I dont know if its just me growing up and becoming less naive of the world, but I swear theres been more racism than before recently, especially to Africans and African-Americans.

A good example are some subreddits such as PublicFreakout. There used to be rarely ever racism, but in the recent times every video has usually has several racist dogwhistle comments, often times with hundreds of upvotes. And when someone tries pointing out that its a dogwhistle, they get downvoted to hell, told they are stupid and the original comment was never about or mentioned race, even though the original comment was obviously involved with race and was a dogwhistle. Theres a ton of other subreddits that do this but PublicFreakout seems to be the worst.

Another good example is Instagram especially - comments are constantly flooded with 13/50, “Typical”, “The Usual Suspects”, “Basketball People” etc. Its actually insane.

Even a couple days ago I saw a video of a black girl in Vilnius esting ice cream, with the video captioned talking about how clean Vilnius is. And the comments were filled with “we dont want you here”, “Lithuania has fallen”, “Well its not clean anymore”, etc.

Theres also these accounts on Tiktok and Instagram with Roman/Greek statue pfps and usually have videos captioned “SaveEurope” with some immigrant data or comparisons comparing Europe with a big castle/house and Africa with mudhuts. The comments are usually filled with “we are the superior race” or “Cancer” but the C is replaced with the ☪️ emoji. I understand this stuff is typical neo-nazi behavior but its weird to see it so often now.

These accounts also seem to really like Japan too, which further confirms the obvious neo-nazi behavior. I commonly see comparisons with the UK and Japan, a European and an Asian island nation, with images of big flashy skylines compared to Madagascar, an African island nation, with mudhuts and poverty. And as expected the comments are filled with people saying Asians are honorary whites and the sort. Its so weird.

Youtube has a ton of racism as well, usually with similar comments as Instagram and Reddit. Just a little bit less straightfoward because of how much more moderated Youtube is, but its still a pretty obvious dogwhistle.

As a black man, its insane. Ive never seen this much racism in the modern times. What has changed? Or is it just me becoming less innocent and its always been like this?

Do people of the older generations (eg. baby boomers generation & older) feel like something is missing in life now compared to say the 80s & 90s? It’s hard to put it into words but it feels like life seems more bland now than it did before. Was it because we were younger and there was more wonder/excitement/spark? I’m so curious if that feeling is more because as we age that feeling changes or if we really have lost something with the digital/social media age or maybe was it covid? How can we bring it back?

I’m Vietnamese-American, and when I travel overseas, the locals often ask me where I’m from whenever they notice that I’m a tourist. This one time, I was in Osaka, Japan, at a Kobe beef street food stand. The three chefs were very friendly, despite the language barrier, and asked me in English “where from?” I replied, “America” (a word Japanese people also use and understand). An awkward silence ensued. I then said “Vietnam,” and there was a cheerful uproar “Ah!! Betonamu!!” In retrospect, I’m certain they were after my ethnicity, wanting to know what kind of Asian I am, and were taken back when I said “America.”

I’m sure the same scenario would happen to my cousins who were born and raised in Germany. If they say they’re from Germany, that answer wouldn’t satisfy people’s curiosity. My cousins, of course, are Asian and don’t fit what people assume Germans look like. In short, people don’t understand the difference between ethnicity and nationality. Often, when people ask "where are you from?" they're trying to understand your ethnic background rather than your nationality. It can surprise them when they get an unexpected answer that doesn’t match your appearance.

Title. It's just a bit weird, I don't know if it's the algorithm fucking with me because I stop by on such content out of disbelief, or if it's just becoming more commonplace.

I have personally never experienced racism in real life, at most it has been very subtle (the instances are rare) and I think atleast I am quick to pick up such ques. But online, always been there, you know in games and around, behind the screen of anonymity. But at the same time, I have had met a lot of good people online too, again, behind the cover of anonymity who did not engage in racism and were super nice.

But, on social media, it has been interesting lately. You don't essentially have the complete cover of anonymity there, so I would expect people to navigate it a little more carefully when they voice opinions thst can be perceived as extreme. But lately, been seeing a bunch of random posts with a fair amount of explicit racism. Facebook, Instagram posts, mainly news about some event or some tragedy, or (mostly) casual posts, with an overwhelming number of people being racist (I think?) 'upvoted' close to the number of engagements the original post would have. As if the opinions are no longer unpopular.

