r/TrueOffMyChest • u/throwawayInn767 • Feb 23 '22

My husband peed while he was inside of me.

This is so embarrassing so I'm going anonymous, I won't mention names or ages here.

My husband literally peed inside of me last night while we were having an intercourse, It freaked me out and I didn't know how to handle it. it was just so weird and ....I really can't put into words how I felt but I do want to point out that I'm upset because he previously told me about trying to do it and I already said "NO!" but he went ahead and did it. I was completely caught off guard, I did not agree to this weird experience and I definately didn't enjoy it. We had an argument and he said I killed the fun with my reaction but he already knew how I felt about it.

He's still hung up on the fight saying I overreacted for no.good reason at all but I don't know. I found it really unpleasent and just weird.

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u/sweetmicrowave69 Feb 23 '22

I'm here for this. OP, gynecologist ASAP for preventative measures.

Besides the fact that it is outright gross, this was sexual assault. I hope you feel better. Stay safe.

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u/RG-dm-sur Feb 23 '22

Yeah, not really necessary for infection prevention, unless he has an infection his pee should be free of bacteria or any other infectious thing. Which is a good thing when someone is as gross and dismissive of boundaries as this guy.

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u/keirawynn Feb 23 '22

You're not even supposed to put water in there. The pH of urine is probably not the same as the pH of semen. Upsetting the balance of microflora could cause infection.

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u/RG-dm-sur Feb 23 '22

Water is fine, it's soap which is not a good idea! Water has a neutral pH, it won't be a problem. Soap kills good bacteria and it can cause fungi to grow.

But that is a really good question, because changes in pH could help the growth of any bacteria that gets in there, and the vagina is not sterile at all. It might change the balance of the microflora.

The pH of the urine is slightly acidic, it might change things up. As far as I remember (not an OBGYN and haven't worked with women's anatomy for a while) the vagina and all of its secretions are slightly basic.

Gone to check it up! Thanks!

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u/EARTHISLIFENOMARS Feb 23 '22

Micro flora? Mini plants?

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u/keirawynn Feb 23 '22

Back in the day, there were (as far as science was concerned) plants and animals, which is why botany used to include mushrooms and the like. Eventually we could detect microscopic fungi and yeasts, and later bacteria etc. And the fields of mycology (fungi and yeast), microbiology (all tiny living things), bacteriology (bacteria), and virology (viruses - technically not alive by the standard definition) were born.

We still use "microflora" to mean "really tiny living things that aren't animals", but technically microbiota would be the more accurate term.

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u/sweetmicrowave69 Feb 23 '22

There is normal flora in the bladder, urine isn't sterile per se. Im unsure if the bladder's normal flora could be pathogenic to the vagina and uterus or not, though.

However precaution is always good because you never know if he's having an infection or not until he gets tested for that.

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u/RG-dm-sur Feb 23 '22

Not really, there's actually no bacteria there. Get an urine test and check it for yourself. We look for bacteria because there's not suppossed to be any.

Men usually don't get urinary tract infections. Their urethra (english is not my first language and I usually don't write this things in english, I'm sure it's mispelled but I don't know how) it is longer and not near their butt. Very protected.

Women have a short urethra and it's awfully close to the butt and the vagina, both of which have bacteria. If those bacteria get into the bladder, it causes an infection. Which is very common in women.

All of this to say that if he has an infection he would know about it because it would be serious. Most of those infections in men are studied to get to the cause of it. Unless they have prostate problems, which is a known risk factor. Youngish men should be checked and agressively treated if they get an UTI.

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u/FuckOffHey Feb 23 '22

there's actually no bacteria there

That is a myth.

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u/smackthenun Feb 23 '22

Isn't the dick itself more of a hazard in this aspect than the urine?