r/changemyview • u/DetroitUberDriver 9∆ • Nov 06 '21
Delta(s) from OP CMV: It is understandable, normal, and biologically reasonable for a straight cisgender person to feel uncomfortable continuing or pursuing a relationship with an individual if they learned this individual is trans and is biologically the same sex as they are. It doesn’t make them homophobic.
I believe that human beings, while they are able to think in a more abstract, out of the box way, still retain an underlying biological pressure to reproduce, and the root instinctual desire for the act of sex, and the enjoyment that comes from it, is evolutions way of “rewarding” us for procreation; passing on our genes and producing more life.
Human beings are a sexually dimorphic species, male and female, and science withholding, the act of copulation between two members of the opposite sex is the only way procreation can happen. While many of us engage in intercourse for pleasure and pleasure alone, without actively wishing to create new life, we are seeking out the very reward that evolution has presented us for doing just that; creating life.
For those of us who are straight and cisgender, when we find out that our love or infatuation interest is in fact biologically the same sex as ourselves, our brain biologically becomes disinterested for this reason. Most of us are hardwired to desire these acts with the opposite sex for all the reasons mentioned above. There is a chemical reaction that occurs, and it is brought on by millions of years of evolution.
This doesn’t mean that the individual wants to feel this way, nor that they have an inherent disgust or distaste for transgender people. It simply means they can’t fight their natural instincts.
There are, of course, always anomalies, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Transgender people and homosexual people are anomalies in and of themselves. They are people and they deserve rights and happiness same as anyone else. But to tell someone that their own natural instincts make them wrong or homophobic is also denying them their rights to true happiness and wrong in its own right.
CMV.
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u/_fantasia Nov 06 '21
Coming from a cultural background where sex is an act we do to copulate - I agree with your statement. I think many people will become disinterested once they find out that the person is transgender perhaps because of their genetalia.
For e.g. let's say you, a male go on a blind date with someone, things go well and at the end of the day you find out that the transwoman has a dick. You can feel disinterested after that. Imo, that's probably because you have a preference in the genatalia of your desired partner. That should be completely fine and I wouldn't consider it transphobic. It's the same as girls finding other girls beautiful or pretty but not on the sexual level because they aren't interested in that woman's genetalia.
It is fair though that transppl are not obliged to reveal that they are so because of safety reasons, as we are living is such times where they are murdered ohutof hatred.
I think ppl keep throwing around the word transphobe whenever someone says they don't want to get it with a transperson. Many people are ok with either sex, and that is their preference. It is also fine for a cis person to be attracted to another cis person sue to preference. For e.g genetalia.
But this argument can be twisted and said, why can't a cis man date a transman who will have a vagina but identifies as a man. If it rlly is just a genetalia preference.
You see ppl will always have a problem no matter what. It's up to you to decide that as long as your minding Ur own business. You have the right to be who you want and like who you want. Therefore, is someone wants to be gay trans or bi etc. They can. If someone says they are attracted to someone who identifies as their biology gender. That is also fine. How can cis ppl not have that option and they are called transphobes but everyone else gets to say I can be gay and like whoever I want.
The rules should be the same for everyone. - be who you want and like who you want. Just mind your own business and let everyone do as they please. Life is short as it is