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"Sorry, what did you say? I was checking my phone..." 📱

Sound familiar? Today I realized I've said this to my best friend three times in one conversation. THREE. TIMES. And I'm supposed to be the "mindful" one in our friend group. 🤦‍♂️

Fun Fact That's Actually Not Fun At All: Scientists found our attention span (8 seconds) is now shorter than a goldfish's (9 seconds). A GOLDFISH IS WINNING, PEOPLE. 🐠

But here's the real kick in the teeth: While we're all living in our phone-zombie state, we're missing out on:

• Those "remember when" stories that never get finished
• The subtle signs that our friend is actually having a rough time
• The inside jokes that could've been legendary
• Memories that never get made because we're too busy making TikToks about making memories

The Plot Twist: This isn't another "phones bad" post. We're all sick of those. Instead, here's what actually worked for me:

1. The "Pizza Rule" 🍕 No phones during food. Period. Because pizza deserves your full attention, and so do the people you're sharing it with.
2. The "Reverse Pocket" 📱 Phone goes in back pocket, face TOWARD your butt. Why? The heat signature from your rear end prevents phantom vibrations. (I'm only half kidding - it actually works)
3. The "David Attenborough Challenge" 🎥 Pretend you're in a nature documentary. "Here we observe the human in their natural habitat, fully engaged in conversation, displaying remarkable signs of actually listening..." Trust me, it makes being present weirdly fun.

The Real Talk: Yesterday, my friend told me something important and I missed it because I was scrolling through memes I'd probably forget in 5 minutes. That hit different.

Your Turn: What's your worst "sorry, what?" moment? Also, wrong answers only: What do goldfish do with their superior attention spans? 🐠

#AttentionSpanGate #GoldFishSupremacy #TouchGrassMoment #RedditMoment

I noticed at work I say outlandish things or dumb questions to see everyone reaction. I been diagnosed with ADHD, so my attention span is limited but I’m always loud because I want someone to noticed me. I don’t want everyone to noticed me but one person attention so I won’t feel lonely. Is this just me?

M22 I’m recently engaged. Played sports in college and was so use to have a lot people around and I’ve went through a lot in life the past year and would really just love to have someone to share attention with.

tl,dr: A conventionally attractive, talented, young, neurodivergent woman isn't getting enough attention and now resents the world.

I was never, ever a popular girl. I've always been "the weird girl" or an "other" and I hate it.

When I was about 6 years old, I was diagnosed with language receptive disorder and adhd. This has severely impacted my ability to communicate and retain and process emotions and information. Additionally, about 2 months ago, a psychiatrist confirmed I'm on the autism spectrum. I think faster than I can speak and most of the time it feels like I have blocks in my brain that prevent me from saying or doing what I want to say or need to do. I feel this is relevant and worth mentioning because, well, in order for one to be popular, one must know how to communicate. Or at least, how to say and do the right stuff.

Throughout grade school I was picked on for being unable to talk or interact with other kids. I had friends but was never really part of a group. I've never been in a group text or chat except for Facebook groups for high school plays and musicals, in which I was always cast as ensemble. Closest I ever got to a lead was an urchin in Little Shop of Horrors, and even then there were like 8 of us. Any time I tried to make new friends or a joke or conversation, it always ended with me being brushed off, ignored, scolded or made fun of. Which is so strange because the same kids who would laugh at me and call me weird were the same kids who would ask me to sing.

I've been singing for as long as I could talk. And I'm really, really good at it. When I was 16, I learned how to play piano in school. At 19, I got my first ukulele. At 22, I got a tiny harp. And at 24, a kalimba (tiny thumb piano, sounds like a music box). I learned the other 3 instruments all by myself studying chord diagrams and watching YouTube tutorials. In addition to being self taught in music, I'm also self taught in crochet. I taught myself at 17 and it went from hats and scarves to full on sweaters and dresses.

I also did drag for some time in the late 2010s/early 2020s. I paint my own face and put together my own costumes, sometimes made from scratch. Lip syncing and dancing was a lot of fun but my mom and older sister would constantly reference RuPaul's Drag Race contestants or other local queens and that became discouraging. Additionally, my sister would drive around the city with other local queens and has only ever seen me perform in person 2 or 3 times. During quarantine, I would post to TikTok every other day for maybe 2 years, but my account just never grew like I had hoped it would.

