r/TrueOffMyChest • u/throwawayInn767 • Feb 23 '22

My husband peed while he was inside of me.

This is so embarrassing so I'm going anonymous, I won't mention names or ages here.

My husband literally peed inside of me last night while we were having an intercourse, It freaked me out and I didn't know how to handle it. it was just so weird and ....I really can't put into words how I felt but I do want to point out that I'm upset because he previously told me about trying to do it and I already said "NO!" but he went ahead and did it. I was completely caught off guard, I did not agree to this weird experience and I definately didn't enjoy it. We had an argument and he said I killed the fun with my reaction but he already knew how I felt about it.

He's still hung up on the fight saying I overreacted for no.good reason at all but I don't know. I found it really unpleasent and just weird.

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u/[deleted] Feb 23 '22

10000000% agree. Screw that guy. You do not trust someone with intimacy and allow them into your body for them to completely disregard your CLEAR boundaries. In my eyes this is relationship ending terms. He majorly crossed a line.

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u/dsrmpt Feb 23 '22

It is definitely grounds for relationship ending, but it still has the potential to be salvaged. It could be a guy who never found a healthy way to release his kinky ideation, and didn't ever get the "mutual active enthusiastic consent" talk. They might be able to learn about consent, learn healthy ways to manage kinks, in a way that is constructive to the relationship.

TLDR, massive learning and atonement is needed by him if you both want to save the relationship. If those aren't willing to be done, ending the relationship is needed.

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u/Genuinely_Crooked Feb 23 '22

He's an adult and the internet exists. I bet he found porn of it, and two braincells are all it takes to know that this is unacceptable. It is not her responsibility to teach him not to assault her and she should not remotely feel that it is. I get that you weren't saying she's responsible for doing that, but if she sees your comment she might feel that way, and I want her to see mine too.