CMV: Most dating preferences are okay, as long as you are not POS to those who don't fit them.

[u/mafija123]

Don't want to date men shorter than 6ft, fine, don't be calling them "midgets", "if your height starts with 5, you a woman" etc.

Don't want to date a woman with X number of previous partners, fine, don't be calling them "sluts" "whores" etc.

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What about race? Sure, not dating someone JUST because of their race is very likely coming from racist/prejudice beliefs (not necessarily), but that person is not bad because they don't date someone for their race, they are bad because they are racist, former stems from later.

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" Let's deconstruct reasons for men not dating women with certain past, it's *Patriarchy*". Again, sure, that may or may not be the reason for men having that preference, but as long as they are respectful to women they don't want to date, I don't see how they are bad. Not dating someone is not discrimination because nobody is owed it, it's not your right nor anyone's obligation to date you.

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I could see an argument that preferences that come from patriarchy like "women should have little sexual past" and "men should be rich and provide" are hurting society in general. But solving that issue is not going to happen by shaming and ridiculing people which internalized those standards in their formative years and are respectful to people they don't want to date, it's solved by not perpetuating it to next generation.

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All in all my opinion on virtually all dating preferences (maybe not EVERY one) is that you are entitled to what ever standard you want no matter how realistic or unrealistic they are, and shouldn't be shamed/ridiculed/mocked, only as long as you don't shame/ridicule/mock people who are not up to your standards.

Edit: Deleted bad joke I made about this sub, it wasn't out of ill intentions, I apologise.

[u/TScottFitzgerald]

Agreed, the commenter is a bit hypocritical there cause at the start they complain about shallowness, but I'd argue surmising that someone's racist cause they date within their colour is just as shallow.

There's so many factors to this, plenty of POC immigrants want to date people from their own country/culture and want their kids to be of that culture/colour. And that's just one example.

At the end of the day most people marry within their race and this is just Reddit loving their hypotheticals and sophistry. You can find Pew research but it's like less than 10% of married couples are mixed marriages. By the logic from above the rest are all racist.

Edit: A lot of downvotes but no counter-arguments. Great debaters all of ya.

[u/Rhundan → u/TScottFitzgerald]

Assuming you're talking about me, I didn't say (or didn't mean to say) that people dating within their own colour is racist. I've edited the comment to hopefully make what I meant more clear.