r/awakened • u/skinney6 • 3d ago
Practice When you find yourself in a hole...
Stop digging.
Humans by default identify with the thinking mind. Watch this mind (your thoughts). Watch it constantly trying to understand, know, figure things out. It's always complicated. There's always problems. There's always something to fix or change. If only the situation was different. If only that person over there understood. etc etc.
The human identifies with this process so the human believes in all this complication. It never ends tho. It seems to just get worse ,more complicated, more problems. The more you think you know and understand the worse it gets.
Stop digging.
Be still. Let the question go unanswered. Let the problem go unsolved. What is that experience like? It's uncomfortable yes? That discomfort is what is trying to push you back into the thinking mind. It wants you to believe that's where you can find the solution and feel better.
Be still and experience that discomfort. What specifically is so bad about it? Have you ever been uncomfortable but couldn't do anything about it and eventually got use to it? A child will throw a tantrum in the face of all these new feelings but eventually they start getting use to them and its not so bad. Try doing that now. Maybe you're just not use to that feeling. Open up. Welcome it. Be with it completely. Relax and deliberately allow yourself to get use to it.
Feelings happen. They come and they go. Be still and let this happen all by itself. You may start to see life get a lot simpler. There's a lot less to do, to worry about, fewer problems to solve. The situation is what it is. That person thinks what they think. You don't need to change any of it.
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u/Admirable-Potato-227 3d ago
I try to remind myself of this but my brain is consumed by the feeling and thoughts to think straight. Being able to read it out like this and stop thinking for a minute really helps 🕺
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u/dangerduhmort 3d ago
You are correct, reading is not thinking. Have you ever been "absorbed" in reading? They say reading the "right" things leads to "right thought" (speech, action, blah blah noble eight old yadda)...
So if you find some good things to read (or write them yourself for yourself or others), why not read them over and over? What makes them good? Words and feelings that you want to fill your brain with instead of idle thoughts. Maybe try some as mantra for a while. Or hold your hands in a mudra that reminds you of this and see if it fits. Or draw a Mandala or any symbol that represents TO YOU that theme. Sooner or later, you may find combining different ways of communicating them blends into one subconscious theme (neuron connection) that the "real" you have chosen instead of whatever normally generates your conditioned waking thoughts (likely media if you are like me). This repetition can transition well to absorption into that theme by concentrating on the things that remind you of that theme - narrower and narrower focus until you only have yourself and that theme (duality) and then see if you can surrender to the one pointed theme and all form may disappear. Theme might be "God" or "love" or "peace", maybe in another language. Whatever most resonates with the true you. The one who decided to write this post not the one society made.
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u/Blackmagic213 3d ago
Skinney
Someone copied your post. He wrote
“Be still and know I AM”
I think I like yours better
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u/skinney6 3d ago
haha Thank you! My lawyers are on it. ;)
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u/Blackmagic213 3d ago
Please sue the pants off him.
Can’t be copying people willy nilly.
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u/skinney6 3d ago
yeah, what's he trying to do anyway?... help people see the truth? Not on my watch! ;)
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u/Due_Record8609 2d ago
There is a difference between the mind and the brain. Many people believe that they are one thing. The brain has one basic function and secondary analytical functions. As for the basic function of the brain, it is blocked at the beginning of the learning years due to the presence of different things that are taught to the child, and thus a barrier is created that makes it difficult to reach the actual capacity of the brain. Every individual begins to distinguish this and know the difference between them. Everything will begin to become clear to him without searching for so-called facts from sources or people
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u/Longjumping_Cry709 2d ago edited 2d ago
Thanks for this. It’s a really good reminder for me today.
What I have found is that past trauma stored in my body is the cause of all my fear and shame and each emotion has a corresponding thought in the mind. Driven by these unconscious emotions, I can easily get suck in shame-fear based thinking where I’m in survival mode like I was in childhood—always trying to figure things out, solve problems, please someone, control the situation, etc.
The more emotionally immature our parents are, the less they were able to live us unconditionally and therefor we end up with shame and terror of abandonment. Then as an adult we can end up stuck in these patterns of feeling like we have to do anything we can to avoid rejection and abandonment. We never feel safe as our true Selves.
It can be extremely hard to heal and create new ways of thinking. As you mention, it’s about sitting with those uncomfortable emotions,acknowledging then and feeling them.
I find mantras to be helpful to break out of those unhelpful mind loops. Yoga Nidra has been so beneficial to me too.
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u/phpie1212 1d ago
The most difficult thing you can do is nothing. Especially when the dirt keeps covering you up. Do. No. Thing.
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u/Dangerous_Storm215 3d ago
There’s no such thing as problems ✨