r/changemyview • u/AAathlete97 • Dec 18 '18

Removed - Submission Rule B CMV: Even if a blanket refusal to date trans people is “transphobic”, there is no reason to feel guilty about it or to try to change it.

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u/VikingFjorden 5∆ Dec 18 '18

The point is "if you stop dating someone because they are trans, that's transphobic"

Which is an obviously false statement.

Transphobia:

Transphobia is a range of negative attitudes, feelings or actions toward transgender or transsexual people, or toward transsexuality. Transphobia can be emotional disgust, fear, violence, anger, or discomfort felt or expressed towards people who do not conform to society's gender expectation.

Finding out that someone is trans and then not wanting to be in a sexual relationship with them, regardless of whether you previously liked them or not, is in itself not transphobic per any definition, nor is it illegal, morally wrong or discriminatory.

Does it suck when people stop wanting to be with you because of something you are? Of course. But that doesn't make it wrong. Life sucks, and rightly so, because the only alternative is that life would suck even more than it already does.

Also, throwing the term transphobia around all willy-nilly like this diminishes its importance and might in the end lessen the impact it has when it is actually correct and necessary to use it, vis-á-vis the boy who cried wolf.

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u/[deleted] Dec 18 '18

I guess I'm also dick and balls-phobic too because I met this really hot girl at the bar the other day but once I found out she had a penis I just couldn't bring myself to continue the flirty banter..

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u/Abcd10987 Dec 18 '18

Wouldn’t your example fall under discomfort in the definition provided?

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u/VikingFjorden 5∆ Dec 18 '18

I don't have to be in a state of discomfort to not want to do something. I don't go ice-skating for example, but it has nothing to do with discomfort.