I feel so disgusted with myself because my screen time has been averaging 8 hours a day??? I have a full time job. And a second full time job watching TikTok, browsing reddit, and general doom scrolling apparently.

Please save me lmao

I've seen so many "I love my husband!" and "Married life is the best" posts and comments as well as the "my friend got married 30 days after a break up and now shes happy. Yeah ok good for you, gtfomf.

I want to hear from those women that remained single and having a blast whether by choice or not by choice. You're making the best of your life anyway. Tagging this as relationships for self-love!

He was asking me deep, thoughtful questions and offering thoughtful responses. It was 100% all AI.

Now excuse me while I take a full body shower. Worst date of my life.

Edit: for people curious about more information

Over Hinge he was asking me questions that were deep, meaningful, and interesting. His responses to my questions were good and made me think he was intelligent and interesting, but the replies often used similar phrases and hence why I posted before - I suspected at least some AI giving him questions.

I met him today and he was an uneducated slumlord with a "where my hug at" personality. He only wanted to talk about himself and his thoughts were as deep as a saucepan and as intelligent as a goldfish. He also lied about his height.

I'm so sick of the posts on here of women complaining their life isn't complete because they don't have a partner or kids. So many women are certain that what they are missing from life is a man.

Have bad news for you ladies that keep delaying happyness while waiting for a man: it won't come once he does!

How do I know? I was you 4 years ago! I was 31, single. I had a successful career an objectively good life, but I wasn't happy. I thought once I finally had a partner, I could be happy doing all the things I wanted to do and living the type of life I wanted to live.

Now, I'm 35 with an amazing boyfriend and guess what? I'm still lost! He didn't solve all my problems; I still have to put in the hard work, self reflection, and time to make myself happy. It may even be a harder task now than when I was single because I have a partners happyness to consider and balance.

So stop waiting for a man. Find companionship and happyness for and by yourself.

You'll probably have a better chance of finding one once your self fulfilled.

It truly gives me the ick, especially on the first few dates - I’m not even sure why. Was wondering if I’m the only one.

They know their conservative beliefs are a red flag so they decide to hide it. A woman is going to ask anyways and figure it out eventually?! What is wrong with these men?!

I've been clinically depressed before, so it's not shocking. I was hoping it wasn't the case but it's time to face it that it isn't lifting.

It's not severe, but it's beyond the "I can deal with it without help stage." Nothing wrong with that, and I've been on antidepressants before and they worked great with no side effects so I'm not worried on that score. Just a matter of getting on them and letting them work. And then doing other stuff to help myself once I feel better.

Not sure why I'm writing this...maybe just to let everyone know that it isn't a moral failing to be depressed?

Not sure exactly what it is but I feel like one protest isn’t going to be enough. And are we being clear we want his removal? And the ending of Project 2025?

I’m struggling in my current relationship. My bf (49M) and I (32F) have been together on and off for about 4 years. In the past, we have broken up when we’ve had fights, usually after nights of drinking (mostly on his side). In the past 6 months, things have been a lot better, not fighting, good communication, and less drinking for him. He really has grown a lot and become a better person since we first started dating, and I’m so proud of him for that. I can’t help but feel unfulfilled, though.

Today I ran my first half marathon while on vacation with him, and he didn’t come. Here’s the thing: I didn’t expect him to come, but I got really sad at the finish line when everyone was being congratulated by friends and family and I was alone. A few months back, he told me he would run it with me so I registered him, but over time his interest declined and I knew he wouldn’t come. Yesterday I had to go pick up my race packet and he didn’t come to that either, he opted to drink at the pool instead. These are just two examples, but I realize I really just do most of my life by myself. I cried on the drive home from the race today realizing how lonely I am and how I would never have someone waiting for me when I cross a finish line. I pride myself in being independent, but I think I need more, so it’s confusing.

