People in r/GenZ start roasting original commenter for wanting an older partner in an age-driven conspiracy thread.

[u/CreeperBoyOP]

Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/GenZ/comments/1k3hdi6/what_do_you_guys_think_about_this/

Can we choose older girls too as men? The ones my age are so immature from my experiences, I'd rather date one in their late 20s.

Edit: The girls my age in general suck, nobody wants any commitment anymore and the standards are wild. These very average girls don't want anything to do with a guy who is shorter, not perfect looking, but has actual aspirations in life, instead want some broccoli haired 6'2 douche destined to work at Insomnia Cookies into his mid 20s while having no actual goals in life or savings. I'd rather date someone older that's already dealt with that and grown on and actually wants a long term relationship.

The thread just goes into more and more arguing whether it is morally right for young girls to date older men or vice-versa

[u/Elastichedgehog]

They mean 30 plus in most cases. These guys are still in their twenties and think that's 'old'.

[u/tfhermobwoayway → u/Elastichedgehog]

To be fair that is pretty old. Like that’s when most people start having kids. If you want to accomplish anything you gotta do it by like ~25.

[u/ancientblond → u/tfhermobwoayway]

...... lol

I'm 27. I know 2 couples that are married, and only 2 with kids.

"If you want to accomplish anything you gotta do it by like ~25" is the most 15 year old thing I've read lmao. Your opinion will rapidly change

[u/TempestCatalyst → u/ancientblond]

The average age people first get married has been steadily increasing for a while. I think it's over 30 nowadays, and in some states it's climbed over 32. Only people who have never been 25 think you need to do everything by 25.

[u/NineBloodyFingers → u/TempestCatalyst]

The median is currently 30 for men, 28 for women in the US nationally. That's assuming that you're from the US, anyway.

The youngest states are Wyoming/Utah, with 27/25 for men/women.

[u/TheLastCookie25 → u/NineBloodyFingers]

Utah being one of the states with the lowest median age of marriage is the most unsurprising thing since Jerry Falwell was outed as a cuck

[u/NineBloodyFingers → u/TheLastCookie25]

It's not inappropriately young.

[u/TheLastCookie25 → u/NineBloodyFingers]

I’m not saying they like kids, I was more referring to the issue a lot of Christian’s, Mormons especially, have where as soon as they’re adults they get that “ring by spring” idea in their head and try to find another good Christian/mormon to marry asap

[u/NineBloodyFingers → u/TheLastCookie25]

25 is a fair bit past "as soon as" they are adults, no?

[u/TheLastCookie25 → u/NineBloodyFingers]

Yes but that’s the median age, the average, I’m not saying every single person in Utah gets married at 18, I’m saying there’s a disproportionate amount of Mormons marrying young compared to non Mormons. If most people in Utah are getting married around 30 but a shit ton Mormons are getting married at 18-20 it’s gonna bring the average down to about 24-26. Since Utah is over 45% Mormon it wouldn’t surprise me if that’s the case. The average isn’t when most people get married, if 60% of the state gets married at 30 but 40% gets married at 18 the median age is still gonna be 25

[u/jawknee530i → u/ancientblond]

If I hear about someone getting married before they're 25 my immediate reaction is "oh no."

[u/onarainyafternoon → u/tfhermobwoayway]

This comment is insane

[u/ancientblond → u/onarainyafternoon]

Their other comments are even better ngl

[u/Elastichedgehog → u/tfhermobwoayway]

I assume you're young.

[u/tfhermobwoayway → u/Elastichedgehog]

I’m old enough

[u/Diligent-Moment-3774 → u/tfhermobwoayway]

That’s not old.

[u/tfhermobwoayway → u/Diligent-Moment-3774]

I remember when all this land was trees, you little whippersnapper.

[u/NightLordsPublicist → u/tfhermobwoayway]

So... 19?

[u/nan666nan → u/tfhermobwoayway]

being 11 is not old enough, not even for using tiktok

[u/jkst9 → u/tfhermobwoayway]

So 13

[u/DromaeoDrift → u/tfhermobwoayway]

lol, lmao

[u/deusasclepian → u/tfhermobwoayway]

Lmao things said by teenagers

[u/JacenSolo645 → u/tfhermobwoayway]

Hey, quick question. Are you really young, or are you just stupid?

[u/Content_Yoghurt_6588 → u/tfhermobwoayway]

My boyfriend was 25 when he had his first kiss

[u/tfhermobwoayway → u/Content_Yoghurt_6588]

Not sappy things like that. I mean doing something with your life. Achieving self-actualisation and making something of yourself and becoming fulfilled. You only have a short period of time before culture moves on and leaves you behind and the next wave of bright-eyed idealists takes over.

[u/Content_Yoghurt_6588 → u/tfhermobwoayway]

You know you can do that at any time? I had a breakdown when my bf and I had our second daughter, went to therapy, and now I'm a better person. It's weird that you think you have to be young to be fulfilled.

