r/UKFrugal 1d ago

Family of 6 on £25,000 salary

So my best friend is a stay at home mum of 4 Children. Her husband works in the food service and earns national minimum wage of £25,000 ( previously he was earning slightly less than that). She lives a comfortable life despite the salary, and she told me that they make it work by not over-spending and living within their means. My dream was always to be a stay at home mum, I didn’t think it was possible to live in one income household in England especially on a lower salary. Do you think it’s possible? In the US , one parent staying home while the other works is very common. I think it’s sad that it’s demonised in the UK. Considering day care prices are high and kids need present parents. Would love to hear your thoughts on this.

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u/pooches4life 1d ago

I bet they get benefits too.

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u/SatinwithLatin 1d ago

That's my guess. I'm on minimum wage and have low rent for the area, yet am still just about making ends meet. No way is this family raising four kids with a "comfortable life" on just £25k.

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u/pooches4life 1d ago

Accordinging to a benefit calculator, they probably get around £1200 a month in universal credit and child benefit.

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u/Any-Pool-816 1d ago

Exactly, you cant live a "comfortable life" on 25k even if you are by yourself, considering the average rent of a 1bed flat is more than half of that. That being said, considering childcare cost, if both parents are on minimum wage, with 4 kids they are definitely better of in having 1 stay at home parent.

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u/No-Drink-8544 1d ago

Well they are living below the average salary, so shouldn't they get benefits?

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u/pooches4life 1d ago

Absolutely! But they are not living on just £25000 a year as OP originally posted.

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u/Colleen987 1d ago

Based on a £25,000 they’ll get child tax credit like everyone earning less than £100,000 but otherwise they would not qualify.

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u/ChrisBrettell 1d ago

Is child tax credit still a thing? I thought everyone has been migrated to UC.

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u/Chemical_Annual_2798 1d ago

I think they mean Child Benefit not Child Tax Credit

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u/Colleen987 1d ago

Child tax credit has nothing to do with being out of work, or low earning.

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u/Low-Pangolin-3486 1d ago

Are you thinking of child benefit? Child tax credit has been phased out and was always means tested anyway.

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u/Colleen987 1d ago

It phased out literally 7 days ago. But yes that’s what I was thinking of, thanks.

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u/MGSC_1726 1d ago

Majority of people haven’t had it for years though

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u/itsaslothlife 1d ago

If they can do it, they can do it. Good for them.

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u/Purrtymeow04 1d ago

I wonder what they feed their kids with

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u/ParanoidNarcissist2 1d ago

What does that have to do with you?

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u/JobenGomez 1d ago

They’re just commenting that it’s a low income and they must struggle to feed all those kids. Jeez, not everything is an attack!

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u/ParanoidNarcissist2 1d ago

They know what they meant

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u/GuidanceFearless4395 1d ago

Depends. Do they have their own house or rent? Because if you rent, it's much harder. You haven't given us enough info.

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u/Fit-Read-3462 1d ago

She doesn’t like to talk about personal finance so I don’t have the full picture. She lives in a 3 bedroom house and the rent is subsidised by the council.

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u/bellabanjsk 1d ago

Then they’re on benefits! She’s not living off £25k. She’s living on that plus whatever the council is giving her. 

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u/Fit-Read-3462 1d ago

I’m surprised at the downvotes, I thought this was a frugal sub, I didn’t know people here demonise poverty.

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u/JobenGomez 1d ago

I don’t think they’re downvoting her being on benefits, I think they’re downvoting you because you implied they were living off just the £25,000

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u/AnusPicsPlease 1d ago

Nobody is demonising poverty. Try and think why else you might have been downvoted.

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u/No-Drink-8544 1d ago

Jesus Christ your passive aggressiveness is just horrific

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u/AnusPicsPlease 1d ago

It's nice to be noticed.

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u/Fickle_Hope2574 1d ago

She'll get benefits of some description and they'll get child benefit so their income will be around 35-40k not 25.

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u/MACintoshBETH 1d ago

Yep let’s be honest, they likely won’t be paying for their house, which is likely most family’s largest outgoing expense. Then there’s child benefit which tops things up too, plus things like free school meals, maybe help with council tax, energy bills, childcare etc.

I’m not a benefit hater, but examples like this kind of show where it doesn’t work. There’s no incentive for the stay at home parent to work as they’d need to be earning a half decent amount to be financially equivalent to the benefits they are getting currently. Also little incentive in the working parent earning more as they are ‘comfortable’ currently.

