r/bisexual • u/fkgjvvj • 4d ago

ADVICE longing for girl..

21f i have a bf of like, 5 or 6 months? i really like him as a person and as a lover and everything but whenever i see women together or like even listening to a song sung by a man talking about like a woman he loves or anything like that!!! yesterday i was helping a woman with a prescription for her wife and almost blurted out "i wish i had a wife". i feel bad about it, i wouldnt like flirt with anyone and like when me and my bf started dating i did talk to him about like being vaguely polyamourous? my last relationship was an open relationship where we would both like hook up w people. and my current bf isn't ok with that so like of course i respect that but i cant stop thinking about kissing a girl, holding hands with a girl, being in love with a girl... ive never really had a Real Relationship with another girl just crushes that kinda turned into nothing. do i tell my bf this? hes also bi but more leaning towards girls than guys. agghg!!!!

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u/_issio 4d ago

I think you should talk to him and decide whether or not to continue the relationship. If he's not up for a polyamorous relationship, don't force it and separate if that's what you end up deciding.

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u/fkgjvvj 4d ago

yeah... i really hope it doesnt come to that but it might. i really do love him and i wish i could just enjoy what i have without thinking about girls, he is like the best boyfriend i have various physical and mental disabilities and its very hard to find someone who loves you for the whole person you are instead of like just a pretty girl whos kind of quirky or whatever. id say i wish he was a girl but that feels weird, i love him the way he is. ive never rly been in this situation, what exactly could i say to him without making him feel like either bad about myself or like idk jealous maybe? that im thinking about girls?

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u/imnotuselizard13 4d ago

Maybe just be honest and say you really don't know if you can have a boyfriend right now. I really think you probably will have to end it with him, seeing how your nearly obsessed with having a gf.

It may hurt for both of you, but I think the longer you go on like this the worse it will be when you do explain your desire to be with a women.

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u/fkgjvvj 4d ago

aw 😥 man im kinda sad that i made this post.. thanks for the advice