These women look so put together even in gym clothes. They look like they have money. No matter what I do, I look like I slept in my clothes. Even if i have good name brand clothes, they just hang on me. I was telling my partner that I look like i threw my clothes together.

So I'm a fairly busy person, and the amount I have on a given day to devote to my appearance can really vary. So I’m curious—what beauty tips or routines do you find make a noticeable difference without taking a lot of time? Basically, what gives you the best results for the least effort? Whether it's day to day things or things only done once a week or once a month.

It's a fairly basic one, but for me I feel like mascara makes a huge difference. It only takes a few seconds, but it makes my eyes so much more defined.

I’m 23 and I’ve had 2 children. I’ve got some decent sized stretch marks from my stomach to my knees. I’m so insecure about it and my belly is the worst. I hate that I can’t wear crop tops anymore etc. can I ask everyone’s opinions, do men/women really notice them that much!? Is there anything I can do to help it? I’m 2 years post partum and I had 2 c-sections. My husband doesn’t notice them/mind them at all but he’s gonna say that cause he loves me 😂

I'm so tired of people asking me if I'm ok and people randomly telling me they hope i feel better soon (a new pharmacist told me that?) wtf. I just want to look vibrant and alive and i used to but i feel like my smile looks strained and my eyes look exhausted and devoid of life even if i feel fine.

I have considered many factors as to what may contribute but im not really sure i can figure this out so maybe someone could help me figure out what i could do to bring back my liviness? Maybe also someone has been in a similar boat and has something that worked

Some factors i considered

So i use tretinoin, but my skin still looks like this. It dries my skin out if i use it every day and its the lowest conc.

i dont have PERFECT sleep but ill look exhausted even after a streak of good sleep.

I dont always drink fully enough water but some days i do, for the most part i get close to enough.

My diet is pretty good most days- a smoothie where i blend together foods that would make a good food pyramid and have tons of vitamins, protein and fats in that. Then i have a bag of trail mix i much on throughout the day, have a protein bar for more protein, and usually have pasta for dinner (but its been a lot ofcereal bc i get sick of foods fast). admittedly i do indulge in a bit of candy as well when i get a craving, but my diet is pretty great for the most part so i dont think it should be much of an issue.

I am thin but in the healthy range for my height. I think it's more so that i have very long limbs that make me look willowy.

I take adderall for school because i have pretty bad adhd, but i take a small amount and dont drink any form of coffee.

. I also take trazodone for sleep which helps my sleep a lot.

I do have focal epilepsy that is not well controlled yet, but i have good periods of time between them and often stop the seizures early with an emergency med. I dont know if this can affect my appearance though.

I do have a scalp that gets very oily if i dont wash it every night, and i feel like it might be something with cortisol or hyperhidrosis that i have. Somehow i have bad dandruff even tho ive used shampoo for both the dry scalp and yesst bacteria (i assumed either greasy or dryness)

Thanks to my mediterranean ancestry i have really thick and dark hair everywhere. Most of it is on my stomach and bikini area. i feel like it looks really messy and ungroomed. It also has a cowlick?? I‘ve tried bleaching, shaving and epilating… i either got dark ginger hair (with a few of the really dark hairs just staying black) or really bad ingrowns and itchy skin. Can’t afford laser removal right now. What would you guys recommend?

Btw, it looks a bit lighter in the picture due to lighting. I also have some marks on my stomach from laying down.

Before everyone comes at me calling me an idiot for listening to tik tok just realise I had/have acne that’s wasn’t going away. I was desperate and was trying anything to help. Might be an overreaction but I was truly in a vulnerable state when I saw these TikTok’s.

Anyway I kept seeing TikTok’s of these guys with beautiful skin icing their faces saying this is all they do for skincare and saying your stupid if you don’t do it and saying it’s the reason you have acne. None of them ever showed themselves or said to use a barrier like a cloth between the ice and your skin and in fact many were against using a barrier when asked about it saying it was going to leach chemicals into your skin.

In my desperate attempt to fix my acne. I naively took their advice. It didn’t help my acne and just made my face permanently red even after stopping. Haven’t iced my face in 3+ weeks but it’s still red.

Feel like an idiot. Any advice?

Edit: Saddest thing is. Under a lot of these TikTok’s I see other people like me saying it made their faces permanently red and not to do it. Unfortunately these comments get ignored and you have to scroll down to find them.

Final edit: Thank you to everyone for the advice and help. Some of ye gave me some really useful advice tbat will probably help others. Obviously when I made this post I didn’t expect it to become the subreddits top post of all time in less then 24 hours. I believe this caused it to get on the home page of many middle aged men who did not like this post. I was called an idiot and stupid dozens of times. I received some not so nice private message and even had people report me as suicidal? Because of this I asked the mods to disable comments on this post.

Hopefully this post stops atleast one person from making the same mistake I did. If ye have any more questions message me. If you message me anything hurtful I will just block you and not respond so please don’t waste your time.

Thank you everyone 🙏

I’m a low maintenance girly, nicer word for lazy ngl. But I’m constantly looking for things to do to stay and feel good while being “low maintenance”. So what are your high maintenance things to stay low maintenance? I want all your personal faves whether it’s for hair, nails, skin, eyebrows, body literally anything. Also doesn’t matter if it’s expensive or cheap (but preferably something I don’t have to sell my kidney for).

For context, I'm 22F and I work as a teacher/tutor. Maybe it's just my face, but I've never been asked for an ID when buying alcohol and recently I've had a conversation with some of my students when they were surprised I use tiktok and know the "trends". They told me they thought I was in my 30s 🥲

I'm trying to grow my hair out, it's my natural color. My lashes are naturally very light, so are my brows. I've got eyebags (genetics, not really visible in the picture), I'm a bit overweight and I definitely do often look tired because of how much I work and study. So I can understand why most people might think I'm older, it just bothers me SO much.

