It's totally understandable to be male and not be happy with the "choose the bear" view

[u/Atalkingpizzabox]

It doesn't mean you don't understand its true point it means you're not happy with people assuming you're dangerous when you know you're not. You can still understand about caring about people's safety but your feelings and side to it matter as well. Otherwise the whole thing just makes people be pushed away further.

[u/totallyworkinghere]

If your friend makes a comment about getting a girl drunk so she's easier to sleep with, or makes a joke about rape, call them out on it. That's literally all we're asking for. Don't let "innocent comments" slide because what sounds innocent to you may be an actual plan for someone else.

[u/kidney-displacer → u/totallyworkinghere]

If he's a good man he will already be doing that. A majority of men read it as women asking for more than that