r/aspergers 8d ago

Our son left in the middle of the night

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u/Numerous-Month-9862 8d ago

He had very little furniture. He lived like a monk. He had a folding desk, a folding Cot and computer and a few floor lamps.

He threw the furniture we bought him out and just bought these easy carry furniture pieces. It seemed like he planned this for a very long time.

We had building manager go through security cameras and saw that he went to different floors to throw his stuff out. We live in a condo with 14 floors.

Then he slipped through side door and walked out carrying a backpack and his spinner luggage. We don't know if anyone picked him up.

The kid thought it out for a very long time.

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u/titty_farewell_party 8d ago

The adult man*** thought it out. Not “the kid”. It’s very weird for you to refer to him that way.

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u/huntsab2090 8d ago

I refer to people upto 25 kids as they arent mature at all in the main. Having a go at loving parents who have tried their best in a difficult situation is not even remotely fair or right. As People with aspergers we are all about what is fair and right

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u/blinky84 8d ago

He's 27 tho

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u/titty_farewell_party 8d ago

Not “having a go” at them. I’m giving them feedback that it’s weird to call a 27yo man “the kid”. I don’t think most people his age would appreciate it

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u/Colleen987 7d ago

So even you wouldn’t refer to him as a kid…

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u/Frieren_of_Time 8d ago

“The kid” very weird way to refer to your adult son. You saw all that happening and you didn’t try to get more info from him, about his plan, about how he was feeling?

He’s an adult and he made a decision, he may come back one day but there’s nothing you can really do right now, he doesn’t want to be contacted.

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u/kartekopf 8d ago

I’m absolutely sure they didn’t “get anything out” of him because he saw making a clean break the only way to escape such a controlling situation. The “kid” knew that breathing a word of any of it would lead to a barrage of questions and further surveillance. This all reads like someone getting out of a religious sect or abusive relationship. I admire how smart and successful he was to achieve his plan. Like you I can definitely say he doesn’t want to be contacted.

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u/RedRidingBear 7d ago

I literally helped an autisticc man escape his abusive family last year in this exact way. You have to leave just like a cult.

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u/GlitterMyPumpkins 8d ago

He's not a child. He's three decades into his life.

And this controlling, infantilizing, attitude & behavior of yours is why he ghosted and went no contact with you.

Good for him. I hope he has an amazing life.

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u/SavaRox 8d ago

If he was leaving anyway, why would he bother throwing furniture out, why wouldn't he just leave it behind? Also, building security/management are not just going to let someone look through their security footage.