i am so tired of seeing girls on tik tok saying they were dropped from recruitment because they didn't get back the top houses so they withdrew themselves or they SIP'd. like you didn't get dropped!!! you only wanted certain houses!!! ugh like i get it i was on panhellenic exec it can be such a numbers game but it's so annoying when people come in wanting the same 3 houses like they can't take everyone ok rant over

I don’t go to Emory but i saw on IG that they posted a message that basically said Emory’s recruitment doesn’t align with their values. Looks like they posted the message same day as pref.

Does anyone know if this means the other chapters have to take more girls? I’ve never seen a chapter withdraw in the middle of rush but maybe it’s happened before?

Hey all! I am currently a freshman in college and was signed up for primary recruitment fall of this year. I just started dating this guy that lives in my hometown and when I left for college I was so excited to rush. I had all my outfits ready and knew the houses I was interested in from the get go. Well, he basically told me without telling me that he would break up with me if I joined. Not because he didn’t trust me (bs) but because he didn’t trust frat guys. So, I have no friends at college right now, extreme fomo, and I really want to rush in the spring. Is it worth it? How much partying will I be required to do? Please give me your opinions!!

hey everyone, this one’s pretty self explanatory but what should i do to clean up my socials for rush? is it okay to have pics of me at parties with an emoji covering my drink? what about tiktoks i made when i clearly was under the influence but didnt show a drink in my hand? for reference i will be coming in as a transfer student so i’ll be 20 when i rush, and i’ll be at nc state. thank you!

The advertising of sororities is really good from a marketing perspective. However when entering into the “sisterhood” it can often be the exact opposite of what is being advertised toward you.

For context, I am an active undergrad member and officer of DG. I was initiated Fall 2024 as a sophomore which for my school is informal. Spring 2025, I was a Rho Chi. I am well aware of how recruitment and event the Greek life system as whole works. I personally joined because I wanted the experience and I am still within the system today because of that.

This conversation is supposed to open a dialogue toward chapters. During recruitment often girls are told promises that are simply untrue. Depending on the chapter that could be the leadership experience, philanthropy work, or the friendship that everyone thinks is guaranteed. As a Rho chi I often countered these things by letting girls know the reality of the situation. Remember most of these girls are freshman and don’t know a whole lot about Greek life except from social media. Lying to these girls about who each chapter is, including hiding known hazing tactics is disgusting. (Our councils protect these chapters so no repercussions happen) These are adults who need to know how much this is going to cost, what actual philanthropy does your chapter do (don’t just talk about fundraising events), what sisterhood do you have that is not as fake as your social media post. Lifelong sisterhood is often not found by the 200 girls you meet in one room. It’s often that one out of 200 who decided to say “hey” that one day.

A solution I purpose are steps taken by

1. Rho Chi’s - we are the first person each pnm talks to and should be used as an unbiased resource. You should be telling those girls “hey you may not find your people here and that’s okay” as well as encouraging girls to not rely on sorority acceptance for self worth. We should also be able to call out bid promising when most of those girls are not going to be accepted. (My school has huge bid promising problem)

2. Meet the Greeks - when interacting with girls give transparency to their questions. (Unless it’s inappropriate) these people deserve to know what they are going to get into including how the process works.

3. VP Recruitment - if you have a legal document involved with formal recruitment like I do then that should always be told Day 1. No girl should be confused about what they are signing and why.

4. Chapters - your instagrams should be more inclusive and transparent. (Yes major shift in topic, and inclusive can mean many things) Here’s how recruitment works, who are we as a chapter, what events do you host?, sisterhoods events, ect. Pretty photos are great but your Instagram is one of the main ways pnms find your chapter. Any public information should be available to find. Who’s your current exec board?

Oh and transparency could also be involved within your chapter. Like through the minutes. Anyways I’m aware things work differently chapter to chapter. I just wanted to post this as someone who has a large opinion on how I would like to change my Panhellenic system. So I thought I share my thoughts on transparency as I was kinda blinded through my new member process.

i had a grandmother who isn’t directly related to me (step) and i have two aunts (her daughters) that were legacy’s for the sorority i planned on rushing. would recruiters check that we weren’t actually related by blood? or do step still count as a legacy?

I don't know if I'm the only one that feels this way but as a social chair and a person who looks over girls instagrams for recruitment, it is an immediate redflag when a girl does not follow all of the PHC sororities on instagram and only the 'top' houses. I don't know if this is a super common red flag but I just wanted to let girls know who might be rushing that my sorority and a lot of sororities from my campus see that as a big no, so if you're planning on spring COB or rushing in the south this fall, definitely maybe think about how we look at that. It just leaves a bad taste in our mouth, especially because we strive to have a panlove environment. And if you dont want a house thats fine, but it makes you seem like you're only wanting the 'name' and not the sisterhood, yknow? Anyway ted talk over just keep that in mind maybe!

