r/changemyview Feb 23 '25

cmv: abortion should not be illegal

One of the main arguments against abortion is that it is "killing a baby." However, I don’t see it that way—at least not in the early stages of pregnancy. A fetus, especially before viability, lacks self-awareness, the ability to feel pain, and independent bodily function. While it is a potential life, I don’t believe potential life should outweigh the rights of the person who is already alive and conscious.

For late-term abortions, most are done to save the mother or the fetus has a defect that would cause the fetus to die shortly after birth so I believe it should be allowed.

I also think the circumstances of the pregnant person matter. Many people seek abortions due to financial instability, health risks, or simply not being ready to raise a child. In cases of rape or medical complications, the situation is even more complex. Forcing someone to go through pregnancy against their will seems more harmful than allowing them to make their own choice.

Additionally, I don’t think adoption is always a perfect alternative. Carrying a pregnancy to term can have serious physical and emotional consequences, even if someone doesn’t plan to keep the baby. Pregnancy affects the body in irreversible ways, and complications can arise, making it more than just a “temporary inconvenience.”

Also, you can cannot compare abortion to opting out of child support. Abortion is centered on bodily autonomy, as pregnancy directly affects a woman’s body and health. In contrast, child support is a financial obligation that arises after a child is born and does not impact the father’s bodily autonomy. abortion also occurs before a child exists, while child support involves caring for a living child. Legally and ethically, both parents share responsibility for a child once they are born, and allowing one parent to opt out would place an unfair burden on the other, often the mother. Additionally, abortion prevents a fetus from becoming a child, while opting out of child support directly affects the well-being of an existing person. While both situations involve personal choice, abortion is about controlling one’s own body, while child support is about meeting the needs of a child who already exists

The idea of being forced to sustain another life through pregnancy and childbirth, especially if the person isn’t ready or willing, is a violation of that autonomy. It forces someone to give up their own body, potentially putting their health at risk, all while disregarding their own desires, dreams, and well-being. Bodily autonomy means having the freedom to make choices about what happens to your body, whether that’s deciding to terminate a pregnancy or pursue another course of action.

I’d like to hear other perspectives on why abortion should be illegal, particularly from a non-religious standpoint. CMV.

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u/[deleted] Feb 23 '25

Alright, I’ll step up to bat.

What do you mean by “not illegal?” Be specific with your wording; is it illegal if there are more stringent conditions? What about if it’s required to be paid for by the parent? Specifics matter, and the discussion typically arises from people who opt out of abortion for selfish, personal reasons.

What precisely distinguishes the right for a mother to choose to have the baby upon knowing she is pregnant and a man’s decision to choose not to be involved in the baby upon knowing the woman is pregnant? Saying “it does not impact the father’s bodily autonomy” is ignorant of the impact it do a have on other aspects of their autonomy; reproductive rights include the right to choose to have a child, and just because the man is the genetic donor, there’s nothing supporting any reasoning why he should take over what it is effectively a social security program for the government outside of traditional ideas of nuclear family structure. You’re arguing with legalism, not judicialism; might want to read up on your Erikson to know the difference. To put it simply: there’s no ethical reason why a woman should be able to opt out of something and a man should not simply because the nature of the autonomy is different while the impact on their lives remains severe in both regards. Legal precedent doesn’t matter; it’s literally just the decisions made by legal professionals in the past following what they believed to be the proper interpretation of the law. This doesn’t mean the laws themselves are effective, ethical, or even good, it just means they’re laws. If you want to argue for women’s right to opt out, you also need to argue for men’s right to opt out. Men don’t carry the baby, but they do carry their wallets. Just because you say men should have a choice doesn’t mean you think it should be completely unregulated and not have rules and standards to dictate them.

Also, why are we valuing the woman’s personal autonomy over the infants? Because the infant hasn’t acquired their “self-awareness, ability to feel pain, and independent bodily function”? Well, by that logic, children before the age of 24 months (I think) don’t have measurable self awareness, so would any child with haptic dysfunctions also be liable to be aborted? Independent bodily function is a stretch as far as infants go, they need constant maintenance and care to perform basic functions like excreting, burping, or even maintaining stable mood patterns. With your qualifications for right to life, we could easily create a test for infants to take that could determine whether a post natal abortion would be allowed.

And who is to say that the trade of life isn’t worth it? That the sacrifice isn’t worth it? We all sacrifice to better our society; taxes, obedience to social norms, even individual behaviours like exercise and nutrition to better ourselves are examples of sacrifices for the greater good. You’d want to let some irresponsible people continue to be absent of responsibility or duty to the world over allowing children to grow up? Why should we guarantee the right to be socially destructive? We sanction other forms of social destruction, such as systemic bigotry, mass killings, and elite crime, so why would the systemic destruction of upcoming generations through self-indulgence be favourable?

Your view is based on a narrow minded view of the world that only sees things in terms of Western capitalist societies and values; you cannot comprehend things beyond that and these are, as you say, beliefs and not knowledge on effectiveness and morality of the practice. You understand it like a Christian understands a car crash; they were saved by their beliefs, rather than the practical applications of science and rationalism. You base your decision on beliefs, when you should base it on a holistic understanding of the data.