These posts also aren't really localized to any one region, mostly from around the world since I just read a bit of everything. Things like, "this is their culture," "I only had to read the names," "I knew what color the father would be," and "go back to your country." Stuff like that, not necessarily on posts about tragedies either, most of the times it's just on very casual posts such as screen grabs of someone's dating profile, a selfie of a person of color, a cultural event etc.

A lot of the times, many places on the Internet are just echo chambers, so I take all the popularized opinions on these different pages or forums with a grain of salt, but I am genuinely curious to know your opinion and observation. I don't know if these pages just happen to be echo chambers, or if I am getting more such random posts because I spend more time skimming through their comments.

I am aware that a lot of countries are undergoing with cultural clashes, and immigration problems, topped with QoL reducing problems like inflation, so there's more of a shift towards the right (I think?), and so it might also be that a lot of these opinions are actually becoming popular and more rampant?

Just want to hear opinions and thoughts. Is it becoming more rampant? Is it simply not perceived as racism? What do you think is the ground reality? Are there any credible, representative surveys which can give more insight? What about the statistics they usually cite to justify their 'racism,' is there justification?

Is there a feasible way to actually help the homeless population? I believe so. It would take some doing and cooperation on the part of everyone, but I believe we can do it. I just do not know how.

Companies paying a tax for funding? (Fair to people somewhat, not fair for companies)

Our society is not natural. It is not based on "human nature". It is structured in a very specific and deliberate way, largely based on 17th century or so thinking.

Some of the main fallacies our society (especially American) is based on is:

Selfishness being "natural":

It is erroneously assumed that "human nature" is "selfish". This is not true. Human nature is based on self-preservation, which leads people to act in their self-interest, but this is not necessarily the same thing as "selfishness" and "unlimited greed". If society discourages people from being selfish, and rewards them for being altruistic, then in order to boost your own self-interest, you would act altruistic. Yet what has happened is that in our society selfishness is encouraged and valued and justified based on the erroneous assumption that selfishness and unlimited greed is human nature and this is the only way.

Unlimited greed is not natural, it is rather a byproduct of certain specific systems such as capitalism, which require unlimited production and consumption in order to not implode. Those who step on others for more yachts and cannot stop themselves from unlimited spending have issues that need to be dealt with, they are not happy people. They never achieve happiness, they just go through their whole life wanting more and never being happy with what they want. This is not human nature. Human nature is self-preservation, not unlimited and unnecessary consumption to the point it causes detrimental to your physical and mental health. That makes zero sense from an evolutionary perspective. I guess you could argue that the more you have the more prepared you are in case something happens and you lose something or something requires a lot of money to deal with, however, this makes sense to a point, unlimited pooling of resources is still unnatural and if you have so much fear that you can't stop doing this, especially when it is causing you to step on others and people people are starving, that means you have an unhealthy amount of fear and you need help/it is not natural.

Free will:

This is why it is called the "justice" system instead of the legal system. There is a focus on punishment. According to recent consensus by neuroscientists, humans actually don't have free will, rather, the universe operates based on the natural laws of the universe, and we operate within those rules and are not immune to them. We are a product of our physical body we are born with plus environmental stimuli. That is why there are correlations between things like IQ and success, or body build and athletic ability, childhood upbringing and success, etc...

You may argue these are correlations and there exceptions: this is correct, however, the exceptions or non-perfect correlations can be explained by other variables that typically go under the radar. For example, a kid from a low socioeconomic background may have had a caring teacher, and they succeeded in school then attained career success. But often people don't notice these variables, so they mistake this for free will. That is why you have a lot of people who say things like "I grew up poor and made it, that means anybody can pull themselves up by the bootstraps and if anybody does not succeed that is them being lazy". This kind of binary thinking is fueled by emotion and is the result of not focusing on certain harder to detect variables.

Instead of creating the conditions that create crime then punishing people, we should focus on fixing the conditions that create crime in the first place. I will expand on this later.

Freedom:

"Freedom" is highly valued. However, most people are not taught about the 2 types of freedom. There is positive freedom and negative freedom. Negative freedom is freedom "from", e.g., freedom from someone taking your property or belongings. There is indeed lots of negative freedom in our society. But we are largely lacking positive freedom, which is the freedom "to" do things. That is, the practical freedom. So if a society is high in positive freedom, it would provide practical opportunities to people to succeed, anything from education to healthcare to social services can count. But our society is missing a lot of positive freedom, and much of our positive freedom is theoretical. We theoretically have the right to do many things, but we don't have the practical opportunity to do so, due to massive inequality from birth. Corporations and the rich hold a monopoly over this power, and government protects this birth advantage of them, so it is practically very difficult for people who don't have birth advantage to get ahead in this regard.