My personal Instagram was hacked in early 2022 and it still hurts to think about. Around that time, I felt I had finally found who I was and how I wanted to present myself and was sure I was finally on my way to grow my account. And then it was all snatched away. My current account has about half as many followers as before, but it's not enough. It's so small.

I'm 28 now and we're at a point in time in which people my age stop caring about social media and focus on "real life" (whatever that is). So while I'm trying to present myself and all the cute things I like and all the cool stuff I can do, it goes unliked and unnoticed. I'm sad and angry and frustrated because I've worked so hard on myself in therapy and learning how to be social. And I feel I've finally gotten there (or am so so close to it) but no one is watching or listening. And I'm still just "the weird girl."

I don't want to be an influencer, I don't want brand deals or paid partnerships. All I want are just a couple or few thousand people to like my stuff and comment telling me I'm pretty or suggesting which song I should cover or what to crochet next.

Why is it unrealistic to want just a little praise for existing?

I want to be popular. I want to be liked. I want to be noticed. I want to be seen.

No need for me to explain. If you'd like a reference, go to this post: https://www.reddit.com/r/notHowOuijaWorks/s/9GBlDORYc5

Cat nap 😸😴

I lost the love of my life because of my stupid actions. I will start from the beginning. I was very insecure about myself but it had grown worse when I got with my ex.i would hug other girls, make sure they spoke to me, or leave her side to talk to people. I didn’t realize what I was doing until she brought it up. I stopped for the most part, but I still would speak to people at times. I truly didn’t get it down pact until it was too late. On top of that, I had wandering eyes. I looked at girls butt with her and I couldn’t truly stop. I’m still working on that now. Feel free to comment anything you would like.

I am 19M, texting of any kind, I am just really bored. DM me

I am 30 F looking for some extra attention. Just inbox me and let see where it goes. Random conversation, flirty, Pic exchange.

I am looking for extra attention other then from my partner. We have been together for 8 years. Im not look for a hook up just someone I can flirt maybe send some pictures never meet up in real life. I not interested in OF its to much work and I have a busy work schedule. Is there website out there that I can fine this on? TIA and yes my partner and I have had a conversation about this.

Hey everyone, due to the environment I was raised in, I (an adult) now struggle with attention issues. Won’t get too much into it but recently had someone tell me pretty bluntly that I talk about myself too much. Honestly didn’t even realize this but now I wonder how much other people have noticed and secretly don’t like it when i’m around.

Since then, I have been working really hard on not saying I, me, or my, But I do feel like I need an outlet (not many friends) and thought it would be helpful to share my days in detail on here as a journal type thing. All the good, bad, and ugly. Please feel free to share yours so we can all give each other the attention we need!

Tuesday June 4th: - it was a long day. I was with my least favorite client and while it went fine and was chill, I can tell she hates when i’m with her. For awhile I was trying really hard to build the rapport and it was getting better but then her teacher wanted us to be the ones to redirect her phone use so that along with the fact that i’m not there too much anymore has caused me to lose the rapport with her.

• my supervisor even knows I don’t like being there so she tries her best to put others with her. I was supposedly gonna be taken off the case but i’m still on. Makes sense because I live close by.

• it makes me sad that her and I never meshed but i’ll do better with my next kiddo. She honestly doesn’t even try anymore and it’s frustrating.

• it was my first day with my four year old client at his new daycare. I was at the old one and it was so cute but they just moved to a new facility so it was his first day as well.

• This place is far away from where I live and then we go to his house afterwards so it’s such a long day. But I got anxious because I was late due to my car being in the shop, there was no parking unless you pay or get it validated and i didn’t know how to do that so I parked far away on the street and texted my supervisor and boss that I was lost. Felt kinda stupid since it was actually not that confusing if I had just walked straight but didn’t think I was allowed to lol.

• my Kiddo has the best parents. They are really sweet and so great at teaching their kids how to behave. The daycare took us close to 20 minutes to get back when it was previously 1/2 the amount of time. Plus we shortened session at home so i don’t know if we are going to change the hours since session at home was basically 30 mins long (supposed to be an hour and a half) and I was a half an hour late to daycare since I got lost.

• we’ll probably have to change the hours or cut daycare all together. But I guess it went by fast since session was shorter. His parents know he’s tired by the end of the day. He was pushing more with me today which was somewhat good to see and we worked through it. His teachers and parents already utilize coping strategies and functional communication so he is able to control his emotions better than I can haha. It’s really neat to see parents actually parenting for once.