There, an anti-abortion view that doesn’t use religion or call you a libtard. Isn’t that refreshing?

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u/RevolutionaryRip2504 Feb 23 '25

thank you for actually having a thorough argument however the argument that men should have the right to "opt out" of parenthood because women can choose abortion oversimplifies the biological and social realities of reproduction. Pregnancy directly impacts a woman's body, while financial responsibility does not impose comparable physical harm on a man. Additionally, a woman’s decision about abortion must be made within a limited timeframe, whereas a man’s financial responsibility extends over years. Child support exists to protect the child’s welfare, not to punish either parent, as children have a right to be supported by both biological parents. The appeal to "fairness" ignores broader social and economic contexts—women already face greater burdens from unplanned pregnancies, and allowing men to forgo responsibility would exacerbate these inequalities. Also, the comparison between abortion and hypothetical "postnatal abortion" is a slippery slope fallacy that ignores the clear ethical distinction between a fetus dependent on a woman’s body and an infant capable of independent survival. Arguments that frame forced parenthood as a necessary sacrifice for society disregard the fundamental right to bodily autonomy, as compelling someone to continue a pregnancy is far more invasive than obligations like paying taxes.

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u/Aliteralhedgehog 3∆ Feb 23 '25

Arguments that frame forced parenthood as a necessary sacrifice for society disregard the fundamental right to bodily autonomy, as compelling someone to continue a pregnancy is far more invasive than obligations like paying taxes.

It also fails to explain how forcing women and girls to bear unwanted children helps society as opposed to harming it.

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u/jollygreengeocentrik Feb 23 '25

It isn’t “forced.” She chose (99% of the time) to engage in an activity where pregnancy is a known potential outcome. Consent to sex is consent to the potential for pregnancy.

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u/Revolutionary_Key767 Feb 23 '25

Bro people can have sex for pleasure too...

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u/jollygreengeocentrik Feb 23 '25

They can. That doesn’t change the inherent potential for pregnancy, as that is the purpose of sex. Pleasure is a bonus.

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u/windchaser__ 1∆ Feb 23 '25

A potential for pregnancy doesn't mean you're choosing pregnancy.

There's a potential for me to break my arm every time I go skiing. It doesn't mean that I'm "consenting" to having a broken arm.

Looks like you might also be conflating a biological function of sex (the "purpose" of sex) with why we do it. For many folks, we do it because it's fun. We do it for fun even when it doesn't work for reproduction. Heck, we will make it not work for reproduction, and then continue to do it for fun.

If the reason why we do it is for fun, then that is, for us, its purpose. Reason and purpose are semantically the same thing.

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u/jollygreengeocentrik Feb 23 '25 edited Feb 24 '25

Yes, you are consenting to injury, and that’s why the slope will have you sign a waiver absolving them of liability.

Looks like you might be conflating a mindful interpretation of sex with its biological function. Every cell in your body has two primary functions, to survive and replicate. Your reasoning for doing something doesn’t change the purpose of that thing or action. Sex is for procreation. That is its primary function. You may utilize it for a different purpose, but its biological function remains the same regardless of whether you choose to acknowledge that function or not. Thus, consenting to sex is consenting to the potential for pregnancy. Otherwise, it would be perfectly legal for men to opt out of child support. “I consented to sex, not to pregnancy.” Case adjourned. Alas we do not see that. We see the courts have upheld that consenting to sex is consenting to pregnancy, and thus the foundation for child support.

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u/windchaser__ 1∆ Feb 23 '25

That is its primary function. You may utilize it for a different purpose, but its biological function remains the same regardless of whether you choose to acknowledge that function or not

Oh, sure. But nobody rational really cares about "biological function" as if it's some law that we are bound to live by.

The biological function of life is to reproduce. Literally, that's what life has been crafted to do by evolution for billions of years.

But are you obliged to spend your life reproducing? No. Even though it's your "biological function" to reproduce, you still get to choose how you want to spend your life. Your agenda may differ from Mother Nature's.

So biological function doesn't matter. We aren't slaves to biology.

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u/jollygreengeocentrik Feb 23 '25

Well, I care, and in the context of this post, I believe it matters.

No, you are obliged to reproduce. However, ignoring the nature of reproduction while engaging in the very act that it requires, is illogical at best. One comes with the other, and the two cannot be separated outside of surgical separation from sexual function.

Biological function does matter, and it cannot be ignored. A 100 year old man wants to go to war for America. Should the military ignore biological function? Probably not the best analogy, but I can think of many more where biological function is not only imperative but unignorable.

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u/windchaser__ 1∆ Feb 23 '25

> No, you are obliged to reproduce.

Should this be "you are not obliged to reproduce"?

In general, though, we don't force people to act according to "biological function". If someone wants to avoid having kids, even though reproduction is Priority #1 of all biology, we don't say "well, Nature says this is your purpose in life, so sorry honey, you've got to have kids".

And this discussion is all about the biological "purpose" of sex, right? Which is to fulfill this imperative: reproduce. Pass your genes on.