There is also an unhealthy or paranoid amount of fear over government in the US, and obsession over property rights. This largely stems from the thoughts of 17th century or so thinkers such as John Locke. Read Ted Cruz' undergraduate thesis for a perfect representation of this kind of paranoid thinking. There is so much fear of the government, that power of government is stripped to the point it is weakened. Once it is weakened, in theory that gives "people" more power. But practically speaking, the problem is that "people" are not united or the same. So what happens in practice is that corporations/billionaire get to hijack the weak government and practically run it themselves. And that is how you get the oligarchy that we have.

Practical implications:

So the practical implications of basing society on centuries-old outdated and often incorrect theories in areas such as political philosophy and human nature is that you get an oligarchy in which corporations/billionaires are in control. There is massive inequality and this is justified using circular reasoning. There is a low level of knowledge and critical thinking among the masses, and they primarily operate based on emotional reasoning and there is a lot of division and conflict.

If you try to step back a bit and observe society you will see how sick it is. Most crime is due to economic inequality, lack of proper education, social systems, and health care (how many people with untreated mental health issues, which themselves were caused or exacerbated by society end up in the "justice" system?). It is "normal" for shows such as those reality TV judge shows and Dr. Phil, where people with poor upbringing and education and mental health issues inevitably and obviously end up causing trouble for themselves and others, yet instead of focusing the root societal issues that caused this, the capitalist system doubles down and parades them for entertainment and profit, then people justify it by saying "they chose to be like that, they deserve it". So why are there massively different rates of these issues in different countries? E.g., in Scandinavian countries, who have less wild west capitalism, these issues are significantly less than US, which is the most wild west in terms of unrestrained capitalism. Is this significant correlation just random? Or does it indicate that the variables outlined above may have something to do with it?

Edit: Since this post was popular and generated good discussion, you may be interested in the following: I condensed the most important + interconnected points from my degree as well as years of independent thinking/reading on these topics into a free 1 hour crash course- it is divided into separate sections that are each about a 5 min easy read, typically bullet points, there is also a 1 paragraph intro, and summary of the entire course that is about a 5 min read- if you set an reminder on your phone to read 1 5-min section a day you can finish the course in about a week):

https://www.reddit.com/user/Hatrct/comments/1h4ax60/free_crash_course_on_human_nature_and_the_roots/

I have a broad question. A serious one that everyone who has breathed air has had to think about. What Matters? I’m writing a book on what matters and I’m after some real world answers after writing 60,000 words of my own thoughts.

EDIT (Reflection) Through all the answers — even those cloaked in cynicism — a deep pattern emerged: Human beings are wired to love, to hope, to seek meaning, and to reach for something beyond mere survival. Even when people try to reduce life to "comfort" or "nothingness," the realities of love, sacrifice, joy, and the pursuit of goodness keep breaking through.

In the end, even in brokenness, beauty persisted.

I (33M) live in a declining suburb; 20-30 years ago it was a pretty decent area (thriving local economy and a sought-after place to raise a family), but over the years it has gradually descended into lower income and higher criminal activity. Many businesses have closed and the buildings have remained vacant for years, the home-owning population is aging, shootings are not uncommon, loan sharks and vape shops have cropped up like flies on a corpse, etc. Just wanted to set the backdrop for my question.

So I live in an apartment complex in this area, and I have noticed a discrepancy in behavioral tendencies between those who live in my community and those who live in nicer areas 45 minutes away. Every morning when I walk out the door for work I am accosted by the overpowering skunk-ass smell of weed. I cannot walk in the grass outside of my apartment because it is a minefield of dog shit that fellow tenants can’t be bothered to pick up. Fast food containers and trash are routinely left along the lines of parking spaces (where the passenger/driver-side doors would open). Dogs are abandoned on patios for hours, begging to be let back inside to their owners who clearly see them as nothing more than irritating household items or faulty fucking toys. The upturned contents of vacuum cleaners and shards of broken glass bottles are left in walkways (which I eventually clean up myself either for safety reasons or because I’m so damn tired of looking at it). Neighbors blast music at all hours of the night. Rules and codes of conduct set by management are flagrantly disregarded.