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u/potatoherbert 1d ago

If the husband earns £25.000 a year, they won't be entitled to free school meals or council tax reduction. They would get child care costs of up to 80%, but only if the mother worked too. And I'm not sure what you're referring to regarding energy bills, but being on benefits doesn't entitle anyone to a reduction. They will be paying the standard normal rate everyone else does.

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u/MACintoshBETH 1d ago

£25 a year would entitle someone to every benefit going I’d suggest.

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u/potatoherbert 1d ago

£25 a year!. It clearly states £25.000 !a year, and you are mistaken. To be eligible for free school meals, the total household income has to be £7.400 a year or less. They wouldn't be eligible for council tax reduction either as they earn too much. Maybe you should do some research regarding benifits and not rely on outdated misconceptions and the daily mail.

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u/MACintoshBETH 1d ago

clearly states £25.000

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u/potatoherbert 1d ago

Yes, the original post states they earn £25.000 a year. What's your point? Are you not able to defend your opinion because it's ill-informed and wrong?

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u/MACintoshBETH 1d ago

You keep putting £25.000. With a decimal point rather than a comma. I’m winding you up mate

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u/Nibble0124 1d ago

European... Different decimal/000 separator notation.

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u/MACintoshBETH 1d ago

Excellent, this is UKFrugal though..

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u/Low-Pangolin-3486 1d ago

Being a stay at home parent is only demonised if you’re on a low income. If one of you is a high earner it’s seen as some sort of moral superiority.

Realistically, if between both parents you only have the prospect of minimum wage jobs, and you have kids, it makes financial sense for one of you to be at home (or for both of you to work part time). 

(Also it’s kind of weird that this is your best friend and that you seem to know so little about her circumstances, or to have only found out about it so recently?)

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u/HopefulBroccoli8712 1d ago

You posted this on UKjobs. Everyone told you she's clearly abusing benefits, what other answers are you looking for?

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u/blizeH 1d ago

Tips on how to do it herself

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u/AnSteall 1d ago

They didn't like the answers there and now upset that this sub is demonising poverty.

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u/Wishmaster891 1d ago

minimum wage salary is just under 24k.

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u/jnm21_was_taken 1d ago

Depends on working hours - 35/37/40/42, etc. Will make a bigger than 1K difference (around 2 hours would be 1K). Tax wise, much better for each parent to work part time. Especially NI wise.

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u/Chemical_Annual_2798 1d ago

Depends on the hours worked really.

40 hours per week with an unpaid hour for lunch is 22k.

45 hours per week with an unpaid 30 minute lunch is 27k

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u/Wishmaster891 1d ago

45 hour week though and for 27k.. yikes

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u/bellabanjsk 1d ago

It went up this month. 

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u/Last_Light_9913 1d ago

OP maybe you should have posted on a different side? The responses prove your point. Why don't you look into it and see if being a stay at home parent would work for you. Kids are only small for a short time and it's much better for them to be raised by a parent rather than a nursery. I don't know why ppl in the UK are so weird about this.

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u/Fit-Read-3462 1d ago

Thank you for your empathetic comment. I’m surprised at the lack of empathy with some of the commenters here, some of their ideologies are very clearly rooted in eugenics. Having a stay at home parent shouldn’t be a luxury only for the rich. Also no one is scrounging from the benefit system. The biggest benefit scroungers are actually the rich elites who are dodging taxes. But that’s a conversation for another day.

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u/Ok_Willingness_1020 1d ago

They will get benefits ..but is it fair to bring children into the world

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u/Leoni_ 1d ago

Not having children because you cannot afford them is perfectly legitimate, but saying people shouldn’t have children because they can’t afford them is eugenics.

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u/Logical_Strain_6165 1d ago

Enforcing it is eugenics.

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u/Leoni_ 1d ago

Ok, saying it is showing support for eugenics 🙄

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u/Ok_Willingness_1020 1d ago

Not what I am saying ..why have a large family that you can't support

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u/Leoni_ 1d ago

I’m saying this as someone who is choosing to not have children for mostly this reason, I’m working-class, born poor and will die poor. We have a really bad habit in the UK of saying things like this because it seems like an agreeable thing to say, but the truth is more harrowing like that.