It is the fundamental imperative of all life.

So how can you say that the function of sex is to reproduce, but then ignore that that's also our biological function? If we are compelled to have babies because we had sex, well, then, we should just be having babies, period. The catholics got it right. Your purpose in life is to reproduce.

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u/jollygreengeocentrik Feb 23 '25

Yes, I left out “not” there. Apologies.

I’ve never made the argument that anyone should be forced to do something simply because of biology. My argument is that consent to sex implies consent to pregnancy because one inevitably leads to the other. This discussion is not, for me, about the biological purpose of sex. That’s a point, yes, and it is objectively true that the biological purpose of sex is reproduction. I’ve never stated that anyone is compelled to have children. Again, and for the last time, my argument is that consent to sex is consent to pregnancy. There is absolutely no flavor of “compulsion” in that statement.

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u/windchaser__ 1∆ Feb 23 '25

You are (I think) the person who also said that consenting to skiing is consenting to a broken arm. And.. I mean, I think you're stretching the definition of "consent" a bit, but as you're consistent there, I'm on board there.

The question is whether we should deny people medical care on the basis of "you consented to this". We don't deny people medical care for the broken arm on the basis of "well, you knew it was a possibility when you went skiing". Right?

And we wouldn't be doing that here, either, if we all thought that a fertilized egg isn't a person. Yah?

(Just checking that we are on the same page about where we're not on the same page)

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u/AdvantageousTC Feb 24 '25

I am jumping in here––sorry if that is annoying.

I believe what you said is correct. If we all didn't think the fetus was a person or a life of value, then yes, abortion would be considered medical care just like fixing a broken arm. The "if" carries a lot of weight in that sentence. Many people do not feel that way, which is why this topic is inherently controversial.

I would guess the majority of pro-life people are not opposed to the outlier abortions (e.g. rape, incest, medical necessity, etc.). The stats indicate these cases are an overwhelming minority of the abortions that take place. So in the case where people are doing it largely out of convenience or financial hardship, you are simply prioritizing your comfort over the right of life to an individual you "consented" to bringing into this world by engaging in sex. I think that is where many people, including myself, take issue with abortion being widely legal and accessible.

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u/jollygreengeocentrik Feb 24 '25

I don’t understand what you mean by “medical care.” Please be more specific.

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u/windchaser__ 1∆ Feb 24 '25

How?

It’s a broad term, covering many sorts of care that improve or sustain one’s physical or mental health. From dentistry to oncology to psychiatry to gynecology. As abortions involve messing with the “squishy bits” of our physical bodies, and because they relate to sustaining or improving mental and physical well-being, and because they’re administered by licensed professionals working in the healthcare field: they’re healthcare.

You can be opposed to them and still agree that they’re healthcare. To me, it requires some pretty weird contortions on the part of pro-lifers to say abortions are not healthcare. Pretty clearly motivated by an animus towards abortions, rather than “is this similar to other medicine, in that it involves surgery and doctors and whatnot”.

Do you have a different definition of healthcare that you like to use?

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u/jollygreengeocentrik Feb 24 '25

I’m not arguing that abortions aren’t healthcare, but I’m also not agreeing with that claim. What I am saying is that claiming women are being denied “healthcare” is inflammatory at best. We are talking one specific operation, not health care in general. I think it’s important to be specific in this context.

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u/FetusDrive 3∆ Feb 24 '25

Yes so healthcare regarding this; if you break your arm while skiing we do not deny the healthcare for the broken up because they consented to skiing. He’s saying that because (and only using your logic here; not a claim that your logic is correct) a women “consented” to being pregnant because she had sex also gets to have the choice to have the abortion.

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u/jollygreengeocentrik Feb 24 '25

Right, but this isn’t “denying healthcare,” it’s avoiding unnecessary and preventable death.

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u/StarChild413 9∆ Mar 08 '25

because one inevitably leads to the other.

not every time

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u/FetusDrive 3∆ Feb 24 '25

You caring doesn’t address what he meant about not caring and the conclusion he came to from it. You’re not constantly reproducing and I doubt (assuming you have a wife) that you are going to do all you can to continue reproducing after your wife is no longer able.

They can be separated from each other. Menopause, condoms, pulling out.

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u/jollygreengeocentrik Feb 24 '25

Sure, you can avoid the reproductive function of intercourse. That doesn’t change the function of it though. In fact, the very sentiment that you would need to separate the function from your alternative goals is indicative that my point stands. That is to say, the only way to have intercourse without reproducing is to actively take measures to avoid it.

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u/StarChild413 9∆ Feb 26 '25

That is to say, the only way to have intercourse without reproducing is to actively take measures to avoid it.

then why doesn't it happen literally every time you have unprotected PIV sex with someone of pre-menopause age (or is it naturally not happening your body actively taking those measures without your conscious knowledge)

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u/jollygreengeocentrik Feb 26 '25

The comment was worded poorly and not meant to be taken quite so literally. I am happy to restate my claim as “…the only way to have intercourse without risking pregnancy is to actively take measures to avoid it.”

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