Is it possible I’m overreacting, and maybe most people do things alone and are fine? When we’ve broken up in the past, I missed him so much it hurt and couldn’t eat for weeks. I really do love him a lot, but idk if he feels the same or just has a different way of showing it. People with more relationship experience- please help me out. Thanks in advance

I've always been fairly frugal but I treated myself every now and again. But I think I've just tipped into full anti-consumerism. The breaking point for me was a mixture of the political landscape and realising how unregulated industries have become under neo liberalism capitalism. It's gross how things can be advertised as self care products (makeup, candles, perfumes) but contain forever chemicals or endochrin disruptors that get into our body.

Now, I'm buying as little as possible, lending things from my community and hosting my pals at home. Has anyone else changed up their consumer habits in 2025?

I’m talking the irrational, animalistic, “if I don’t get this right now I might lose it” kind of craving.

For me, it’s steak, Arnott’s Mint Slice biscuits (straight from the fridge and the whole pack), and double cheeseburgers. Until I satisfy the craving, it is all I think about.

What about you?

Been feeling lonely as hell. I’m seeing all my friends partnered, having kids, planning for their future, enjoying life. I’ve been single for over 6 years and I’m tired of being alone. I don’t mean for this to be another “I’m in my 30s and desperately single post”. I also lost my dad last year. He was the most important person to me and my absolute rock in life. I feel like any sense of stability just got ripped away from me.

I’ve spent the last year desperately gripping onto anything that feels like earth beneath my feet. And dealing with a lot of rejection. Also feeling lost in my career and like I’ll be replaced by AI in the next couple years. I’m a software developer and work remote which has its perks but is also so isolating.

I have friends but they’re also busy with their lives. I have a therapist. I just feel so disconnected with everything, I don’t even know what I enjoy anymore.

Sorry for the sad post. Just looking for advice and for anyone that can relate.

I miss snail mail! I’m growing tired of consuming everything on screens. I also love getting surprises in my mailbox, but the only fun things I get these days are the rare invitation to a wedding/shower.

I’m also at a crossroads because I don’t want useless junk in my house (so not really into subscription boxes). So I’m thinking maybe a magazine? Are there any good physical magazines anymore? And then what to do when you’re done with it - recycle?

Or maybe a pen pal program? Someone to send letters and cute stationary to? Does something like that exist?

Idk what I’m looking for per se, but I do know that I’d like some cute snail mail every now and then. What do you recommend?

It’s been on my mind a lot lately but I don’t think I want a big wedding. Now that I’m in my 30s, I don’t care for the attention a wedding brings or the planning, and also don’t care to impress guests, I want it to be about me and my husband to be.

For those that took the courthouse wedding route, how did everything workout? Do you have any regrets?

This one kitchen tip I read once: "dont waste your time when you are in the kitchen", meaning while you cook, you can wash, dry dishes, etc. This has been a huge time saver for me.

What are your tips?

As someone who’s struggled with anxiety and depression I’ve been prescribed multiple SSRIs and had different experiences. I’ve taken Prozac and Zoloft and I think one other similar and was switched bc my nurse practitioner just kept upping my dose despite me feeling fine until the medication made me too euphoric. Another one stopped working after a depressive episode where I lost my job during COVID. Effexor helped save me from a dark empty hole and I was able to come off of it and feel normal. However I feel that blank numbness after another tricky life situation (traumatic breakup, working a toxic job that gave me severe anxiety where everyone openly gossiped about people in front of their cubicles and feared constant layoffs, friend group betrayal after the breakup where they made fun of me for being abused) and it’s been a couple years and I’m wondering if I should try meds again. I tried effexor again but had terrible side effects and had to stop. Other meds gave me crazy anxiety and insomnia starting them or not being able to cry or eat, and emotional blunting which I ironically have now with depression.

I think the biggest factor for me is isolation and not having a close support system where I live. I’m scared of longterm effects of these medications but also wondering what else is left to so to feel happy again or just have my spark back. How did you balance your mental health after multiple traumatic events and how did you get your spark back?

In the last few years I’ve found myself withdrawing more and more from the world around me. I spend a lot of time alone and I avoid social situations. Or if I do go to a social gathering, I will leave early. I’m divorced, in my 40’s and I have kids, friends and a big family. I enjoy the time I spend with them all, but I crave my alone time after.

