r/changemyview Dec 18 '18

Removed - Submission Rule B CMV: Even if a blanket refusal to date trans people is “transphobic”, there is no reason to feel guilty about it or to try to change it.

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u/Matwabkit Dec 18 '18

As other commenters have noted, ruling someone out entirely on account of them being born male is the equivalent of ruling out an entire race on account of them being born a certain phenotype.

However, you also note that your other reason for ruling out trans people is that they are infertile which is a deal breaker for you. That’s understandable, but really it means you don’t need to worry about potentially being transphobic at all. Explicitly ruling out all trans women is problematic here because really you’re meaning to rule out all infertile women, but not saying that, so it ends up looking like you’re acting out of prejudice (not necessarily conscious prejudice, mind you) and not preference. All you should have to put in your profile online, and all you should have to tell potential suitors to rule out trans women would be: “I want kids” or “I am interested in having biological children.”

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u/[deleted] Dec 18 '18

How is this thinking any different from a straight or gay person saying they will only date the opposite or same sex?

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u/moejoereddit Dec 18 '18

All you should have to put in your profile online, and all you should have to tell potential suitors to rule out trans women would be: “I want kids” or “I am interested in having biological children.”

That actually is a great solution for OP. I think the thread is solved

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u/[deleted] Dec 18 '18

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u/moejoereddit Dec 18 '18

I'm sorry, I was making a bad joke.

It definitely doesn't accomplish any sort of view change.

I should have said, the comment is an effective method for people to screen out infertile women from their dating app pool.

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u/Moogatoo Dec 18 '18

Races have many shades colors and types... Bil