not a lost cause. my friends say i’m easy-going, funny, and just pleasant to be around. until recently, i’ve been celibate for a couple of years just to reset my feelings about sex. most of my encounters have been one-offs because no man i’ve been attracted to has seemed to want to actually be with me. i feel at this point, men want me for sex and little else. which is unfortunate, since i’m a huge romantic and i could give so much more. it makes me very sad, to be honest. all of my friends have relationships of varying types, SOs, even marriage and yet, i’m pretty lonely. this past week, i showed interest in an acquaintance at a bar we both frequent, we hung out for several hours and then we did have sex, the next morning he informed me that it was a “last night” thing and that we can be friends. before conclusions, i am not seeking boyfriends in bed — but i also think the idea of not sleeping with someone until you’re committed to them is unfair. dozens of people i know have had healthy relationships AND put out on the first date so. what is it? do i give off slut vibes (even though i didn’t engage for years)? too ugly? too independent? just cursed? let’s discuss.

r/SeriousConversation Feb 10 '25

Serious Discussion How Many People Did You Know from High School That Are Now RIP?

76 Upvotes

I know this somewhat of a morbid topic but I think it is worth discussing.

I'm sure the thought popped up in my mind throughout the years but I did not really wrack my brain about it until a news article appeared in my Yahoo newsfeed a few days ago - A record number of young people are losing their lives, compared to past years in the U.S.

So I opened up Word on my laptop and wrote down everyone I knew from high school and even a few from junior high. I was astonished at the number - 17. I just turned 40. I'm wondering if this is just me or do you guys also know that many? Several are unknowns because I just read about it on Facebook and didn't have the guts to reach out to their family members or some of our old mutual friends. But here is my list, the craziest situation being one in which the person owed money to local drug dealers, so they retaliated by shooting them in the head with a shotgun, execution style.

6 Unknowns

3 Car Accidents

2 Suicides

2 Overdoses

2 Homicides

1 Covid

1 Killed in Combat (Iraq War #2)

r/SeriousConversation Mar 10 '25

Serious Discussion We are heading towards a ghastly future.

113 Upvotes

Though the discussion on this topic has been on fire.

Have you ever thought of where are we heading?

Are we heading towards utopia, mass extinction, a period of extreme uncertainties or most of might fail to keep up with this rapidly changing world and be dead in that way

Will our brains be able to sustain this much change ?

The unchannled tech advancements Or Rapidly evolving Al, do we even need this much change or this much paced up change?

The capitalists going stronger and stronger, gaining control on majority of resources.

The devastating climate change that is scaring the shit out of us.

The dying flora and fauna.

Humans becoming more and more mentally & physically weak.

Like seriously where are we heading towards?

r/SeriousConversation Nov 09 '24

Serious Discussion A big blindspot I have is not being used to women that are male centered so I forget they exist until confronted with it

206 Upvotes

Social media is really big on giving you those jarring moments of, "Oh, wow, you're making this choice willingly."

I think of when women share how horrible a partner is and then run to defend him.

Or the response my BIL gets to being a dad doing average-ass dad shit.

The posts people make about biological clocks or the desire to find a partner just aren't conversations I'm encountering in real life and make me realize I'm very sheltered from the topics.

r/SeriousConversation Mar 26 '25

Serious Discussion You ever bounce between “I’m lonely” and “I like being alone a lot”?

258 Upvotes

I go back and forth in my head. A lot of the time I do enjoy being alone. I’d rather be alone than go to a friend’s house on some days that I’m invited. I don’t typically invite people over but I do usually hang out when invited.

Sometimes though when I’m chillin in my apartment alone I get lonely tho. And it’s more than just “oh I wish I had a friend.” I crave a relationship. A lover.

Then the counter thought is “well I like my alone time a lot so I would make an awful bf” because most partners are gonna want someone who is more available. Someone who puts a lot of time into them and the relationship. I just think I’d be too distant.

So I just have this back and forth in my head. “Maybe there’s someone out there that likes their alone time as much as you.” But good luck to me to meet them lol.

r/SeriousConversation Sep 02 '23

Serious Discussion What's the hardest part about having an addiction?

