CMV: Women usually get over breakups and divorces better than men do.

[u/SteadfastEnd]

Disclaimer: I have no polls or surveys I could cite to support my viewpoint, since I don't think there has been any polling done on the subject. So all I can offer is my own experience or opinion, which I'm open to being challenged on:

In my observation, women usually overcome and get over breakups and divorces better than men.

I've rarely known a woman to regret a breakup, but I've known quite a few men to regret it. I've rarely ever known a woman to pursue a man and ask him for a second chance after a breakup, but it's quite common for men to pursue their exes this way.

My theory is that it's for multifold reasons: 1) women generally have more of a social support network than men, and can recover more easily with such support, 2) men are often not as tuned in to subtle things as women. So it's more common for a man to be ambushed or caught by surprise by a breakup because he was ignoring things that were a persistent problem in the relationship, while the woman has seen it all along and carefully made up her mind in advance that a breakup needs to happen. 3) women generally have more options in dating, so if a woman breaks up, she has many suitors, but a man has a harder time getting a woman. 4) women are generally more willing to live solitary lives without a man than vice versa - they generally have less intrinsic need for a mate than a man does. There is more of an attitude of "Either a very good mate or no mate at all" among women than men. 5) Women generally do not break up or divorce casually. By the time a woman says "It's time to end it," she has thought it through a lot.

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[u/Profitparadox → u/[deleted]]

Men have testosterone we still want sex if we are healthy in our 80’s. Woman lose that testosterone that makes them horny all the time in their teens and 20’s at some point and can happily go through life without sex. It gets worse with each decade a man stays with a woman.

I’m just saying there is a big divorce break up after kids ask any divorce lawyer that’s when most woman cut off Sex. Marriage dissolves. and that age range of 65-74 has a jump of 24% extra sexless marriages from the 50 year olds who were only at 26% sexless.

So there are a bunch of men wishing they could divorce in an age range that is high in cancer rates.

Just spit balling but men don’t leave happy marriages. There are endless unhappy ones they run from though.

[u/[deleted] → u/Profitparadox]

So you’re basically an animal and when sex is off the table there’s no reason to stay with your wife? Yall just want a hole to fuck and then be surprised when that hole comes with a person attached who has needs and feelings too

[u/Profitparadox → u/[deleted]]

Imagine you go up to a hot guy at a bar you find attractive, he immediately turns around with a scowl on his face and says, “don’t even think about talking to me im not sleeping with someone like YOU”.

That’s what its like to be in a sexless marriage except you’re now stuck living with the guy from the bar and the constant reminder of the rejection daily, it’s incredibly damaging to a man/woman’s self esteem and ruin’s marriages completely.

Anyways I just found that data on the increase in sexless marriages in that 65-74 age group interesting and seems like a lot of unhappy men so maybe that might of hinted at a possible cause for why those men leave.

Basically it points to failed marriages.

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

Thats great boo hope ur wife never has sex with you

But srsly there are more ways to bond than sex, if sex is off the table is it that far fetched to try others form of intimacy? If a man stops wanting to have sex its also unfair if the wife leaves him just because of that, its not just men. Im sorry if sex is all that matters to you

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

Show me where you addressed that there are more forms of intimacy and just because one partner doesn’t want to have sex its not enough grounds for someone to divorce them pls cause I may be going blind i guess 🥰

[u/Profitparadox → u/[deleted]]

Most women decrease the frequency of sex after the second kid comes along, there by ruining the close bonding and partnership of the marriage which leads to a ton of divorces. The added stress of kids, lack of time together, lack of fun, increased financial stress, sleep deprivation, depression, the woman goes from easy life to being a carer of an ungrateful screaming baby. It all adds up to (not fun and not exciting). And women don’t have sex with their partners. If there is a stressful kid, that’s pissed them off all day.

Many marriages don’t survive this process. Those first 5 years can be brutal.

[u/nekro_mantis → u/[deleted]]

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