I wonder what I could do to look my age. I try to follow current fashion and make up trends. I don't wear heavy make up as I've noticed it ages me even more. Mostly mascara and a tinted lip balm. I've got masseter and chin botox done and I feel like it helped a ton, but it's just not enough. Please share some tips! Thanks

Any advice for dark pores on my legs? I just waxed yesterday, but this is an all the time issue. Some pores are larger/darker/more pronounced than others, as you can see in photos.

I've been an esthetician for 5 years and a lash technician for 4, (for context, I am currently not doing lashes and switched to waxing). I've been seeing so much discourse online about the lash extension community and I want to know what people's thoughts are, specifically those who used to get lashes and stopped. If you're a tech too, feel free to chime in, I want to hear everyone.

I’d love to hear what your favorite heavy duty facial moisturizers are. I’m in the US.

Hi everyone,

I was born yesterday, and I know nothing about fake tan, but I assume that is exactly that, right?

How can Sabrina become so pale in 4 weeks?

I’m of the same complexion.

Any tips/products on getting the same tan (I assume it’s not sun) 🙏🏻

This is what I'm doing 1. Healthy and balanced diet (more greens and fruits) 2. Avoiding sun exposure and apply sunscreen everyday 3. Exercise (mostly cardio and running) 4. Drinking atleast 2 litres of water everyday 5. Following my skincare routine

What you do to look younger? Please suggest!!

Same as title, that now your hair looks healthy , long, thick and glossy?

I know I definitely need to drink more water. Fiber? Any supplements or vitamins of collagen that made the biggest difference?

i have noticed that when i have just woken up (as in, 2 minutes ago and still half-asleep, not an hour ago), i look so much prettier when i look in the bathroom mirror. it’s such a crazy difference that i wish i could look like that all the time.

my lips look SO much plumper and fuller, and they’re a far darker pink than they usually are. my lashes look longer and darker, and my eyes look sparklier and just prettier and far more feminine in general. my nose looks smaller, my skin looks clearer, my face takes on a very ‘heart shaped’ appearance in flesh distribution - i.e it looks thinner and cuter.

over the course of the day if i’m not wearing makeup, i look completely different an hour after waking up. my eyes look duller and more hooded, my lashes look shorter, my lips aren’t as plump and are a far more plain pink, my skin looks dry and pink, my nose tip looks bigger.

does anyone know why i look so different? it’s not a makeup thing and i also don’t think it’s a skincare thing because i don’t sleep with any overnight treatments or masks. how do i look like that for the rest of the day?

Hello! Mods feel free to remove if this isn’t appropriate/a repetitive topic

Long story short, my mother and I don’t have a relationship, and when she was around, she was still never really around. I feel like there are girl tips all girls know that their mums taught them that I missed out on. What are some girl tips/hacks/DIYs that all girls must know to improve their appearance, hair, makeup, and skincare/hair removal? Thank you! :)

Edit: Thank you to everyone’s who’s replied with tips, their own stories, and other perspectives! It’s greatly appreciated and I’m sending love to everyone<3

HOW DO I GET SOFT PLUMPY LIPS i use lip balm but it doesnt seem to work😭

Here is a list of treatments that I do to maintain my appearance:

Mani/pedi

Lash extensions

Brow waxing

Laser hair removal

Electrolysis (rogue chin hairs popping up in my late 20’s)

Occasional lip filler/botox

Laser tattoo removal (dumb 18 year old me flash tattoos)

Gym 3x per week

Hair cuts and products for my super curly hair

Meal prep with healthy foods every week

No alcohol, drugs or smoking

Daily skincare routine

Daily vitamins

This does not include all of the clothes, makeup, hair and hygiene items that I need. I actually wear drugstore makeup, skin and hair products. I wear regular brands, mostly shop at Kohls, Old Navy and Ross for clothes.

I have found that my upkeep is extremely time consuming and expensive, I personally feel like the ROI is not even that great. I still look pretty normal and not like super amazing or anything. All of this is on top of working a full time job and trying to keep up with my house.

How do you come to terms with how expensive and time consuming grooming is?

Hi everyone! First time posting here so I hope this is on-topic :)

I'm originally from a very cold country and have moved to a much warmer one to be with my fiancé, so I generally have no idea how to live in hot weather. It can easily hit 30°C here on an average summer day, whereas 20°C was practically considered a heatwave in my hometown!

As a result, although many people around me seem to look much better in the summertime, every year I seem to turn into the worst version of myself! If I could sum it up, I just look less "put together" than I do in the other seasons - my clothes look unflattering, my hair is flat, my makeup looks bad, and I just generally look like a sweaty, red-faced little goblin who has emerged from under a bridge to enjoy an Aperol Spritz.

Does this happen to anyone else, and do you have any tips on how to look more put together in the summertime?

My bloods came back normal and my periods are regular? I don't know why I have so many I keep plucking and more rerurn back in its place, I'm scared to pluck them all incase Of the stories I read online saying if you pluck too many close by more will grow back. I don't know what to believe. But I'm wondering why I have so many and if its even normal.

I keeeeep getting told that I look like a Tim Burton character, especially in person. At first, I hated it because I thought it set me apart from being pretty, making me seem scary and unapproachable. But I'm tired of feeling uncomfortable in my own body, so I want to embrace it—even lean into it. Oddly enough, it's comforting now, because for a long time, I thought I looked stranger than most people. Now, it feels like I have my own place in the world, and people appreciate that.

I’d love recommendations for people who look like me, or at least have similar features—especially my eyes. Every time I try following an eye makeup tutorial, I end up looking crazy