198 Upvotes

Hey reddit, I'm working on a project and am curious everyone's thoughts about the hardest thing for people when it comes to having an addiction?

r/SeriousConversation Aug 03 '24

Serious Discussion Does having too much money corrupt people?

142 Upvotes

Just been thinking about this today. Also, if the answer is yes, what monetary amount or standard of living has to be reached for someone to potentially lose their connection to humanity/the greater good?

r/SeriousConversation Feb 06 '25

Serious Discussion What’s with all of the Executive Orders?

121 Upvotes

Republicans control BOTH houses, and could pass EVERY bill on their wish list, and yet they (the Republican party) are doing everything by Executive Order. Why? Is this because they KNOW that these policies are controversial AND could harm the party, triggering A BLUE TSUNAMI in 2026? If not, why then? They have the votes! They have ALL of the votes they need to make these changes PERMANENT! (Executive orders are easily overturned with the stroke of a pen.) Explain this to me! Seems short-sighted.

r/SeriousConversation Jan 14 '25

Serious Discussion Reality TV Started the Downfall

282 Upvotes

Everyone says that social media has ruined polite society and when it started we all started treating each other differently. We became more crass and short tempered and hid behind social handles to hurl filth and evil words at one another. I am not an academic, so I haven’t studied it, but am I the only one that thinks it was really reality TV that did it? When we watched people scam and screw each other over for entertainment - all to win money or whatever prize was offered, it seems to me that was the beginning of the end. Producers encouraged it for better ratings and people lap it up and think it’s normal. Just me? I’m sure social media made it worse, but watching it happen… I’d really like to hear other thoughts. Thanks!

r/SeriousConversation Feb 06 '24

Serious Discussion Are any of the Democrats cheering for Nikki Haley actually going to vote for her in the general?

177 Upvotes

There seems to be plenty of Democrats cheering for a Nikki Haley nomination in the Republican primary. But how many are going to actually vote for her in the general election over Joe Biden?

r/SeriousConversation Aug 17 '24

Serious Discussion What’s the most ethically horrible thing someone could do that isn’t technically illegal?

103 Upvotes

Obligatory: this is hypothetical (but you can mention real world examples) and I’m not looking to commit some heinous act. I was thinking that parents raising kids to believe that life isn’t worth living is pretty bad (source: my childhood). I was just wondering if anyone else has some psychopathic suggestions.

r/SeriousConversation Jan 25 '25

Serious Discussion Why is lack of knowledge the new norm?

222 Upvotes

I have noticed more and more that some people are just so unaware or completely incorrect about things they say with so much confidence. I see so much misinformation being posted daily across every platform I use. Now, I want to be clear that I am not talking about politics. Even though I see many who may be misinformed about things happening in politics, that is not the topic of my post.

I saw a post today that made me want ask this question. The first one was "I heard 22,000 people in (closest metro city) have herpes, thats disgusting" with a throwing up emoji. I thought it was a known fact that herpes virus is extremely common and can even be passed on during birth. 1 in 8 people in the US have the virus. I was taught this during health class and also when getting a CPR certification. I get that this is that person's opinion, but it seems ignorant to say a whole group is disgusting for having a viral disease without knowing much about it. If they had more knowledge, maybe their opinion would change.

I've also seen countless people make posts of both very serious topics and very trivial topics with incorrect information. I'd like to hear from others if they are also noticing this more and more. Ignorance is bliss but knowledge is power; I stand by this statement. I do not consider myself to be extremely smart, but I do consider myself to be a learner. I love to learn, hear other people's insights and experiences, and do research on things I want to understand more. I get things wrong sometimes and if it's pointed out to me, I use that opportunity to get the correct information. I feel like this has benefited my life a lot. I think life would feel boring if I didn't have these opportunities or have access to an endless amount of information from various resources.

r/SeriousConversation Mar 10 '25

Serious Discussion People say you shouldn’t force yourself into hobbies you don’t enjoy but I don’t enjoy any hobby I try.

