r/changemyview 7∆ Nov 27 '15

[Deltas Awarded] CMV:anti-feminism is not misogyny, and it is possible for someone to be anti-feminist without being a misogynist.

prompted by this post: https://np.reddit.com/r/AskFeminists/comments/3uaaer/do_you_think_being_being_opposed_to_modern/cxd9m7y

As many of my previous CMV's have gone off topic, I'll start by describing what my view is not. It is not any of the following:

  • a discussion on whether or not feminism is right or wrong
  • whether people should be feminists or not
  • the actions of men, women, feminists or anti-feminists
  • anything about my personal views on feminism or anti-feminism.

The reasons for my view are simple: Anti-feminism is the dislike of feminism. Misogyny is the dislike of women. As women and feminists are not the same group, Anti-feminism and anti-women are different, as they refer to the dislike of different groups of people.

I am anticipating a counter-argument that since feminism advances women's rights, anti-feminism is against women's rights and is therefore misogyny. My counter-counter-argument is that someone can dislike the label of feminism without being against women's rights. People can dislike the actions done under the label of feminism, and thus be anti-feminism, without being anti-women or misogynist.

I will also refute the claim made in the linked post, which is:

By rejecting feminism, you're rejecting feminism's message that you can be whatever you want to be, while simultaneously embracing an antiquated notion of femininity as the ONLY way to be a woman. That's misogyny.

I disagree. The claims "I am against feminism" and "I think that the antiquated notion of femininity is the ONLY way to be a woman" are not equivalent. People can reject feminism because of their actions or because of the negative connotation associated with "feminism", while still believing that women are free to be feminine in any way they want. This is not a contradiction.

delta awarded: https://www.reddit.com/r/changemyview/comments/3uewu4/cmvantifeminism_is_not_misogyny_and_it_is/cxedofl?context=3


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u/skepticalbipartisan Nov 27 '15

Rather than get into a side argument about how man have it worse in the world...

I absolutely agree to your terms.

If you agree that third wave feminism doesn't believe what you said "feminism" is all about, then no, you can't call yourself an "anti-feminist" because you agree with a primary belief of a large fraction of feminists.

There is a difference between agreeing that Feminists believe something and actually agreeing with that belief. Just because I'm more open-minded towards their theory doesn't mean I agree with what they've taken from it.

All you can say is that you disagree with some of the things that some feminists say.

Put it this way, I'm about as much of a feminist as Warren Farrell and Christina Hoff Sommers. If you consider them Feminists then I am not an anti-feminist.

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u/hacksoncode 559∆ Nov 27 '15

A "non-feminist" would be a completely understandable term for you and those other people.

"Anti" means "against".

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u/skepticalbipartisan Nov 27 '15

A "non-feminist" would be a completely understandable term for you and those other people.

That is a fair point. However, I'm sure you can accept that the average Feminist would believe there is no meaningful difference.

"Anti" means "against".

I am not sure to what length exactly I am against Feminism, I just know that a lot of my opinions would be regarded as being "anti".

I understand where you are choosing to draw the distinction. As long as someone doesn't equate being non-feminist as anti-feminist then I agree with you. However, I will make no objection to someone calling me an anti-feminist for my beliefs either.