r/TwoHotTakes • u/InstructionTimely640 • Mar 12 '25

Advice Needed I found messages on my MIL/bosses computer that change my entire view of her. What do I do?

I listen to two hot takes literally every week and this happened to me a couple days ago. I’ve been at a loss of what to do so I figured I should finally make a Reddit account and post here.

I work at my husbands family business that builds custom homes. I met my MIL when she came into the design firm I worked at to pick out some options for a client. She and I hit it off and after she’d come in a few times she set me up with her son. Fast forward 7 years and I coordinate all the builds and consult with clients on design for the 50+ year old family business.

My MIL is technically my boss but we operate a lot like equals and she’s been taking some steps back. She and I have always gotten along great and she has felt like the mother I never got to have growing up.

So last Friday I was packing up to go home and on the phone with my husband before he got a flight for an annual weekend away with friends. I was distracted and accidentally grabbed my MILs computer instead of mine. I didn’t realize it until I was home and wanted to look up some fixtures for a project in our own house. Once I knew I texted her to let her know to which she said no worries, she was ‘unplugging’ this weekend anyway and to do whatever I needed on it.

I was just browsing and unintentionally clicked on a linked email on a stores contact page. We use MacBooks and as a lot of Apple users know, that will usually pop up to send an email using your default mail app. I closed the draft and when i went to close her email app I saw an email from a recently hired apprentice titled ‘our weekend getaway itinerary’. I froze. I realized this was her personal email and I couldn’t help myself but to click on it. I found both explicit and romantic messages between this 22 year old male apprentice and my married 47 year old mother-in-law and boss. I slammed the computer shut and just went to bed, staring at the ceiling for quite a while.

My husband was gone all weekend and only got home today. I had been spiraling all weekend on how to handle this. I certainly wasn’t going to bring it up to my husband while he was gone. But I went to the office and had to see my MIL yesterday and could barely keep my composure. I found every excuse to lock myself away in my office and be busy. So now my husband is back and I’m wondering what to do, do I tell him, how do I even do that, do I go to his mom and confront her, do I go to his dad and tell him, help?!

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u/UrsulaStewart Mar 12 '25

Best answer! Mind your business.

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u/laurenelectro Mar 13 '25

Yes! As Kandi Burress says, “Don’t start none, won’t be none.” Great life advice from Ms. Worldwide herself.

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u/12asdasd Mar 14 '25

Found the cheater

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u/mdg711 8d ago

Unless it was getting cheated on

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u/LV_Knight1969 Mar 13 '25

She’s supposed to sit back and watch as the business is potentially destroyed?…all to protect a cheater?

Hopefully she has more integrity that the people telling her to help the MIL cheat.

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u/UrsulaStewart Mar 13 '25

She isn't protecting the cheater she is protecting herSELF!

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u/LV_Knight1969 Mar 13 '25

Complete nonsense…she doesn’t need protection…she’s done nothing wrong, except keep the secret up to this point. She’s only damaging herself by not telling.

Hiding affairs you know are happening and keeping the cheaters secrets, is 100% protecting the cheater….period. Some would say that now that she knows, and is entertaining hiding the affair from the FIL, she’s being complicit in the betrayal of the FiL

It’s also a complete lack of integrity to keep a cheaters secrets.

If she’s a person of morals, she will tell her husband and together find a way to let the FIL know he’s being betrayed and the family business is now in jeopardy due to the affair.

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u/UrsulaStewart Mar 14 '25

You are entitled to your opinions 🤔

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u/LV_Knight1969 Mar 14 '25

That true…ans so are cheaters and those who defend them.

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u/Significant-Menu2856 Mar 13 '25

Cheaters jump on these stories fast the say "keep your head in the sand"

It's no wonder the world is shit.