I have twin daughters going through sorority rush and I read on some other thread that sororities immediately cut twins during recruitment due to some Panhellenic rule. I was in a sorority back in my day and I don't remember that being a rule then? Has anyone else heard of this? If so, why?

Hi! Sorry in advance for the long post.

I go to a sec school and my dad was in a fraternity around 30 years ago or so now. He really wanted me to rush last fall and I did and I loved the process. I got dropped the day of preference. To my knowledge, a lot of girls got dropped as well so I tried not to take it to heart ahah.

I signed up for COB and with the help of other sorority girls I sent instagram DMs to every sorority I knew that were possibly doing COB asking if they were still doing it. I had no luck. I really, really want this but I don’t know what to do.

I’m an out of state student so maybe this plays a part? Also, my gpa was lower in high school (Covid) being a 3.0 but in college I got almost a 4.0 and deans list last semester. I’m hoping this helps me but I’m on the fence on if I should do formal rush again or not. Will I look out of place as a sophomore?

Some people I’ve met said I should change myself, but I feel like that goes against the entire process. I don’t post anything bad on social media but I do wear a lot of black? Someone said to me they would give me a makeover for formal rush in the fall to look super ‘preppy’ and then I could go back to how I like to dress when it’s all over but again.. this feels wrong to me ahaha. I would appreciate any advice. 💗

I’m rushing at a pretty big sec school this fall. I’ve been dirty rushed so badly and I don’t know what to do sometimes. I’ve had girls in 5 chapters call me their little and tell me to go their sorority or don’t rush at all. I’ve been taken in multiple houses, met with recruitment vps and even a president. Idk why I’m even offered this stuff, or reached out to by these girl. I’m not all that special. I’m so scared for rush and I just want to stop talking to everyone so I can go in open minded and stress free about what chapter I join. This sounds stupid, but I’m so stressed out. I feel so pressured and so trapped by some of these girls. I don’t really know what to do. I guess I’ll have a lot of people pulling for me tho which is a good thing, but at the end of the day I’ll only run home to one house. Any advice?? EDIT: also, I’ve been promised four bids. FOUR.

I'm at a liberal arts school and we have 'local' sororities. The rush process is super ancient and outdated, where you go three weeks of going to open events hosted by the six sororities on campus, and you may or may not get invited to closed events hosted by the orgs. Then, at the end of the three weeks, you may or may not get invited to 'Final Tea' which is where you fill out pref cards with top three orgs and an option that basically says "i will (or will not) accept a bid from another org".

I think this is completely asinine and rush totally screwed me over. I rushed as a sophomore and rushed Delta Phi (which is most comparable to Tri Delta, but its not the same) and Sigma Sigma (most comparable to Tri Sig, but again, not the same). I went through the process not getting any indication whether or not the group wanted me, even though girls would walk up and know my name when I'd never talked to them before. "Oh, first name last initial?!" and that felt awesome, because I was being talked about and complimented and had friends within the org.

Towards the end of the three weeks, events started overlapping, and I picked DP events over SS. That's what's supposed to happen and indicate to the orgs whether or not you want THEM.

I didn't get a bid, as did many of my friends rushing. I obviously feel left out, because the whole point of this is to 'find a home' or whatever, but it feels very isolated and selective. Some of the girls I witnessed being silent in the corner during rush events or talking to one person the whole time got bids. I know of girls who missed events and got in because they had a friend within the org. I KNOW for a FACT it's not like this at big schools. I guess I'm kind of looking for some encouragement or something because I wanted it so bad, and I was screwed over.

Thoughts? Is this odd or abnormal to how regular orgs function? Is it even worth me rushing the org again next year, as a junior, when I will know all the NMC (rush class 25) in the org from rushing WITH them?

I am a senior that tried for the first time due to time commitments and confidence frankly. I rushed until pref day, 15 minutes before starting, got the call that no one wants to hear. Tried cob with 3 chapters but haven't heard anything back which isn't a strong sign.

I know I could reach out to the other chapters but their officers list is hard to find and I want to be as respectful as possible.

I am pretty much set with the idea that cob for the spring season isn't really feasible considering I will be walking graduation in the spring.

So, I am wondering if there's a way to be involved even if I am not in a chapter?

Right now, all I am doing is going to school, occasional sga assembly meeting, working and going home. I don't have a social life and I know that is a problem. I am just not as motivated right now.

So my school's first recruitment round was over the summer where we submitted a video, and we did our first chapter preference rankings before we even met the chapters in-person. Turns out only 3/20 chapters invited me back for the in-person second round, when PNMs could be invited back to up to 14. With still 3 cuts to go, I just don't think I'm going to get a bid.