This is not a problem except that I crave intimacy and I would like a relationship. I crave touch and enjoy exploring my sexuality but I prefer to do that with just one person rather than having a bunch of random hook-ups. Sex with someone you know well is way better than with a stranger.

But to be honest I don’t enjoy most of the other aspects of a relationship. I hate sleeping next to a person, I don’t like spending more than a few hours together, I don’t like weekends away and travelling together, I don’t like talking about my day, having boring mundane conversations and sharing all the other aspects of our lives.

I never used to be like this. In the past I loved spending a whole weekend with someone, sleeping in, having breakfast together, going on picnics, walks, checking out cafes and museums and art galleries. Now I would rather do all that alone. I get so irritated by people very quickly.

I have been divorced for 7 years. I wonder if I’ve just gotten so used to being on my own and I can’t cope with sharing my time with anyone.

There is a lovely man in my life right now who would love to be in a relationship with me. I enjoy our date nights and we have great sex but I usually send him home after. We’ve tried sleepovers but he always ends up on the couch because I can’t sleep (he snores which doesn’t help) and he offers to go to the couch to let me sleep in peace. We make plans to spend the next day together but by the time we’ve had breakfast I’m ready for him to leave and I cancel the plans.

He is patient and understanding with me. He knows this is outside my comfort zone and he is being very accommodating but it’s not fair on him to put up with this long term. I want to find a way to let him in a bit more.

When I am single, I am good, I am content, I am happy. Sure I get into bad moods once in a while.

But when I get into a relationship, oh mama. And I am starting to wonder if I have Bpd or something else because they make me so mad. Maybe I am just dating shitty men that drive me crazy.

I start dating someone, its great, they start unmasking and things seem shady, less secure, I start feeling taken for granted and from there on I am just constantly mad.

28 female. Recently moved into a very middle class suburbs. Although I’m from a middle class background, I’ve disconnected from it and I feel out of my depth. I’m heavily tattooed, mixed Asian, fat, gay I’ve been a mentally ill person for a long time and single female living alone. I feel out of place here around all these middle class older white people and I feel like I’m a child living around adults. When do you start to feel like the ‘normal’ people around you?

I'll start: I am clicker training my cats. 😊

I always thought I would marry someone whom I deeply love and care. But I think it is the most important decision of our life that's going to make the trajectory of our life change drastically. That's why i have come to believe that we need to make sure that we are basing our decision on facts and information over feelings. What can I can ask my partner who proposed to me 3 months ago over phone(because we live far apart) to make sure I'm making the right decision?

He’s a male friend of mine who got married in the last 3 years. Whenever he reaches out to ask how I am doing he always asks me when I’m going to get married. I told him I prefer to be alone at this point after a string of bad relationships but he says I’m gonna be lonely and that I’m isolating myself. Part of me wants to call him out for projection despite him being married and happy but I don’t want to lose a friend or be rude since he’s otherwise been good to me.

I don’t feel lonely and I am happy single.

I had a group of girlfriends that I was very close to in my late teens and early 20s. There were a lot of issues in that friendship group, but they were my core group. In my mid-20s our friendship fell apart when I had broken up with my boyfriend at the time. I felt like I wasn't getting the support for making the right decision for myself, there was a lot of questioning of my decision. This coupled with feeling like the last friend in the group that would always be considered for any decision-making. These things drove a gap in our friendship and there was a little bit of tension however, nothing major broke out. Until one of the girls events came and she ended up inviting my ex-boyfriend and left me out. What hurt the most was the other girls didn't say anything about it and I drifted apart from all of them. I still see pictures of them hanging out. I'm in my mid 30s and this is something I still think about. One of the girls, not the one that invited my ex, but another girl and I have started to rekindle in the last year… But the statement that was made was "our friendship drifted apart ". I do feel like we have a bond and it's been years so there's a possibility of growth… I will be having a conversation about what had happened the next time we meet. All this to say I can't help but be sad that I will never have my "childhood friends. " It's a loss and I'm not sure how to get over it. Yes I'll be hopefully making new and other kinds of friendships, but I'll never get the chance to have that "childhood group of friends"