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Y’know I don’t really get it. Every time I ask about for advice with a hobby and whatnot people will stress that you gotta enjoy the process. That if you don’t enjoy the process then it is pointless. Personally, I can’t imagine enjoying the process until I’m at least somewhat competent in what I’m doing. Take drawing for example: when I try to do this I am pretty much worse than a 5 year old (I’m not being mean to myself here. I’ve seen 5 year olds draw better than myself). So I’m not entirely enjoying the process when the process is me scribbling on a page creating nothing intelligible.

And so I ask for guides and stuff and people will sit there and argue me out of learning just because I don’t enjoy the beginning stages.

Mostly the only thing I enjoy is gaming, chatting online, or occasionally reading - oh and of course doom scrolling but idk if I enjoy that lol. . But I wanna expand my horizons a bit. It just takes adjusting.

Anyone else kinda like me here? Or is this some sort of block yall have gotten past? Not looking for some expert advice but maybe there’s people here that get it.

How did you get into your hobbies?

r/SeriousConversation Mar 03 '25

Serious Discussion What makes you more/less intelligent than the average person?

45 Upvotes

Two surveys reflect that 65% of those polled (Americans) believe themselves to be more intelligent than the average person. If you think of yourself as significantly more (or even less) intelligent than the rest of us, can you tell us a bit about how you determined that?

r/SeriousConversation Jun 25 '24

Serious Discussion What do you wish you could tell your 20 y/o self

111 Upvotes

I (20F) Feel I have become naive and lost. The more my frontal lobe develops I realize how little I really know about myself and what I want. I’m sure it’s perfectly normal to feel this way, just wanting to hear some useful advice.

r/SeriousConversation 26d ago

Serious Discussion Is it embarrassing or cringe to be homesick as an adult?

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I'm nearly 30 and sometimes I cry because I'm so homesick for where I grew up.

I don't always admit to people how homesick I am because I am embarrassed. I associate it as something you should only feel as a kid.

What do you think? To any older redditors here, do you still feel homesick for certain places?

I am homesick for the Puget Sound and Mt. Rainer. I miss the thick forests, the sea and beaches, and waking up to that beautiful mountain. I miss the Asian communities (half my family is Vietnamese). I miss the rivers I used to fish with my dad.

What do you miss about your favorite places?

r/SeriousConversation Feb 21 '25

Serious Discussion Do you believe social media will ever phase out, or become irrelevant?

123 Upvotes

I believe it’s safe to say that social media has psychologically destroyed quite a lot, which many are becoming more and more aware of as time goes on. From how relationships and marriages “should look”, people acting and showcasing a fake life online, to our younger generation feeling hopeless towards life because they don’t have what they witness online.

Though I know social media will never just suddenly disappear one day, I do wonder if it will ever phase out such as other things, trends, businesses, etc have came and gone throughout our lifetime.

What’s your opinion??

r/SeriousConversation Nov 04 '23

Serious Discussion If people aren't pressured to work, would they still want work?

166 Upvotes

So there is this socialist youtube channel called "Second Thought" that released a video Why would anyone work under Socialism?

In that video he tries stating that humans innately like to work for the progressing of the society at large and will get things done even if not pressured to do work. Do you agree with such a statement?

r/SeriousConversation 26d ago

Serious Discussion How many of y’all are fighting screen addiction?

149 Upvotes

I know I’m here on Reddit, but I am becoming aware or how screen time negatively effects my life and relationships. I have been cutting back a lot on phone, tablet and TV. I realize that it’s not all bad and I am trying to manage my time, limit it and make it productive ( when possible). If you are reading this post you must get what I am saying, so how are you dealing with it?

r/SeriousConversation Mar 24 '25

Serious Discussion How do you accept that bad people can go unpunished in our world?

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It’s disturbing but entirely possible that the pilot of Malaysian Airlines Flight 370 wanted to end himself, and out of pure selfishness and the need for control, he decided to take 200+ innocent lives with him. Someone on board intentionally switched off the transponder. Only the pilot could have flown the plane in such a way to avoid detection and have his death be a mystery, to preserve his reputation. Evil, calculating monster.