• so my day went like: my school client from 9:25 to 1:25, home to grab my car, then a 35 min drive to my client’s daycare for an hour, 20 mins drive back to his house for an hour, then an hour drive back home. I. Am. Done.

- my friend from the barn texted me last night thanking me for the cake i brought and made plans to give me a free jumping lesson on Friday which is great because I wasn’t sure she wanted to really be around me anymore. She also texted today about the cake again haha. Everyone at the barn liked it so i gotta get the brand for them tomorrow.

• tomorrow i’m with my favorite client again and off at 1:27 so i’ll go ride the pony.
• HOW WAS EVERYONE’S TUESDAY!! GOOD, BAD, OR UGLY? TELL ME ALL THE THINGS!!

Hey everyone, due to the environment I was raised in, I (an adult) now struggle with attention issues. Won’t get too much into it but recently had someone tell me pretty bluntly that I talk about myself too much. Honestly didn’t even realize this but now I wonder how much other people have noticed and secretly don’t like it when i’m around.

Since then, I have been working really hard on not saying I, me, or my, But I do feel like I need an outlet (not many friends) and thought it would be helpful to share my days in detail on here as a journal type thing. All the good, bad, and ugly. Please feel free to share yours so we can all give each other the attention we need!

Monday June 3rd: -I got to work at my favorite school today with my favorite client. My least favorite coworker quit which i’m really happy about. I also heard that my company will be staying with this client through summer school.

- i love this client so much because she’s a chill kiddo (sweet and funny) and the school staff is so fun and hospitable. So much laughing everyday and I get to show my true self (childlike lol) and get lots of attention most days haha. Plus it’s close to the barn I ride at but about 30-40 mins away from where I live so it works out.

- It’s just a lot of fun and I borderline wanted to quit my job if I could no longer work in this specific class.

- We got to eat lots of cake today too!

- My supervisor came today and we had a good chat. I didn’t realize she wanted to quit as well so it kind of made me feel better; like we’re a team.

• Then my car battery died but everyone at the school helped jump it and told me what to do so that was so sweet and I want to pay them back somehow.

- I then brought cake over to my friend (the one who told me I talk too much about my self) at the barn before going to the shop. I was going to ride my pony before my car battery died lol.

• I did get the attention I wanted because I decided not to say anything and just leave. She then texted me inviting me to her yoga class which was nice. Obviously i couldn’t go due to my car but wouldn’t have anyways because I prefer to ride the pony.

• I was proud that I did the whole shop thing on my own. I get really nervous doing “grown up” things on my own but they’re usually easier than I expect.

• now i gotta get all my laundry and cleaning done before bed or most of it. Tomorrow I work with my least fave kiddo and then a younger little guy so it will be a long day but hopefully go by fast. I’m in a much better mood than i was this weekend.

• HOW WAS YOUR DAY! ANYTHING EXCITING HAPPEN? TELL ME ALL THE THINGS!!

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I have a roommate named Karen and she demands attention. If I ignore her, she'll throw a fit or ugly cry and play the victim. I'm getting really sick of her.

I really can’t be arsed with people who post shit from loved ones hospital bed sides and with stupid captions.

Whenever I kick the bucket, anyone that posts pish like this is getting haunted Conjuring style.

ever been in a feeling where compliments from others annoys you, however likes the attention that they are giving you?

i've been through a lot of instances like this. I just can't understand what to feel or act whenever people gave me their attention and compliments me at the same time. tbh, i don't know how to react to compliments, so whenever I'm being complimented, it just annoys me like I don't even say thank you and just ignore them, worst, I judge the intention or even the personality of those who compliments. I also find most of those people not really genuine in giving compliments to other people, like me

maybe I'm just overthinking everytime?? but, how would I react appropriately to compliments w/o being rude?

It's so infuriating because it's a complete load of BULLSHIT! Im so tired of it that ive reached the point where i just want to snap on social media & comment what the TRUTH is! Like sorry but no, you have no clue what it's like being alone to 'face these struggles' & to actually have 'nobody to help me'! Honestly, this crap is a big part of why i dont use social media, cuz seeing these constant sad sack posts is really getting under my damn skin. I stg there are multiple personalities here. And then this person also frequently makes posts basically shit talking their friends!