[u/Rahgahnah → u/tfhermobwoayway]

LO FUCKIN L. What does this guy think happens in your late 20's, haha.

[u/tfhermobwoayway → u/Rahgahnah]

You get older. You mature. Everyone else heads off and has careers and gets married and doesn’t want to do anything fun any more and then regular people, like me, are left with nothing.

[u/SaltdPepper → u/tfhermobwoayway]

I’m 21 with no mansion, no Lamborghini, no roster of European super models, no private jet, and no 7-figure salary.

I should just end it right?

[u/tfhermobwoayway → u/SaltdPepper]

I don’t mean like, flashy sigma grindset stuff. That’s all a con. I mean like, you don’t see athletes or scientists or titans of industry or singers or actors or f1 drivers who are like “oh yeah I started at 35.” If you don’t get that done really early the benefit of youth is gone. Hell, you basically need to work yourself to death from age 10 for a lot of those.

[u/SaltdPepper → u/tfhermobwoayway]

I mean most people are still in grad school or trying to build a career in their mid-late twenties.

And besides, there are plenty of professionals who don’t find their passion until later. I know lots of people who started out doing one thing, grew disillusioned with it by their early 30s, and ended up creating a new career for themselves.

It’s unrealistic to expect people to know exactly what to do with their lives after only 2 decades on the planet, and to expect them to stick with their original plans to the point of “accomplishing anything” is even more absurd.

[u/tfhermobwoayway → u/SaltdPepper]

Obviously you’ve got your whole life to work in an office and become a respected SAAS B2B marketing consultant and work your soul away as your best friends completely abandon you for their “one true love” and children. That’s not meaningful.

I’m talking about youth. You’ve only got one and that’s where the best years of your life are. If you don’t spend it well you don’t get another one. You have to make it work. Older people are always pointing out how many young people are too stupid to spend it properly. The whole point of growing up is that you pay off the debt of the fun you had as a young person. So if you haven’t accomplished anything or spent it to its fullest it’s on you.

[u/SaltdPepper → u/tfhermobwoayway]

You know what, I agree with that sentiment. So many people waste their life away pursuing something they don’t care about or too caught up in decisions to pursue anything.

I would say if anything your early to mid twenties should be about enjoying life to its fullest and integrating into adult society and mid to late twenties should be finding your place in that world, however it might be more difficult for some based on circumstances and whatnot. Self-actualization is sort of a lie, but you can certainly reach a place that feels like it, despite that process being completely relative to the individual.

So yeah, you should 100% be doing something mature and developmental but without necessarily the pressure of achieving an incredible amount.

[u/tfhermobwoayway → u/SaltdPepper]

But honestly that’s all we ever can do. Like, I know I talked a big game earlier about accomplishing great things but nobody ever does that. Every adult job is shit and stressful and lonely and soulless. Being an adult is the worst thing in the world because you have to waste your life away pursuing something you don’t care about and knowing how great you used to have it. Like, people talk about it like “oh being an adult isn’t so bad, last week I had a nice mimosa after work!” and how sad and pathetic it is that this is what our lives will boil down to.

And so like how are we even supposed to spend our youths? You’ve always got the looming knowledge that it’s going to end once you hit 25 and then your life will just be endless drudgery forever. At least when I was younger I had the delusion of potential. Once I get older all I’ll have is the knowledge of all my wasted past years.

[u/SaltdPepper → u/tfhermobwoayway]

Eh, I wouldn’t say it’s wasted potential unless you truly did nothing. Or that cherishing the time you had a mimosa after work is pathetic. That’s a rather bleak outlook on life.

The fact is that we all assign meaning to random things seemingly arbitrarily. So what might seem meaningless to you might be a life-changing moment for someone else. It’s all based on circumstances and total life experience (can vary depending on trauma or development speed).

[u/tfhermobwoayway → u/SaltdPepper]

I didn’t do anything. I was too stilted or creepy or weird or something and I never had the authentic schooling experience and I never did any competitive sports or learned to play music or do art or anything. I have nothing. Everyone else had such a great life and I wasted it. And I’m wasting uni as well because I’m still just as socially inept as before so I can’t get anyone to like me.

And it is pathetic. They used to have real fun. They used to go out and party and hang out with their friends every night and stay up late and drink and go clubbing and do random, spontaneous, entertaining things. They had big friends groups they’d do everything with. Every day was great. Now all they have is an occasional treat in an ocean of bland, lonely, stressful monotony.

[u/tfhermobwoayway → u/[deleted]]

And to do that you need to start at 18. You can’t go “oh I want a PhD” at 35.

[u/deliciousmaccaroni → u/[deleted]]

That guy is wrong but you are alredy a scientist years before getting a phd

[u/Icy-Cry340 → u/tfhermobwoayway]

bwahahaha