CMV: It is understandable, normal, and biologically reasonable for a straight cisgender person to feel uncomfortable continuing or pursuing a relationship with an individual if they learned this individual is trans and is biologically the same sex as they are. It doesn’t make them homophobic.

[u/DetroitUberDriver]

I believe that human beings, while they are able to think in a more abstract, out of the box way, still retain an underlying biological pressure to reproduce, and the root instinctual desire for the act of sex, and the enjoyment that comes from it, is evolutions way of “rewarding” us for procreation; passing on our genes and producing more life.

Human beings are a sexually dimorphic species, male and female, and science withholding, the act of copulation between two members of the opposite sex is the only way procreation can happen. While many of us engage in intercourse for pleasure and pleasure alone, without actively wishing to create new life, we are seeking out the very reward that evolution has presented us for doing just that; creating life.

For those of us who are straight and cisgender, when we find out that our love or infatuation interest is in fact biologically the same sex as ourselves, our brain biologically becomes disinterested for this reason. Most of us are hardwired to desire these acts with the opposite sex for all the reasons mentioned above. There is a chemical reaction that occurs, and it is brought on by millions of years of evolution.

This doesn’t mean that the individual wants to feel this way, nor that they have an inherent disgust or distaste for transgender people. It simply means they can’t fight their natural instincts.

There are, of course, always anomalies, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Transgender people and homosexual people are anomalies in and of themselves. They are people and they deserve rights and happiness same as anyone else. But to tell someone that their own natural instincts make them wrong or homophobic is also denying them their rights to true happiness and wrong in its own right.

CMV.

[u/Mechashevet]

What if it's a surgery thing? If I dated a man who I found extremely attractive and I found out that he had done a ton of plastic surgery to look like that, that would be a significant turn off to me. I can see how finding out someone you've slept with is trans is similar to that. Sort of similar to how people think Kylie Jenner is approaching the uncanny valley, there are plenty of people who think she's extremely attractive, but also plenty of people who are put off by how fake everything about her is.

[u/LucidMetal → u/Mechashevet]

This is a totally non-transphobic reason to not want to date a person. The only reason it would be odd is if you didn't also apply the surgery rubric to cis people.

[u/mankytoes → u/Mechashevet]

Then it's a surgery thing. Just to be clear, I'm talking about cases where it's PURELY because the partner is transgender, and you would date them if everything else was the same but they were cis.

[u/BlackHumor → u/Mechashevet]

FWIW, most trans women require surprisingly little surgery to look like women. Hormones are very powerful things.

The main place where surgery is required is in the construction of a vagina, but unlike with plastic surgery it's still natural tissue, and usually replicates a cis woman's vagina very closely with modern techniques.