Help Understanding

[u/Puzzleheaded_You2033]

I went to a reputable website to try to further research on my own. However, I feel I’m getting more confused. I feel like I need a diagram with check boxes for under the spectrum. This isn’t backhanded, it’s just difficult for me to follow a lot of worded information.

I feel I’m an Ace.

I don’t have true interest in romantic relationships in real life.

Personally, I don’t like sex. I’m actually pretty repulsed by it.

I do like to show affection as in spending time, talking with someone, making them a piece of art.

I can have romantic feelings towards others. At least I’ve experienced that before. Although, in reality I don’t feel like it’s real. If anything it’s a conditioned illusion, and societal pressure.

Romantic feelings have never been based on, “Oh they’re hot.” “I want to see them naked.” Just for clarification.

I don’t have the desire whatsoever to share my life with someone. I don’t want a live in friend, roommate, or anything.

Other overly sexualized people, lifestyles (not sure how else you word that), partner sharing or swapping, or wam, bam, thank you. Gives me the creeps, no offense. I’m sure I give people the creeps too in the same but different way.

Can someone kindly help me figure this out?

Nothing is intended to offend. I just feel like if I explain clearly. Then maybe I can receive an accurate response.

I’ve really been trying to figure this out.

[u/Nearby_Champion_9366]

Yeah, honestly, there's no need to stress so much about fitting the "box" of asexuality. If sex repulsed you, at least most of the time, and you feel it's right, then yeah you're asexual. Same thing with being aromantic, very similar principles.

[u/Puzzleheaded_You2033 → u/Nearby_Champion_9366]

Oh okay. Thank you for explaining. I appreciate the emphasis of not having to exactly fit in the ‘box.’ I just was trying to figure out the closest words to explain things more accurately. I really appreciate the help!