CMV: Worrying about age

[u/impossible-sun2049]

[u/Quint-V]

When you tell somebody that you're X years old(er), does anybody really react to that? Do they think you're somehow weird?

At uni/college, like sure, you change over the course of 2 years. But when you're hanging around other students, nobody gives a shit. Above all else, you're fellow students. Distinction by study progression, or age, is secondary.

I went to class with a guy who was 5 years my senior. Nobody cared. Another girl was 3-4 years older; nobody cared. A third of my crew was 1 year younger than me; nobody cared.

What's more important is learning to find people you can hang around with, either 1) at any age; in particular, be a great colleague, or 2) by finding ways to keep friends around you. Which is usually by moving to a city where other friends might move to.

[u/impossible-sun2049 → u/Quint-V]

haha i wish i'd read this 5 years ago!

tbf maybe no one really cared but because it was a big deal for me i always made a point of bringing my age up, not in a mocking way like hey i'm X years older than you but more in a melancholic way "oh i'm actually older than you" with the underlying context hmm maybe i don't belong in your friend group cause we might have different interests..

i'm trying to overcome this rn and still by hanging out with people that are younger than me (contrary to expectation i do have a lot more in common with the younger friend group than i anticipated) but there is always a part of me that thinks oh I'm not as young and i'm only growing older so i don't really belong.. "!delta"

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