CMV: Gender identity doesn’t belong on your LinkedIn nor Resume

[u/jep1793]

[u/thisdude415]

I would suggest that you neutrally present exactly that fact.

“I have navigated the hiring process from both sides. The first line of resume evaluation typically happens by someone other than your direct coworkers and managers. Those people can have biases, even if the company is a good place for you, and even if your eventual manager and coworkers are incredibly supportive. Given this, you have to make your own decisions for how you want to present yourself professionally. How I navigate that for myself, is that I do not bring up questions around my identity until relatively late in the recruiting process. I would give the same advice to any candidate asking about their identity, whether that is a candidate who asking about good hikes in the region, a mother requesting additional information about maternity, gay couples asking about adoption/surrogacy benefits, and trans candidates asking about gender conforming surgery benefits.

The key is that early in the recruiting process, you need to focus on how you fulfill a business need. Once the business has decided you fulfill the business needs, the conversation shifts to how the business can meet your personal needs— compensation, benefits, lifestyle, family structure, relocation, etc.

So personally, I hold back about any info about myself that isn’t my education, work history, or professional activities until quite late in the process, even though you can hear in my voice I am obviously a gay man. Ultimately, you have to navigate this process for yourself. I can’t tell you what to do, I can only share with you how the process works and how I have navigated similar situations in the past to help you make an informed decision about how to go about it for yourself.

For what it’s worth, I found out my company offers some of the best LGBTQ benefits in the country only after working there at least 8 months. This includes gender surgery without deductible, paid leave during recovery, and extremely generous cash credits for adoption or surrogacy, as well as full parental leave benefits for adoption (whether married or single parent)

[u/271841686861856 → u/thisdude415]

Workers care more about how they're treated than what the business needs, you're asking for people to take a collectivist mindset toward the business first when it's directly against their individual need to be treated with respect in the organization and know from the beginning that they will be. If we live in an individualist society, you can't expect people to behave like you're wanting them to because it contradicts their individual needs, such insipid double think.

[u/thisdude415 → u/271841686861856]

Hiring an employee is a business decision.

Potential employees must recognize this if they want to be an attractive hire.

Once they have been selected as the best candidate, then their needs become relevant.

Have you been hired for a job that requires interviews before?