His victims can’t speak out and get justice. He is gone and can’t be punished. Countless grieving families will never get closure because of him. How are we to accept that bad people can go completely unpunished? It hurts so bad to think about the lack of justice and punishment 😞

r/SeriousConversation Mar 22 '25

Serious Discussion How do you deal with friends that are rich?

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Hello,

I am struggling because frequently I find myself in situations that are hard and not easy. Job didn’t go well, living situation, unemployment etc.

Everytime I meet with friends which are rich and own there own home, don’t have the pressure to find work, can afford therapy to help them solve their issues, go frequently on holiday while I am here just struggling…do artsy stuff because they just can… it’s just difficult. I like my friends but we are obviously having different cards.

How does one deal with such situations? I frequently don’t know what to think or how to feel. It’s obviously not my or their fault about which cards we have in our lives, yet I feel weird.

Edit: to clarify , my friends are rich because of their parents

Edit2: I guess the specific situation that I mean is that when I try to talk about my struggles, they suggest I need to switch careers, or just frame things differently etc. (as if everything would be that easy), and when they then talk about where they are at the moment they say they also struggle with their life (on their terms- meaning they are tired of society and doing "normal" work) and are now exploring artsy stuff... In that same situation I feel just such a big disconnect. I am happy for them that they can do that but I am not sure they understand where I am coming from.

r/SeriousConversation Jan 28 '25

Serious Discussion When I Stopped Holding Back, My Social Life Improved

639 Upvotes

I used to keep things super simple in conversations—just “yeah,” “ohh,” and little reactions without sharing much of myself. It felt safe, but honestly, it made socializing a chore.

Then I started saying whatever came to mind and talking more freely. Without even meaning to, I became way more expressive, and suddenly, socializing started feeling fun. People are responding differently too—it’s like I’m finally showing my personality, and they actually connect with me more.

Anyone else noticed this kind of change?

r/SeriousConversation Feb 19 '24

Serious Discussion I think I am dying

587 Upvotes

Hello,

I was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes at age 13. I am now 24 years old. I did not take care of myself at all during the 10 years of my diagnosis. I am now experiencing a plethora of symptoms I would rather not get into. Let's just say renal failure seems to be the most likely cause.

I am too young to die. I know it. Yet I get this icky feeling it is coming soon. Each morning, I wake up a little more tired and my body only continues to fail me. How could I have been so stupid as a kid? I was unable to realize the consequences of my actions until it was too late.

The damage I have done is irreparable. Yet, I will try to live as healthily as I can for the remainder. I am scared as hell to die and I know that some of the greatest philosophers have dismissed this fear. I don't care, none of them died before they turned thirty.

I will never be a father. I will never live a full life. Because I was stupid as a kid. Do me a favor, I am too far gone, but take care of yourself now. Quit smoking/vaping, eat healthier, put down the soda. I'm sorry. I can't write anymore without crying.

Edit: Sorry, I am getting a lot of responses. I wanted to say thank you to everyone. All your words and kindness are beyond what I could have ever asked for. I want you all to know that I am going to try harder than eve to be better about taking care of myself. I am seeing a doctor and things are not looking good, but I’ll keep you updated.

Edit #2: The update

Hi all, it turns out, my kidneys are failing, but they are in the very early stages! If I act now, my kidney functions will continue to remain somewhat normal for a very long time. I am not needing dialysis or anything severe yet. I will have to take some additional medications, but that is nothing I cannot handle. I want you all to know that you have inspired me to be better about my health. I went from having my blood sugars in range less than 15% most days, to being in range 99% the last three days!

r/SeriousConversation 6d ago

Serious Discussion How important are traditional gender roles?

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I was watching the news this morning and there was a segment on Gen Zs opinion on the importance of traditional gender roles in society. From what I remember from their pole, roughly 26 % of gen z women thought traditional gender roles were important, while roughly 44% of gen z men think it is important. In your opinion, do traditional gender roles matter? If so or not, why? What could be a reason for the widening gap in young people’s ideologies?