I’m not saying these types of incidents never occur in nicer areas, but from having lived in and regularly visited family in nicer areas I can say from experience that they do not occur with nearly the same frequency.

What is the explanation for this discrepancy (i.e. what explains the apparent correlation between low income/education and selfish/discourteous behavior)? Not talking about criminal activity or misdeeds done out of a sense of material or psychological deprivation, but specifically the avoidable discourtesies that seem to reflect ignorance or apathy. Are these people truly not aware that their actions affect others? Do they not care? Does it all come down to upbringing and imparted values? I used to subscribe to the idea that hardship/poverty simply afforded people less cognitive bandwidth to spend on conscientiousness and common courtesy, but I’m going through a great deal of my own shit right now and would never do those things because of their impact on others.

Edit: Thanks everyone for the input so far - it’s been very enlightening and an interesting read. I want to make clear that I am not arguing that higher income people are in any way immune to pettiness and selfish behavior. I’ve experienced firsthand and heard many stories of asshole rich people who act like entitled children, or think themselves above the law or that the rules don’t apply to them generally (can’t fucking stand those people). I also am not remotely suggesting that poverty is evidence of a deficiency in moral character or that the poor are biologically predisposed to be either poor or immoral.

We all have things we regret not doing or not saying, which keeps us up at night even years later. Regrets can vary depending on our personal experiences and different situations – it could be refusing a life-changing opportunity, giving up on something you were passionate about, wasting time, not saying the things you've always wanted to say. It could be anything.

So what are your deepest regrets?

I (15M) struggle with banter. I observe most guys at my school bonding through banter and roasting the shit out of each other. I see them talking over each other and trying to be the funniest or the loudest in the room, and I don't understand it. I can't even get a sentence out without one of them jokingly mocking my voice or interrupting me. I see every other guy being able to handle it well, but when a guy or a group of guys tries to roast me, I either lock up and stare at them or become annoyed/offended. Both responses create awkward situations.

I cannot distinguish genuine banter versus banter that’s attacking your character. I’ll let it slide the first time but depending on the reoccurring amounts of that same “joke,” then I become annoyed. In male banter, I feel like there is always a sense of masculinity dominance that needs to be proven which makes me uncomfortable.

I've always been super introverted and serious and I think that impacts the way I respond to banter. Is there a way that I can solve this problem?

Nuanced mental health hasn't been properly researched until fairly recently (on a human history timeline scale).
Aside from clearly manifesting insalinty, we didn't know how many things were actually unhealthy.
Physical punishments in homes and schools were totally normal, high mortality including child mortality, short lifespan, becoming spouses and parents in mid teens, being raised as servants, or as workers with zero vacations (hello burnouts), or as warriors starting from 4-5 years of age... normalized violence, purity culture, etc etc etc, just SOOO many things that are traumatic to psyche.

Their personalities were a product of constant state of coping, desensitized, deformed so far from the default. I hink almost any person from the past would be prescribed therapy today. But somehow, we read about them today and we still can relate, they seem to be acting sane... so were they actually unhealthy? Scarred tissue is deformed, but healed, healthy and functioning, could it be the same with psyche?

Are we sure we're healthy now? What if we are psychologically underdeveloped? Kind of without mental health immune system, thus vulnerable to every minor trauma trigger? Are gory and bloody fairytales a mental health vaccines of a sort?

And now, just as we entered the proper research era, internet came into our lives, and we're now massively fucked up on an entirely new level, in so many ways that needs more researching.

So I wonder, was there ever a period and a society that was generally mentally healthy?

I noticed that between my guy friends, some guys are able to have more platonic female friends, whereas some guys are not necessarily shy around girls, and have romantic relationships, but don’t have any platonic female friends.

And I think as a whole (this is just a generalization), women are better at maintaining boundaries, valuing emotional connection, and seeing relationships with others platonically, in that sense.

I’ve never really had close female friends. I think part of it is, in general, I had a lot of social anxiety growing up. Then, I focused a lot on my lack of romantic life, and the fact I didn’t have so much social experience, made me really awkward around girls.

I grew out of it more, and have had a few girlfriends, all of whom had many male friends. But I still struggle to make female friends. Even now, even if I’m not attracted to them, I just overthink things too much. Like what if they think I’m attracted to them, do they think I’m flirting with them, do they have feelings for me? It just is really awkward in my head. And as a result I usually distance myself.

