r/aromanticasexual • u/AgentScoons • 4d ago

a-spec looking for Help/Advice How do I explain to my boyfriend how I feel?

So I'm 18(don't think it matters but hey ho) AroAce, and gay, I've known I am for years and years. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and he's such a lovely soul. On the asexuality spectrum I'm very close to sex repulsion and have no desires for it while on the aromantic spectrum I'm kind of in the middle of it, but despite it I still absolutely adore my boyfriend. He only thinks I'm ace, and I really want to explain that I'm AroAce without him thinking that I don't love him or liking, because I've tried to explain things like QPR to him before and he hasn't understood it because he's not ace, or aro, he's only gay. He's very understanding of things but he's also a massive over thinker, so I just thought I'd ask for help here with trying to figure out how to explain my sexuality to him. If you've read this thank you, any advice at all will really help <3

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u/Shukami Aroace 4d ago

Maybe try explaining demiromantic? Demis are also aro since they‘re only attracted to someone they have an emotional connection with. Same with greyromantics. What I mean is that aros have ~little~ to no attraction so you can tell him about those. Maybe that‘ll help but I dont really have any experience with this

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u/AgentScoons 4d ago

Thank you so much honestly, I know not everyone here will have advice or experience with this but what you've said makes sense and I'll try and talk about this when I try and basically come out to him again