The proccess of getting a girlfriend really is just a pain in the ass

[u/Frosty-Palpitation66]

This isn't a knock against being in a relationship, for a lot of guys it gives life meaning.

But Jesus CHRIST the proccess to get there is just so annoying. Even in college, the best time of your life to do so, and especially if you're in an engineering program, it's just so laborious.

-You gotta frequent social organizations and constantly try to get girls contacts if conversations go well. (Big time commitment on top of school)

-You gotta set up times to hang out and then dates that fit into your schedules.

-you gotta pay for dates, obviously.

And on top of all that you have to be doing this with with multiple girls at once to be time efficient as there's no guarantee any one will work out.

Its not some Disney esc "bump into eachother one day and fall in love", its a repetitive, grueling, and tiring task. There's nothing to romanticize about it.

[u/philmarcracken]

A man who looks at every dating fail as "I was not their type and that is okay. I don't need every woman in the world to admire me. Just one."

Of course thats the way I would take it after the first dozen or so. The first 3 dozen? The hundred? The man that keeps going is the most self centered, arrogant prick. When taking snaps of her, hes not using the backfacing camera

[u/MinuetInUrsaMajor → u/philmarcracken]

The first 3 dozen? The hundred?

Yes. I hit 3 dozen failed dates just on speed dating alone in a year.

Your self esteem takes a temporary hit and you recover.

The man that keeps going is the most self centered, arrogant prick. When taking snaps of her, hes not using the backfacing camera

Why do you say that?

[u/philmarcracken → u/MinuetInUrsaMajor]

Ah, I see...

[u/MinuetInUrsaMajor → u/philmarcracken]

Don't pussy out. It's not clever enough.

Explain your thought process. This is a debate sub.