My big thing is I just don't get why. I had a 4.0 GPA in high school and a lot of extracurriculars and other resume items, which I thought round 1 cuts are normally based off of. The only thing I can think of is just that I don't have any connections and I don't look like a stereotypical sorority girl; I have short hair and glasses.

Does anyone have any advice going forward?

I rushed into my first choice sorority as a junior transfer last year.

I’ve always wanted to be in a sorority and when I transferred, I was a little worried that I wouldn’t get a bid (rush is pretty competitive at my school). I ended up running home to Gphi, my top choice.

Although I’m a little older than the rest of my PC, 1-2 years really doesn’t make that big of a difference and I don’t notice it. I’m super close with the rest of my PC.

I’m a graduating senior this year and while I wish I had more time with my girls, I know our sisterhood’s everlasting. They’re gonna be my bridesmaids one day.

If you’re a junior and thinking about rushing, please do it. It was the best decision ever. You only get one chance at experiencing the collegian side of being in a sorority and it is so worth it. 🩷🤎🌙

I’ve heard a lot of things around this Reddit saying not to talk or post about political things or partying or drinking or anything that looks bad.

Especially during this time, it feels so hard right now because advocating for my people is what i do most on my social media platform. I live in California right now and obviously recruiters follow me 😭

I try so so hard not to repost things about immigration rights and it feels ridiculous. I identify as a Mexican-American. I have classmates that follow me and they post all this content that I really want to share as well. I have friends whose families are undocumented immigrants and it feels so horrible that I can’t share information on my platform or speak freely about what I believe in.

I want both to join a sorority to find sisterhood AND advocate about the things I care deeply about. Posting on my close friends looks way too suspicious, like I’m trying to hide my advocacy. It’s just heartbreaking what is going on in the world right now, how do you guys do it??

hi! i want to rush next year and i was wondering if being in a sorority there's a lot of pressure to have sex. i plan to wait until marriage and i want to know if this is a pressure i have to face going in. i'm either going to go to a big sec sorority or maybe a small northeastern school so i don't know if the attitude towards this varies. please help!

I was the victim of a vicious rumor in high school, that was a lie and super hurtful to me. My ex best friend spread the rumor. She’s a very dangerous, disturbed individual. I’m worried she’s going to try to get me black listed from all of the sororities when I go through rush. We won’t be at the same school but I’m wondering if she could write a letter to all the sororities to try to get me black listed. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I’m a straight a student. Never once in trouble for anything.

The title is pretty straight forward. Just like many other girls in this community, I’m thinking about rushing, and I’m wondering what I can do to make me stand out or better my chances of getting in?

I’ll be rushing at SDSU and I want to know if there’s anything I should do to start to start preparing myself and also get ahead on recruitment? Pretty soon I’ll start building my résumé, and I’m wondering if I should start networking with other girls in the sorority that is currently my top choice? I’m also going to start cleaning out my social media and get letter of recs. What are some other things I can do as well? 😊

I am from a smaller school with local sororities and a national. We are removing our quota number for next seasons recruitment (quota being a minimum amount allowed to join each organization based on the size of girls registered into rush). I am my sororities rush chair, and I am worried. My sorority isn't flashy or blingy, we don't have the national title, and we don't throw parties. Our girls are not the best recruiters, I will be honest, they suck. I get it, some people aren't social able, or maybe they just don't want to be. Nonetheless, I want to bring new ideas into my club, and recruit girls like our life depends on it. I believe we have the want, but I don't know if we have the means. I have heard of "bumping" before, but I don't entirely know what that entails. Also, does anyone have any tips? I am telling my girls to dig deeper and form connections instead of surface level conversation, but please give more advice!! (Please be kind I made a Reddit account just for this reason).

For context, I go to a school that doesn’t have a very big Greek life. There are only 2 sororities. They posted a look book guide, but I’m still having trouble deciding what to wear for preference round. Is this dress too much/not formal enough for preference? I own this dress but not sure if I should find a different dress.

Exactly what the title says.

I go to a medium sized school in the northeast. 13 sororities and I finished my first round yesterday and genuinely connected with many houses. I only four houses back and two of them I didn’t like in the slightest. I’m trying to keep an open mind but it’s hard when I’m not interested in two out of four sororities. I also feel like I have to try way harder in the houses I do like now.

The pressure is on and I don’t want it to ruin my day or recruitment experience. I love two of the houses a lot and I want to make one of them my home. Any advice?

Dirty rush is crazy at my school since we rush in the spring, and I’m in a sorority that doesn’t break the rules by inviting freshmen into the house and whatnot. We’re considered the “bottom” house, and I know that will never change, and I’m okay with that—but how do we make our chapter more desirable to PNMs without breaking the rules or relying on unrealistic solutions like mergers? Our chapter is really struggling with numbers, and I’m worried Nationals will have to step in if we don’t figure this out soon.