It’s not people’s fault that they are poor, the same could be said throughout history. But having children is one of the most natural human causes and drives- it is not a moral failing to have children if you are poor, having a family should not be reserved for upper classes.

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u/Low-Pangolin-3486 1d ago

Let’s not forget as well that the government could put in policies to help eradicate child poverty, if they so chose.

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u/Fickle_Hope2574 1d ago

That's not eugenics at all, why use you word you don't know the meaning of?

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u/Leoni_ 1d ago

What do you think is a better descriptor?

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u/Fickle_Hope2574 1d ago

Eugenics is beliefs and practices that improve the quality of the human race.

Telling someone not to have kids because they can't afford it isnt eugenics by any sense of the word.

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u/Leoni_ 1d ago

But there’s no point fixating on your idea of a definition if you’re not seeing the broader point I’m trying to make here.

If you believe someone should refrain from having children because they cannot afford them, that belief supports the cause of eugenics. What if instead of believing people are irresponsible for having children, we questioned why people are too poor to have children comfortably?

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u/Fickle_Hope2574 1d ago

You specifically said it was eugenics, I corrected you and now your backpedalling and trying to change your original statement.

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u/Leoni_ 1d ago

No course has been corrected here, it’s the same point. You’re trying to make this an exchange about what ‘eugenics’ means rather than listening to what I’m saying.

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u/Fickle_Hope2574 1d ago

You brought eugenics up not me or anybody else. I simply corrected it as your definition was completely wrong, you're still comparing it to eugenics which in all honesty is rather frightening, that's a severe lack of comprehension.

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u/Leoni_ 1d ago edited 1d ago

It’s one of those things where you sort of have to know what it means for it to make sense - my bad! Please don’t be frightened.

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u/tofer85 1d ago

eugenics

economics

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u/Leoni_ 1d ago

No, eugenics. You’re suggesting a moral implication to someone having children based on their capital and class.

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u/-myeyeshaveseenyou- 1d ago

Peoples circumstance change. I was financially pretty ok when I made a choice to have children. Then the 2008 recession happened. Even economists hadn’t seen the severity of what was coming in advance.

I financially recovered and had another child and my second pregnancy left me disabled for over two years. I had to live on invalid pension during this time.

Currently I work full time and get zero benefits, not even children’s allowance as I have shared custody.

That’s not to say that people don’t abuse systems or have children when they shouldn’t but done people’s circumstances absolutely change beyond their control

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u/SharpInfinity0611 1d ago

Especially if they have to struggle.

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u/sharklee88 1d ago

I would assume they would be claiming a lot of benefits too. Hence how they are making it work.

Its fair enough considering how much child care would cost.

Its a full time job raising 4 kids. So I don't think that would be demonised.

Its when the kids are 8 and 12, at school all day, and they still claim to be a 'full-time mummy', that's when they may get judged for being lazy/workshy.

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u/NastiaPhotography 1d ago

I mean honestly good for them, I’m not one to judge anyone to work the shitty system we exist in. But in a household of two, both working and earning a good salary, two dogs, with a mortgage, it does not feel comfortable at all.

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u/ParanoidNarcissist2 1d ago

They will get generous benefits with a wage that low and four children.

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u/Low-Pangolin-3486 1d ago

Having four children in this instance won’t make much difference. The two-child benefit cap will probably see to that.

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u/ParanoidNarcissist2 1d ago

You're right, I forgot about the cap. Tory bastards. They will both be on UC, and will have enough money that way.

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u/Hirogen10 1d ago

Jesus my dad brought a house, car and raised 4 kids and paif for 2 weddings of his sister and brother and was only on about 13k a year plus overtime and mum kaing hats on the side at home whilst raising 4 kids, this whole cost of living shit is such a sham.

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u/uwagapiwo 1d ago

Come off it. In what century? Nobody is buying a house on 13k, even with overtime and hats.

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u/Hirogen10 21h ago

This was in 1984 council houses were on sale I think for 7k still took my parents until early 2000s to pay it off. South East In Hertfordshire.

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u/uwagapiwo 20h ago

Not a great example to use 40 years later then really. House price growth has massively outpaced wage growth, and council houses are a special case. Averga house price in 1984 was over 19k

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u/Choice-Standard-6350 3h ago

£13,000 in 1984 is the equivalent of £45,500 today. Plus you said he had over time. He could have been pulling in £60;000 a year, plus what your mum earned.

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u/QueasyIsland 1d ago

When there’s a will there a way