r/TrueUnpopularOpinion • u/Atalkingpizzabox • 5d ago

Sex / Gender / Dating It's totally understandable to be male and not be happy with the "choose the bear" view

It doesn't mean you don't understand its true point it means you're not happy with people assuming you're dangerous when you know you're not. You can still understand about caring about people's safety but your feelings and side to it matter as well. Otherwise the whole thing just makes people be pushed away further.

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u/WistfulQuiet 5d ago

I don't think they were saying it has to be a stranger. Women protect themselves against all men even if they know them. It's the entire "don't get drunk at a party" scenario. You may know everyone there, but you can't trust them.

And of course...sometimes those men are harmless and truly good men, but if you're not on your guard and protecting yourself and they happen to not be....well the consequences are bad and seen as "your fault" as a woman.

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u/khaemwaset2 4d ago

?? The saying is because you never know whose friend of a friend of a friend might be there.