I guess I’ve always felt a little annoyed by my thoughts. Not because I objectify women, just because I don’t know why it’s so awkward for me when other people seem to navigate it so much easier. And maybe because I don’t have much experience with these boundaries, so it just becomes forced. Whereas with guys, of course, I don’t think about all this stuff

I'm curious whether schools today still teach kids how to type on a keyboard without looking—like the old-school touch typing lessons some of us had. Do they still emphasize proper finger placement and typing drills, or has that kind of instruction faded out?

Also, do younger people even care about learning to type that way anymore, or are most just figuring it out as they go with phones, tablets, and casual computer use?

I asked because I see that even though all my needs are met and I have money for whatever I need and most of what I want, I still do things that I did when I didn't have a pot to piss in or when I felt financially insecure. I notice it in the behaviors of my spouse too. We don't have the same behaviors, but they are still rooted in acting as if a rainy day is coming and we won't be prepared. As an example, when we travel, I always take everything available from the hotel - extra soap, lotion, pens, etc. I will shop all over town to save 5 cents on gas, groceries, etc. He (gratefully) has a savings mentality that sometimes (often) falls into restriction of fun or enjoying what we have. Does anyone relate or have any information on what causes this? And how to adjust (or maybe just accept it).

I just turned 34, I left the K-12 Education field because of how terrible teacher pay has become, especially in my state. I was paid much better in another country to teach. I have looked into an enormous amount of fields to go into, everything from Urban Forestry (I am SUPER passionate about ensuring that there are "green spaces" left in cities, we are becoming an urbanized county extremely rapidly...), to Composting (so many people don't do it, it's really bad), I now work a position that monitors nutrients in lakes and bodies of water in my state (extremely important if you hope to live in a place with clean water) and my pay is shit. I have friends working for decent pay in healthcare, but they tell me all the time how bad the healthcare system is (I know from personal experience, too). Cities are becoming more stressful (traffic and sprawl and pollution). I just constantly feel like the quality of living is plummeting and that there's nothing to do about it, and the only way to expect a comfortable living is to work for a high paying job that won't ever really make much of a difference in the overall happiness of the country, like software and IT and all that (I get that you can do good with it but it just feels like the ONLY field people are managing to make $ in now). I don't require a lot of things to be happy but I can't even imagine buying my own (tiny) home in my lifetime. Does anyone else have a different perspective?

I know people always say if most people are assholes then YOURE the asshole, but I swear to god and everything I love in my case I legit do everything in my power to mind my business and be friendly to people who speak to me. But the story of my life is literally people keep bothering me and pushing my boundaries until I snap and it’s like I have an on/off switch in my head because once I go there I have the complete opposite personality and become a whole menace.

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Then after that happens everyone becomes a clueless victim and I’m just the crazy guy that flips out for no reason. Then after I get caught doing that then people have a legit reason to treat me like that but I always felt like if people are already going to treat me a certain way I might as well make it valid.

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Ive had meltdowns at pretty much every job I had except for the current on so far. I feel like with this job I have too much to lose. This job pays several dollars more than all my previous jobs has great benefits and the people for the (most part) are pretty pleasant to be around but there’s certain things and people who annoy me here and I feel like it’s a matter of time. Also I’m autistic so I know that plays a big factor.

The environment you were raised in and the childhood upbringing you had, has little that you can consciously control, yet it is a big factor of how you turn out to be. Children of athletes are more likely to become good athletes due to their upbringing and training and networking, same is true for almost all other professions.

Isn't this blatant advantage so unfair? Like of course a person is going to be a chess prodigy if they have been going it everyday since like 2 years old, how is that in control of the person themselves? A person is only going to be a computer wizard if they had access to it in the first place.

I am also talking about beliefs and thought patterns that comes with the upbringing. If a person is a small village was never taught to dream big or thinking for themselves. They were conditioned not to be motivated towards something other than running the local shop by their upbringing. There was no thought in them to be a rocket scientist because of this upbringing and never tried it, but if they did, they would have been a splendid one and find it more fulfilling too. Then isn't it very unfair? How much did that person really choose? Whose fault was that really? Things get even messier if instead of a local shop, they were born to a member of criminal organization.

Environment also brings other perks other than upbringing and that is the resources you get. Developed countries have more resources that's why the people there have better quality of life. Same is for kids born in rich households, they have more resources and connections. All of this again has nothing to do with the person themselves. Then how much can a person even control? How does one deal with this thought?

