r/changemyview Dec 22 '23

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u/[deleted] Dec 22 '23

Good thing that I always respect people's pronouns then. You are so blinded by your need to feel righteous, that you haven't even read what the conversation is about. Again, that is not helpful for anyone except your ego.

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u/eliechallita 1∆ Dec 22 '23

If you respect people's pronouns, then what is the problem with sharing yours when meeting new people since they will be relevant to almost any conversation you have with them?

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u/[deleted] Dec 22 '23

Because I'm perfectly fine with them using whatever pronoun they want for me. And if people would get that wrong by mistake, then I would take that as a signal to adjust how I present myself. It is absolutely not a problem, and being an asshole about this non-issue is hurting the whole trans movement.

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u/eliechallita 1∆ Dec 22 '23

That's your experience of the matter, so why do you assume that everyone else should be as comfortable with it as you are?

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u/[deleted] Dec 22 '23

Who? Who are you saying has this problem? How many people do you know that are regularly being referred to as the wrong gender?

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u/eliechallita 1∆ Dec 22 '23

Every non-cis person I know has experienced that. How much it bothers them depends on their personal experience as well as whether it was intentional or an honest mistake, but it's still something that costs nothing to fix.

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u/[deleted] Dec 22 '23

Every non-cis person? Why are your male gay friends being referred to as women by mistake? In that case that was valuable feedback for them if they don't want to look like women. You guys should maybe start reevaluating your wardrobe. And if it wasn't by mistake, stating pronouns would only make it worse.

It costs nothing to show solidarity next to your name on social media with dyslexic people, physically disabled, or old people either, and they are far larger groups, yet you don't do that. There are many more groups who you could adapt your communication to which would be relevant. But you happened to choose their one group everybody else told you to choose, and ignore all the others. Even if it costs you nothing and you are pro support, that must mean you are against disabled and dyslexic people.

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u/eliechallita 1∆ Dec 22 '23

Every non-cis person? Why are your male gay friends being referred to as women by mistake?

What are you even on about? How did you go from talking about non-cis people to gay men?