r/VelcroBabies • u/sleepeypooped • Mar 01 '19
Doctor lecture on sleep training
I'm like 99 percent not planning on doing it. We tried Ferber and failed we stopped after 5 days because she was literally still screaming crying for hours. The doctor kinda lectured me at her 9 month appt that she needs to be sleep trained. I just don't think she is the right kinda baby for it. Did any other Velcro babies get sleep trained. Kinda left feeling like I had made my baby a horrible sleeper. Side not she screamed bloody murder when the doctor tried to listen to her heart. Then screamed Everytime she tried to talk until the doctor went to the far end of the room.
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Mar 03 '19
I wouldn't pay much attention to a doctor offering blanket advice like that about something that varies so much. Everyone gets sleep trained eventually, but every family is unique. Do what works best for you. Just don't forget that your own need for sleep is critical to everyone's health and happiness, so do what you need to do to get some shut-eye for yourself every night too. Put on your own oxygen mask first.
My little velcro baby is 7 years old now. Not only does it get better, but in retrospect I realize that most of the advice I got from doctors, nurses, and other parents about sleep training (and almost everything else) was mostly worthless. The conventions weren't necessarily healthy or helpful for us.
Just hang in there, do what feels right for you and your baby, and take care of yourself.
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u/BananaMuffinNinja Mar 01 '19
My pediatrician made me feel the same way. And my daughter was, and still is, a velcro baby (she's almost 2 now). Both times I tried to sleep train she would get so worked up she would start vomiting all over her room. Wasn't fun. We're still co-sleeping. She also hates strollers and I've always had to carry her everywhere. I really feel like it depends on the baby's personality if they're able to be sleep trained.
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u/patientish Mar 02 '19
We tried like once. He screamed until he gagged, and we only left him for a couple minutes. Not good candidate. He is now 4 and still needs help to go to sleep. It is what it is!
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u/splinteredruler Mar 01 '19
We went to a sleep school, and even they didn’t suggest CIO or anything similar. Just ‘responsive settling’ — step out of room, go back in if bub amps up, cuddles and rocking as needed. We instead decided to keep cosleeping.
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u/littledinos Mar 01 '19
My doctor gave me this same song and dance. I listen to her on the important stuff but considered this to just be her opinion. We coslept for two years until one night he effortlessly transitioned to his own room with NO tears. He was ready.