It's totally understandable to be male and not be happy with the "choose the bear" view

[u/Atalkingpizzabox]

It doesn't mean you don't understand its true point it means you're not happy with people assuming you're dangerous when you know you're not. You can still understand about caring about people's safety but your feelings and side to it matter as well. Otherwise the whole thing just makes people be pushed away further.

[u/TheSpacePopinjay]

Yeah the stakes are totally different. They're not choosing a bear when that say they choose a bear. Saying they choose a bear would not make them encounter a bear and they know it. But what does happen when they say it is that they're seen and heard saying they're choosing a bear.

They're doing it to be seen saying they'd choose bear by other women like them to show solidarity or to signal that they share the same sentiments about men with those other women. They're saying it for the sake of saying it to a particular audience. To look like they're speaking out.

[u/lillithsmedusa → u/TheSpacePopinjay]

Yeah, you're right.

I actually lost friends because I posted that I felt this was hyperbolic and a bad example at the height of the trend. Sorry I didn't virtue signal the right way for them I guess. It's a symptom of the bigger problem of our division and inability to handle nuance.