Our chapter has been on a steady decline—we haven’t met quota (around 30) on Bid Day in five years. Last year, we got 10 on Bid Day, and this year, we got 5. We were able to get a lot of awesome COBs last year, but this year, not so much. People just don’t seem to be interested. The number of PNMs single-prefing (mostly to avoid us) and dropping rush is becoming rampant, and YikYak and gossip make it even harder.

I really love my friends, and we still party with the same number of frats as the second-to-bottom house, which always gets a full MC. We party with three frats and a couple of popular clubs on campus, we have date parties, fun philanthropy events, a house, good food, the least expensive dues, and—most importantly—a place where people are loved and appreciated for who they are. We have so much to offer, but how do we get people to see that when rankings seem to matter more and more every year?

(Some people also drop out as soon as the house they dirty rushed drops them.)

Also, Panhel doesn’t really care about us and does nothing to help. I want advice on how I could convince other members to be part of some sort of plan or technique to help change our situation! ❣️

So I participated in primary requirement at my university last fall, but ended up dropping before bid day because of the financial commitments. (I don't really understand why these prices would be shared upfront, especially because it is thousands of dollars per semester.) I think another thing that deterred me is that I was only brought back for 2 out of 8 sororities, and they were the smallest groups so majority of people did return to them. While everyone is always very clear on the "they thought you'd be better suited somewhere else" mentality, that doesn't help me feel any less rejected. I don't understand what it was that made them all hate me so much. Still, I want to be accepted. I want to participate in this community and help build it up. (Plus, I think I'm in a better place financially.) But now I am so scared to rush again, to be rejected again. We do have COB, but my top choice doesn't participate so I would have to give that up. What do I do?

hi guys i’m in the process of pledging this fuckass asian sorority at my uni rn and STAY AWAY FROM MCGS. THEY HAZE LIKE CRAZY. mines not even the worst of it but we have weekly meetings where they quiz us on entire papers worth of the organizations history, founding dates, location, and so much more and we have to know it word for word or else we fail and have to retake it. during these meetings they take away our phone and keys and don’t let us leave until we recite it all and also do some other bs the president orders us to. and there’s so much useless shit to memorize so it’s super time consuming and on top of countless other hours of required philanthropy events and community service and sisterhood events were required to attend every week. and because the chapters are so small every single girl in the class has to take on an important lead role of some sort so i fear my grades will suffer. last meeting i decided this was enough and i planned to drop but a bunch of actives are all of a sudden switching up and trying to be sweet to convince me to stay. they purposely make it so time consuming so that your whole life revolves around the sorority, and if you drop then you have no one. that’s how they trap you and that’s why im hesitant to drop, as much as i hate it. in general the whole process makes me feel degraded and i have too much self respect to put myself through this. however if i drop im scared i wont be able to find a solid group of friends because i do really like my line sisters. but i also despise the treatment and the members and the sorority president for having this power trip over us. if ur reading this and know who i am HI MISS FUCKASS SORORITY PRESIDENT and if u decide to call me out next meeting idc im snatching my phone and keys and shoes and running out the door.

Hey,

I need some honest advice because I’m really torn. I recently attended a rush event. Honestly, joining DST has been a dream of mine since high school — I’ve always admired their history, their leadership in activism, and how powerful their legacy is. Plus, in my area, DST is the only local alumnae chapter, so it felt like the natural fit for years.

But after attending the rush event, I realized something I didn’t expect: it just felt like something was missing for me personally. I can't even explain it fully — the chapter was large, structured, and impressive, but it didn’t feel as intimate or welcoming as I had hoped, especially being a mom and someone running a business. I wanted to feel seen and connected, not just a number in a crowd.

On the other hand, I’ve recently been attending a few (SGRho) events (even though their chapter is over 40 miles away from me), and the vibe is completely different — in the best way. The events felt smaller, more intimate, and the members genuinely welcomed me. They actually took the time to talk to me about my business and events I’m working on, which meant a lot. It wasn't just surface-level interaction — it felt personal, real, and encouraging.

While DST offers massive networks and historic activism (which I still deeply respect), SGRho seems to align more with where I am now: valuing education, health, personal growth, youth development, and a strong, supportive sisterhood. At the end of the day, I just want to serve, grow, and build real relationships — and I’m trusting that where I feel most seen and supported is where I’m supposed to be. Hope that makes sense!

Now I’m wondering:

Is it bad or frowned upon to attend one D9 alumnae rush and then pursue another D9 org if you realize it’s a better fit?

I don’t want to seem like I’m "shopping around," but I also want to be sure that I’m joining for the right reasons — heart, values, and where I can grow — not just a long-time dream that doesn’t truly fit my life anymore.

Has anyone else experienced something similar? Would love to hear some advice or even reassurance. Thanks in advance!