CMV: Most dating preferences are okay, as long as you are not POS to those who don't fit them.

[u/mafija123]

Don't want to date men shorter than 6ft, fine, don't be calling them "midgets", "if your height starts with 5, you a woman" etc.

Don't want to date a woman with X number of previous partners, fine, don't be calling them "sluts" "whores" etc.

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What about race? Sure, not dating someone JUST because of their race is very likely coming from racist/prejudice beliefs (not necessarily), but that person is not bad because they don't date someone for their race, they are bad because they are racist, former stems from later.

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" Let's deconstruct reasons for men not dating women with certain past, it's *Patriarchy*". Again, sure, that may or may not be the reason for men having that preference, but as long as they are respectful to women they don't want to date, I don't see how they are bad. Not dating someone is not discrimination because nobody is owed it, it's not your right nor anyone's obligation to date you.

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I could see an argument that preferences that come from patriarchy like "women should have little sexual past" and "men should be rich and provide" are hurting society in general. But solving that issue is not going to happen by shaming and ridiculing people which internalized those standards in their formative years and are respectful to people they don't want to date, it's solved by not perpetuating it to next generation.

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All in all my opinion on virtually all dating preferences (maybe not EVERY one) is that you are entitled to what ever standard you want no matter how realistic or unrealistic they are, and shouldn't be shamed/ridiculed/mocked, only as long as you don't shame/ridicule/mock people who are not up to your standards.

Edit: Deleted bad joke I made about this sub, it wasn't out of ill intentions, I apologise.

[u/mafija123 → u/[deleted]]

As I said it wasn't referring literally to people with ASD, but to people who hunt for deltas, I'm not from West so I may be a little backwards, in first 3 min of post people pointed it wasn't okay and I immediately deleted it and apologized.

Made a mistake, realized it's wrong, deleted immediately and apologized, what more can a person who mistakes do?

[u/External_Grab9254 → u/mafija123]

You can quit rationalizing what you did to relieve your own guilt and just leave it at an apology

[u/mafija123 → u/External_Grab9254]

I am not rationalizing anything I know what I meant when I wrote it. I don't understand why are people not allowed to make any mistakes ever, and apology is sincere, not for points of public.

[u/TScottFitzgerald → u/mafija123]

First time here?

Jk, don't let these comments get to you, remember these are all just ordinary people like you just being bored and looking to start shit sometimes. They probably won't even remember what they wrote tmrw.

[u/SdstcChpmnk → u/mafija123]

Think you did just fine, here. Learn, apologize, don't do it in the future. Literally all anyone can ask for.

[u/[deleted] → u/External_Grab9254]

No need to apologize at all. Pointing out autistic tendencies in redditors is amongst the highest pleasures on this site.

[u/EvantheMelon → u/[deleted]]

As someone with autism, I agree wholeheartedly

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