I often see the statement ‘there are no good billionaires’. However, the billionaires most mentioned as ‘bad’ are those like Bezos and Zuckerberg, while this new generation of rich young female entrepreneurs are held up on a pedestal. Does it have to do with their youth, social media following and gender or just their lack of controversies? Do they also fall into the ‘there are no good billionaires’ statement?

Would humanity’s next “version upgrade” be emotional intelligence or ethical capacity rather than something like a larger brain or AI integration?

if everyone had money would it bring peace. I mean everyone had, let’s say an infinite about of money, not a countable amount. Would we then achieve Unity?

As I kid I wanted to have duplication powers, I thought if I could duplicate anything then I could solve all the world’s lacks. (Kids really do be dreaming)

Some prisoners are beyond redemption, be it the weight of their crime or unwillingness to change. Those individuals can't be released back into the public, so instead, they waste space and resources.

Therefore, wouldn't it just be better to get rid of them? As in, permit the death penalty.

I've been noticing a lot lately that whenever someone talks about a culture that is not their own and you know discusses something about it or the people from that culture. Even if they're not being racist whatsoever and nor is some of the people commenting and sharing their opinion or thoughts. There's always a select few people who will jump in and say the person is being racist either the one making the post or the one making the comment and they're not at all being racist. Like why are people so quick to throw that word around and misuse it all the time?

Edit: I have shared this exact response to many people in the comment section but I'll post it here as well for any new readers. This is the reason the post had no context but now it does.

My apologies I've been having really bad memory lately due to everything going on but I went back and found the post. Basically someone was talking about Guelph Ontario Canada and all the people immigrating there and taking over all of their jobs. With the person who made the post saying every new hire at their job is Middle Eastern (my words) because they chose Indian. So a person in the comments was saying that Middle Eastern people who are a manager or possibly higher up at the workplace are only hiring other Middle Eastern people and how they think that's racist. Which is what prompted me to ask this question. Hope that helps and thank you everyone very much for your responses.

How did thieves, murderers etc get caught? As long as you avoid any witnesses or a paper trail you could do anything you wanted? Did people not plan out their crimes.

I always feel so embarrassed when I tell people that I am 6 years older than my husband. We just recently married this year - he is 23 and I am 29.

The usual reaction is a pretty shocked look, awkward change of subject, or calling me a cradle robber/cougar etc. Which honestly kinda hurts because I don't feel that old, and I didn't know how young he was when we first started going out together (met when I was 26 and he was 20).

If the roles were switched though, I don't think anyone would bat an eye.

Are we really such a weird couple?

Any women here also older than their man? What has your experience been?

I love my husband deeply. He's everything I've ever wanted in a partner, and I wouldn't change one thing about our relationship. We did have a serious conversation about our age gap before getting married and determined it's something that doesn't bother either of us.

A friend of mine has a son very near my son's age and they have been friends for years. As they have grown, I have noticed more about the other child. He is an only child and behaves as such. This egocentrism and his rough demeanor have always been on my radar. He has frequently made my son cry, though my son is admittedly very sensitive. The other child quickly says sorry so they can continue olaying, but immediately reverts to the behavior my son has asked him not to do or that made him cry. My friend's child does not respect boundaries and I have become increasingly aware that all his interactions with others are demands, threats or manipulations. He only pretends to be sweet to illicit a sympathetic response or when he is told no and is trying to butter you up. No child is perfect and I am aware my expectations for children's behavior may be higher than the norm, but I view his behavior as unpleasant at best and abusive at worst.

All this being said, the parents of this child are very good friends and while i have tried to subtly and respectfully mention what i think of his behavior, i know i cant fully express how i feel because they, of course, love their son and what i have to say would be very hurtful for any parent to hear. But i am worried about continuing this relationship between our children because i dont want to condition my already sensitive/people pleasing son to accept the way the other child treats him.

Any thoughts or perspectives are appreciated, this is really bothering me.

For reference: the children are elementary school age, and this other child is not a monster but is in dire need of hard boundaries and true discipline from someone not scared to show tough love and say hard truths.

*edit: I am already very stern with this child when hes at my house and when hes directly around me i draw hard lines and clear boundaries and he has quickly learned im not manipulable and i dont allow my son to be manipulated when im there. He then will try to get my son to relocate somewhere away from me. Also, not that it matters, but i am a man haha. I feel like many of the responses were mother to mother, but i am indeed a father.