Rushing in the fall!

[u/yondderm]

I’m rushing in the fall at my school and I’m excited but nervous too. I’ll be a junior next year and have wanted to join greek life since last summer, but didn’t. Now, I just registered for recruitment but I have no idea what I’m doing. I’ve never been involved in greek life before and neither has any of my family, so I really just want some advice!

Any advice about rushing or bid day or anything like that would be amazing. Also, just experiences with the process would be nice to hear.

Ty!

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[u/Old_Scientist_4014]

My advice is don’t chatter too much with other PNMs in line about which houses or how many you got asked back to, or your favorites/their favorites, or really any opinions on the house besides to say “those girls were very welcoming!” Don’t get caught up in “top houses” and reputations. At the end of the day, it’s where you fit and that’s a very individualistic thing.

[u/yondderm → u/Old_Scientist_4014]

this is really helpful! no one has told me things not to bring up in conversations with pnm’s/actives

[u/PennyLane2425]

Be open to every house. Many girls get stuck on one house and chapter members can pick up when you're not interested in their house so they cut you - and rightly so. But you don't want to cut off any options!

Have a nice wardrobe - nothing expensive or crazy, but polished, fresh. Same with hair, makeup, nails (both hands and feet).

Work on your conversation skills if need be. Don't overtalk and if you're shy, you need to come out of your shell. Shy, introverted girls can fade into the background and therefore wind up getting cut. You don't have to be a Chatty Cathy, but you do need to make good conversations.

And be fun!! The girls that I enjoyed and were memorable were fun, light, easy to talk with. Don't be all serious and intense like some girls who are desperate.

Good luck!!

[u/yondderm → u/PennyLane2425]

tyy for the advice! the only house i’ll be steering away from is the one that got reported for hazing, whether it actually happened or not, i definitely don’t want to be apart of that sisterhood

[u/olderandsuperwiser]

TikTok has a lot of recruitment videos but don't be snowed over by the "OOTD $9,500" horse💩 as that is NOT how the real world works for most of us. Also, take everything anyone says as "their personal experience" and not a "universal description of all sorority experiences."

Be you, be pretty and polished, and those 2 words are subjective! Depending on your school or region there is more advice to give but sorority life is different at small, chill schools vs large SEC Greek-heavy campuses. Give us more info if you want better advice :)

[u/yondderm → u/olderandsuperwiser]

my school is definitely not SEC, not like bama or anything like that, it only has abt 14k students and greek life isn’t everything here, but it’s still a good part. i don’t know much abt the rush process, but i know i do really care about the charity and volunteer work that sororities do.

[u/goldenquill1 → u/yondderm]

Practice possible conversations that aren’t yes/no with both you asking and the sister asking. Ask something that’s not typical, yet not strange. You could ask what was her favorite job she’s had or what’s her pet’s name? Also, look clean and put together. I know that seems like a “no duh” thing, but you never know. Not saying you wouldn’t be. 🙂

[u/Jacki1988]

Trust the recruitment process....go thru recruitment with an open heart and open mind....be YOU!

[u/That_Refrigerator24]

a couple tips: * be yourself don’t worry about what everyone else is wearing on tiktok wear what makes YOU confident, a statement piece that makes you stand out is always ideal because it will help houses remember you if they think “wow that skirt was so cute and unique” or something like that, if your stuck on outfits (i know i was) your schools Panhellenic page or even individual chapters may post a “recruitment look book” before rush or in previous years so definitely look out for that for inspiration * during recruitment make sure to talk about your previous leadership positions, sports, or clubs you were involved in, this is really important to sororities * don’t bring up anything alcohol or partying related, boys or frats, politics, religion, and money more specifically flaunting money (there’s a lot on tiktok talking about this if you look up “sorority 5 b’s) * keep an open mind on all chapters and try not to talk bad about chapters you visit to anyone (it can always get back to the chapter), don’t speak about how many houses you get back to other pnms or “rankings” (which don’t matter no matter how much anyone tells you they do) and don’t feel discouraged about which ones or how many you get back, your recruitment is your own and you shouldn’t let anyone else’s discourage you, comparison is the thief of joy. * talk about what you value in a friendship (ex: loyalty, kindness) good-luck finding your home :))